Sugarkane Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 I ran into them and I just wanted to give the Aholes a piece of my mind. I wanted to have a go at them for cutting me off when I was suicidal. Then supporting my ex and encouraging that assclown. When the Ahole dumped me by text. It just brought up so much anger, plus yet another jerk. i wish I didn't do the right thing. These people have no conscience at all.
Philosoraptor Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 Well I'll just say I'm proud of you for doing the right thing. He didn't win very good friends if they would do what they did, and they aren't much themselves for taking the actions that they have taken. Their "punishment", if you'd like to call it that, is having to live their lives being the people they are. While you on the other hand were able to do the right thing even if it would have been easier to give into the temptation to do the wrong thing. "The one who practices loving-kindness sleeps and wakes in comfort and has no bad dreams; he is dear to both humans and creatures; no danger harms him. His mind can be quickly concentrated, his expression is happy and serene. He dies without any confusion of mind. Loving-kindness protects him." - Anguttara Nikaya
wilsonx Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 I'm sure your ex will get the message, if he doesnt, im sure you will tell him soon enough.
Philosoraptor Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 I still regret it. Hopefully with time you'll understand that you did the best possible thing for yourself by not acting out.
Author Sugarkane Posted June 26, 2012 Author Posted June 26, 2012 Not really. What was the point? Just because my ex is an expert at manipulating people. Sometimes I think I should do The same.
Author Sugarkane Posted June 26, 2012 Author Posted June 26, 2012 Why are they so loyal to an Ahole? And they completely lied when they told me he was a great guy.
jquest1280 Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 no, don't act out. one day you will cool down and regret it. they will discuss your actions among themselves, and maybe laugh - no, don't give them any fodder. Don't waste time being angry at people who don't matter. file them away under people-I-am-going-to-get-even-with-someday-should-the-opportunity-present-itself. You'll be surprised, if/when this day comes, you may no longer be interested in getting even; you might even feel sorry for them.
Philosoraptor Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 Not really. What was the point? Just because my ex is an expert at manipulating people. Sometimes I think I should do The same. There is no need to lower yourself to a level of another person. Count it as a blessing that your ex and other negative people are now out of your life. Do you know how much I heard and the people I lost at the end of my longest relationship? I might as well have been called the antichrist the distorted views that were spread about me. I could have laid into her or even just defended myself, but I let it go. I figure anyone who would believe such stories about me didn't know me anyways so I was losing nothing. Why are they so loyal to an Ahole? And they completely lied when they told me he was a great guy. Because they're not very bright, simple enough.
Author Sugarkane Posted June 28, 2012 Author Posted June 28, 2012 I was thinking when people say "well they knew him first". Well why is that an excuse to be callous and have no conscience?
Philosoraptor Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 I was thinking when people say "well they knew him first". Well why is that an excuse to be callous and have no conscience? Most people follow the social "norms" rather than using their own mind. It's just how people and society has been conditioned. 1
Author Sugarkane Posted June 28, 2012 Author Posted June 28, 2012 I wondered if I had role NC if things would've been different.
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