andy1981 Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 At what point do you finally think "thats it I give up on women, Im becoming a celibate monk for the rest of my life"????? Yes Ive just split from my girl and yes Ive had a bourbon or to but Im asking myself, why bother being nice to people, I mean, it gets you absolutely no where......you try and help someone through their issues only to have it thrown back in your face.....you bend over backward to please someone and the same thing happens.....well cest les vies......I give up, Im turning gay! I guess Im supposed to ask some sort of question here but instead im just having a rant.....so apologies for that
january2011 Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 (edited) You can think whatever you like, when you like. But translating thoughts into action is a whole different ball game. Until you are sober, have given it much serious thought and spoken to current, former and future monks to get their input, I wouldn't make any rash decisions. Given that homosexual relationships can have their own special set of issues, "turning gay" isn't going to solve all your problems or make your love life any easier to manage. You're hurting, angry and drunk. Not a good combination. Put down the bottle/glass. Get some sleep and hopefully, it will all be much clearer in the morning. Edited June 25, 2012 by january2011
Author andy1981 Posted June 25, 2012 Author Posted June 25, 2012 You can think whatever you like, when you like. But translating thoughts into action is a whole different ball game. Until you are sober, have given it much serious thought and spoken to current, former and future monks to get their input, I wouldn't make any rash decisions. Given that homosexual relationships can have their own special set of issues, "turning gay" isn't going to solve all your problems or make your love life any easier to manage. You're hurting, angry and drunk. Not a good combination. Put down the bottle/glass. Get some sleep and hopefully, it will all be much clearer in the morning. Thanks! I know I was just having a rant.....but your message did something to me tonight that I didnt think possible.....you put a smile on my face. I cant say how much a simple thing like that means tonight.....whoever you are and wherever you are you have the gratitude of a slightly drunk non gay non monk bloke in the uk
Chi townD Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 Hey, gay people are probably the nicest folks you'll ever meet! (except some lesibans and just hate guys peroid). I've never met a gay guy that wasn't a nice guy. And I don't even swing that way. So, if you want to be gay, be gay! Not my cup of tea though. Even though women drive me up a damn wall, I still want to sleep with them! Dude, you're in a funk. I guarantee you that there is some girl somewhere that's having a drink and contemplating on becoming a lesbian. Problem is, you two haven't met yet. Don't give up hope. In he meantime. Get out into the world! Go do something!
StarlaStardust Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 I'm pretty sure they don't keep bourbon on hand at the monasteries. So monk life may not be for you. It's gonna be okay... hang in there. I'm hanging in there; we can do it together through the magic interwebs!
Own Worst Enemy Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 But I think bending over backwards is not the right way round, if you want to try being gay... ! 1
CC12 Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 (edited) why bother being nice to people, I mean, it gets you absolutely no where......you try and help someone through their issues only to have it thrown back in your face.....you bend over backward to please someone and the same thing happens..... So you did these things to try to "get somewhere" with a person? Being nice, helping people with their issues, and bending over backward to please people are things that should only be done with zero expectations of the recipient. It seems that you thought doing these things would earn you some kind of reward and that you were owed something in return. That's not how things work and it's no wonder that you're frustrated by the outcome. If you continue to do charitable things then get upset when you're not shown the proper gratitude, you're going to continue being frustrated. Do things out of the kindness of your heart and expect nothing in return. I realize that you weren't really looking for advice, but I sometimes can't keep my god damn opinions to myself. Hope I helped. Sorry about your girl and your upcoming wicked hangover. Edited June 25, 2012 by CC12 1
Author andy1981 Posted June 25, 2012 Author Posted June 25, 2012 Thanks people! The messages are really appreciated....and I only just noticed the "bending over backwards" comment myself, that made me laugh! Yup Im feeling pretty hungover and a little embarrassed about having a rant online but you know what, it made me feel better! New dawn and new day and all that so I will see what life has in store. As for the doing things simply to help someone else and wanting gratitude, maybe you are right, maybe I did that as I would treat someone the way I want to be treated......I need to learn (again) that people are different and simply accept that fact. Big love to anyone going through a breakup right now x 1
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