start-fresh Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 So I'm seeing the ex tomorrow to get my stuff back. Does anybody think I would regret telling her that letting me take her out to a nice dinner and then dumping me after makes her a coward? Or that I know she was talking to this other guy during our relationship but that I trusted her enough not to bring it up? I just want her to have to acknowledge these things because otherwise I know she'll just bury them deep and not face what she did. It seems like I will feel better if she has to realize these things but I'm not sure if it's petty. Thoughts?
lovefilter Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 So I'm seeing the ex tomorrow to get my stuff back. Does anybody think I would regret telling her that letting me take her out to a nice dinner and then dumping me after makes her a coward? Or that I know she was talking to this other guy during our relationship but that I trusted her enough not to bring it up? I just want her to have to acknowledge these things because otherwise I know she'll just bury them deep and not face what she did. It seems like I will feel better if she has to realize these things but I'm not sure if it's petty. Thoughts? Even though it will make you feel better to tell her these things, it is probably best that you just get your stuff and move on. The only good result would be if she says "yes, I made a mistake doing that, I'm sorry" and "I shouldn't have been talking to him, I didn't know you knew." It is unlikely she'll say either of these things, but instead say something that makes you feel less good. Get your stuff and move on.
Author start-fresh Posted June 25, 2012 Author Posted June 25, 2012 Thanks lovefilter. Has anyone else been in this position?
Philosoraptor Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 The "good" feelings of laying into her and having your revenge will be short lived. I had a chance to lay into an ex in the past and I let it go. Had I said anything I would just have put more questions into my own head and screwed myself up. I was nothing but courteous and it put me into a great position to move on. 1
Author start-fresh Posted June 26, 2012 Author Posted June 26, 2012 Well I took your guys advice and didn't lay into her about anything yesterday. And I'm so glad I did. I feel like I've got piece of mind again about the whole thing, so thanks!
Warrior Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 Man, they do that man... they will make sure they jump to another shelter once they get tired of your one while they are still with you, so it is safe, so they dont end up single when they breakup with you. Don't tell her anything you'll just bring pain to yourself. My advice if you want it: be cold, act cold, send her stuff over post office or vice versa, finally move on and don't look back... It is very hard I know, but that is the only right thing to do. You a fighter or not?
flitzanu Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 glad you kept your mouth shut. i'm late to reply, but honestly by you NOT saying anything, it "spoke the loudest".
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