Acrobaticdealer Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 Hi, posted a similair topic a few days ago but it didn't get much a reply so I'll try putting in a bit more detail. Met a wonderful girl 3 years ago while she was over on holiday with my cousin. They are both Canadian and I'm from the UK. Had a holiday fling and I ended up going to see her 3 times in Canada. I have family there so I stayed with them. We continued our LDR until she decided to move here to be with me. All was going great and she moved in with me at my parents house. A year and a half later he's left We argued a fair amount but we also had a great relationship in other aspects. Most of the arguing revolved around me being selfish and not appreciating her enough. I thought I was but she obviously didn't. It was really dificult becuase every argument we had seemed to be intensified by the fact she had moved here away from her family and friends. I was always apologising and I guess she eventually had enough and wanted to go home after a big disagreement we both had. It's also worth a mention that there's a bit of a age gap. I'm 28 and she's 21. The breakup was horendes and I begged and pleaded for her to stay. She stayed in the country at her friends house for another month before flying home last week. I tried EVERYTHING! We met up three times; First time she was adamant about the breakup but then ended up saying she needed to think about it. Second time was great and we had a nice time but then we got serious and she said she would never risk giving up her family to stay here and would I move to Canada. I said I'd try and look into my options. Third time. It was over! She did however leave some doubt in my mind. She was obviously completely home sick so I believe that was a big factor in the breakup. She said she was confused just before she broke up with me the final time. She said she still wanted to be friends. I asked her what would happen is she missed me and realised she's made a mistake? She replied with "hopefully you'll forgive me but this is how I feel right now" I haven't heard anything since she's been home. That was 9 days ago. Just some space needed dya think?i dot want to not try and since the breakup I found out I could live in Canada pretty easily and it'd only take me 3 months to get there. I'm planning on NC for a few more weeks and then maybe a quick email just asking how she's doing and then try and work on it from there. What dya think?
Philosoraptor Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 It looks like you're looking to play games. Either don't make contact or do, don't wait and try to get her emotions all ruffled up in a few weeks. You've said how you felt so the ball is in her court. I'd recommend just taking care of yourself for now as if she'll never come back.
Author Acrobaticdealer Posted June 25, 2012 Author Posted June 25, 2012 It looks like you're looking to play games. Either don't make contact or do, don't wait and try to get her emotions all ruffled up in a few weeks. You've said how you felt so the ball is in her court. I'd recommend just taking care of yourself for now as if she'll never come back. Well, playing games is the last thing I wanna do. Just trying to give her space becuase she's obviously still upset. I guess I should just tell her but I'm scared of the rejection to be honest.
Philosoraptor Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 Well, playing games is the last thing I wanna do. Just trying to give her space becuase she's obviously still upset. I guess I should just tell her but I'm scared of the rejection to be honest. Why should you tell her that? She made a decision and it's not your job to change her mind. If she decides to come around let it be of her own free will.
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