Necris Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 I'm a man, a Christian and a virgin (I don't think I'll ever marry no woman has ever been interested in me) but for whatever reason I think about sex and having lustful thoughts/feelings literally every day seemingly all the time. I can see a random woman and if she looks just slightly attractive in some fashion I'll have random uncontrollable sexual thoughts about her. I was wondering is this normal? Should I/can I do something about this? Do you think about sex? How often? Why do you think about it?
Sid6.7 Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 I'm a man, a Christian and a virgin (I don't think I'll ever marry no woman has ever been interested in me) but for whatever reason I think about sex and having lustful thoughts/feelings literally every day seemingly all the time. I can see a random woman and if she looks just slightly attractive in some fashion I'll have random uncontrollable sexual thoughts about her. I was wondering is this normal? Should I/can I do something about this? Do you think about sex? How often? Why do you think about it? Completely normal. In fact it should be a right of passage.
USMCHokie Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 ...I think about sex and having lustful thoughts/feelings literally every day seemingly all the time. I can see a random woman and if she looks just slightly attractive in some fashion I'll have random uncontrollable sexual thoughts about her. I was wondering is this normal? I'm a man... You answered your own question. Welcome to the club.
ThaWholigan Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 This is absolutely 100% normal. What you can do about it is just recognize and accept this and act accordingly - and appropriately of course. I don't know if masturbation is a sin to you or something, but if it gets to much, you right wanna rub one out occasionally. I think about sex because I am a sexual being, and I want to have it. That I haven't yet probably magnifies the thought in my head, but most of the time, I think about it. Whatever I am doing, whether I'm making music, walking down the street, writing etc, I will probably be thinking about sex during that time . Best thing to do if you want to think about something else, is just to keep your mind in the present moment, whatever you are doing. That usually helps.
SJC2008 Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 The fact that you are a Christian doesn't trump human nature. Every man sizes up every woman he sees. You just get use to it and sometimes aren't even conscious of it.
AD1980 Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 Completely normal! youre a MAN Unfortunately when youre a man like us who cant attract women seeing all these pretty ladies walking around you know you cant have can make you pretty sexually frustrated and depressed but i still love love looking:)
Titanwolf Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 I used to be Catholic and have this opinion. You're only human and there's no need to think beyond that
Author Necris Posted June 24, 2012 Author Posted June 24, 2012 This is absolutely 100% normal. What you can do about it is just recognize and accept this and act accordingly - and appropriately of course. I don't know if masturbation is a sin to you or something, but if it gets to much, you right wanna rub one out occasionally. I think about sex because I am a sexual being, and I want to have it. That I haven't yet probably magnifies the thought in my head, but most of the time, I think about it. Whatever I am doing, whether I'm making music, walking down the street, writing etc, I will probably be thinking about sex during that time . Best thing to do if you want to think about something else, is just to keep your mind in the present moment, whatever you are doing. That usually helps. I'm just wondering why does it seem like I have to think about sex literally all the time and if there's a way to control it but I guess the consensus is that I'm normal. Today I was at church and I was trying to pray to God but the only thing I kept envisioning were a pair of naked breasts in my face:laugh: I know I'm a guy but come on now shouldn't I have better control than that?
ThaWholigan Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 I'm just wondering why does it seem like I have to think about sex literally all the time and if there's a way to control it but I guess the consensus is that I'm normal. Today I was at church and I was trying to pray to God but the only thing I kept envisioning were a pair of naked breasts in my face:laugh: I know I'm a guy but come on now shouldn't I have better control than that? That's generally how it's gonna go . I'm thinking about breasts in my face right now . Like I say, it's likely you're worried about not being in control of your mind, and that may be an issue. Thinking about sex, even a lot, is not an issue, because it's going to happen, especially as you are relatively young and still a virgin. If you want to have more control over your thoughts, I suggest you try to meditate and watch your thoughts objectively, and keep watching them. Eventually, your thoughts will slow down, until they stop, and your mind will be 100% clear and present in the moment. When you aren't in the present moment, you're likely to be thinking about sex
Ninjainpajamas Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 I'm just wondering why does it seem like I have to think about sex literally all the time and if there's a way to control it but I guess the consensus is that I'm normal. Today I was at church and I was trying to pray to God but the only thing I kept envisioning were a pair of naked breasts in my face:laugh: I know I'm a guy but come on now shouldn't I have better control than that? It's normal...especially when you're younger. You get used to it and it becomes easier to control, and changes a bit. Just be careful on how vocal you are about it, especially with women and in relationships. Women hate to be objectified, so even if you're just sharing an innocent fantasy or desire many will take it as being perverted (however a lot of women are more perverted than you think themselves) so just be aware of who you share it with and choose your words carefully depending on company. All men will understand you, however some women may judge you harshly for your comments...and maybe even some men may try to discourage you from thinking that way IF they're trying to be might and pious...but don't be fooled, all men understand whether they'll admit it or not unless they're gay or got some kind of problem
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