coffeeloverx Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 well, here it goes, it's been a week since my boyfriend broke up with me. I've been the crazy ex, calling, emailing, texting. I've vowed to stop that tomorrow. I just miss him. Here's what went down: We dated for 2 years, and things were going fine, he bought me a promise ring, and we were in love. His grandma passed away few Thursdays ago, they went up to the funeral that following Tuesday, I stayed over night at his house to watch the dogs, they came back, I didn't hear from him, assumed he was tired, let him be. The next day, still didn't hear from except for 2 messages "Do you work today?" and "Will you meet me behind -our usual meeting spot.-" he then procedded to say he wanted to break up, after about 3 hours of me sobbing, him getting upset, we decided to give it another chance, but take the weekend off. So, we met up together last Monday and had dinner, he basically was upset with me over something, and then we went outside to talk, he said he was done, we ended up talking about other things, and then we had sex, when we were having sex he said he felt this connection, and he loved, and he wanted to make it work. After we were done, he said he regretted it and it was wrong. Basically, he broke up with me again right then and there. SO, it's been about a week, and I don't know what to do, some days are better than others, I've boxed up/thrown away all the things that remind me of him so they are out of the way. I'm starting to feel better, but nights are the worst. I just don't know how somebody could just want to break up out of the blue like that, and play with somebody's emotions like that. A month ago he was talking marriage to my mother. I just don't know. What do I do from here? I've been trying to stay busy, I've been going out with friends, working, going to school, but I still miss him. Any advice? It's just a blow to the heart, because we were fine and happy. I don't know. Help?
Philosoraptor Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 Continue doing what you are doing. This isn't something that gets better overnight. Just be patient with yourself and treat yourself well.
Radu Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 How old are you two ? He was at a funeral, got reminded of his own mortality, maybe that had a role in it [in fact i'm pretty sure it did].
Author coffeeloverx Posted June 25, 2012 Author Posted June 25, 2012 He's 20, I'm 19. I just don't know where it came from. I went over there today, to ask when he wanted his stuff back, and we ended up kissing, and just laying around together before he went to work, he said he still loves me, but is going to take the next few weeks to himself and then call me to see if he does want me. What am I doingto myself?
Radu Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 Look up the 180 and implement it. Whatever happens, in a few weeks you will be in a much better place for either eventuality. If you do get back together though, have him go into IC because this had a serious motive at the base [unless it's GIGS for being free and wild or GIGS for another girl]. Was he close to this grandma ?
Ruby65 Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 It sounds suspiciously like he's setting you up to be on the back burner. He might have met someone else, but isn't sure if that's going to work out or not, so he's taking the next few weeks to give it a go..... and then have you as Plan B in case it doesn't. What do you think?
flitzanu Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 best thing for you to do right now is stop having sex with a guy that broke up with you. and as much as you hate hearing it, remember that you're young and have a full life ahead of you and shouldn't be fretting over this dumb boy.
Author coffeeloverx Posted June 25, 2012 Author Posted June 25, 2012 Thanks guys, I think that if he does come back, I'm just going to say no, that I want to move on. If you love somebody, you work on your relationships. You work on not hurting them, and being with them. You can't just say you love somebody and then be like "I love you, but I don't want to be in a relationship right now." So, I think I'll move on, and hopefully find somebody else and work on improving myself now. To answer your question, he wasn't terribly close with his grandma, they were close, but she lived a few hours away, so they didnt' see one another much.
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