I told my ex to stay with her boyfriend right now-did i do the right thing?

[flitzanu]

Thank you for the words, Million. It has been especially helpful to talk to you about this. You seem to realize and understand what I am going through right now more than anything. Your words in this last post really hit the mark for me, I think you are truly right.

 

I believe I am so angry and hurt right now because I realize she is trying to give her new relationship the respect it deserves, and respect is something she hasn't shown me much in the past. I mean look what she did here. She completely chose him over me, showed how much more she values his love above mine, and showed that it is him she cares about most.

 

I can't figure out why that is. For the life of me.

 

It's hard for me to wrap my brain around that, because we have loved each other for many years and she has only known this guy for a fraction of that. Why is her concern with him and not me? Why am I expendable and he not? I can't understand it, even though i know it's true.

 

She has proven that she is willing to sacrifice me for other men in her life. But she would never sacrifice them for me. She can just take me or leave me.

 

I feel so expendable to her. Why can she show respect to all these other people but never to me? It has to be me. It is not a good feeling.

 

are you suggesting she has no free will to make her own choices and decisions without your influence?

 

i don't like sour cream. so i don't eat it.

 

she doesn't want to be with you, so she isn't.

 

it's just that simple.