leolady77 Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 Hello All, I am new to the forum. I decided to join because I've been in a LDR for the last few years. Longer than I'd like actually! We have known each other for almost 12 yrs, and have "offically" been together for almost 10 yrs! He's my best friend, and honestly I cant imagine my life w/out him. Let me tell you, this man and I have been through it and back around again. We havent always been good to each other, and possibly for each other, but something always brings us back together. There has been alot of growing pains. And, more to come Im sure. It's hard being in a LDR, it's not for the faint of heart for sure!! I miss him so much sometimes it hurts, and I wonder when we will be together again. Anyway, I wanted to join someplace were I could talk to those in my same shoes. My friends dont always "get it" or understand. Thanks for listening!
cerridwen Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 Welcome, leolady. Don't hesitate to unburden yourself.
candy324986 Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 (edited) I know exactly how you feel im in a long distance relationship and i miss him like crazy and i cant talk to my friends about it cause all there relationships are within a walking distance. If you really miss him why dont you guys make Skype, oovoo or video chat and have a cyber date or something ? or maybe video chatting while doing something you both love or simply just video chating while sleep and pretend hes right there with you, just get creative thats the thing about LDRs the long distance part always sucks but some of the endless creative things you can do togetheir is always great. If you want more ways you can spent time with you LDR i found a website that could help you. 100 Things For LDR Couples To Do From A Distance! | Long Distance Relationship Activities | Loving From A Distance and just think about this whenever you miss him and long for him to be with you: everyday hat goes by without seeing your LDR partner is day closer to when you guys will finally meet. I hope you found this very helpful and just know if you have any problems dont be afraid to ask us LoveShackers (: Edited July 2, 2012 by candy324986
Author leolady77 Posted July 4, 2012 Author Posted July 4, 2012 Thanks for the support, I apperciate it. It's hard to find time to skype or any other thing that would keep us connected. There is a 3 hour time difference between us. So, lets just say we have totally different schedules...and it sucks. Today is one of the days I am feeling frustrated. I love my man, but he doesnt get it sometimes. Doesnt get that I need to feel supported, and feel a part of things. He gets so busy and lost in his own world, that I feel shut out of it sometimes. Can anyone else relate?!
Alban Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 I can relate .. My gf got out with her class in a trip and she put her phone at neglect all calls, and she is always in her world sometimes I think that I am not part of it :S .. Btw 10 YEARS ? Why don't you both think about moving somewhere together and do you ever think about getting married ? Having a family ? I would appreciate some more info's how long are you in LDR ? Has he ever asked you about the living together thing ? Marrying ?
Author leolady77 Posted July 4, 2012 Author Posted July 4, 2012 Thanks for the reply. We have lived together before, for 2 years in fact. And then I've been down to see him a few times as well, as well as a couple visits here. So, it hasnt always been a LDR. Timing is everything (I believe) and the timing for us to move back in together just hasnt been right, so to speak. Sorry to hear your frustrated w/your girlfriend, and I hope that changes soon!
Alban Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 LDR is very very difficult.. I can relate to you but I haven't been so long with her(3 1/2 years), though I know for sure that both of us are frustrated, we feel empty, we feel pain of the long wait, thinking is he/she thinking like me ? Are her/his feelings the same way as mine ? Never ending thoughts will distrupt your happiness , even though there may be nothing you will sometimes think there must be something ! I wish you a happy relationship with your BF, and hope for you to be together for the eternity .. may your feelings never change, both of you just need to commit to the relationship, and after 10 years I think you have had a succesful time together, I am happy for you
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