funnykitty28 Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 I am willing to forgive I am willing to go back to counselling since all the secrets are out there, but he says they cant change how he feels. He says he wants the best for the kids and they are number one priority. But I feel a family would be best for them, we both need to change and make this better, try to remember why we fell in love. Anyone ever hear Adele's song Don't you remember? That is my life right now. How you just forget 10 years together? How you just move on from that. I am someone that always gets what I want and I always put up a fight. I want him to stay and make this work, but i am the dummy cause i am willing to forgive everything he has done, my family cant but i know how I feel inside. Maybe he just never loved me enough? But then how can my feelings be so wrong?
fucpcg Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 I just went thru this with my exgirlfriend. When we started dating, she was a disaster. Bad marriage, bad divorce, bad life after marriage.... which led to alcohol problem, and all the problems that came along for us with it. I tried, I tried, I tried to work thru it with her, because she seemed like a sweet girl beneath it all, and didn't want to let the scars of her past ruin what we could have together. However, after two months of her promising to change, stop drinking, etc, I had enough of breaking those promises, being nasty to me, and blowing me off without a second thought to go out with friends. When I broke up with her, she FOUGHT to get me back, apologizing, calling, texting, sending letters, coming over, telling all my friends she loved me, etc. After calming down for a week, I talked to her, we worked thru it, she actually did quit drinking, and we had the best year of my life together. Talk about memories. And it wasn't just us, it was us and her 3 children. After about a year, I did have my own personal struggles that affected our relationship. Her response was to break up, tell me how horrible I was, and that any contact by me to her is harassment, and that she would get a PFA against me for harassment if I ever communicate with her again(she was actually trying to convince my friends after all this that I had abused her and she NEEDED to get PFA against me for her safety). Wow, what happened to the girl that fought so hard to keep us together when I broke up with her??? Not only didn't try, not even just burn a bridge, she blew any bridges to absolute pieces. 15 months later, she is just as hostile to me on the rare occasion we bump into each other as she was when we split. I don't get it, I would never act that way, and I never would have believed that the girl I was with those 12 months would act this way to me, let alone ANYONE acting like this toward any person they once claimed to love. I don't get it, but it's exactly what happened. I don't get it, I'll never get it. I was left to pick up the shattered pieces and move on.
Author funnykitty28 Posted June 25, 2012 Author Posted June 25, 2012 You can only give so many chances when the person keeps spitting in your face. It's even harder with two kids cause you will never fully move on. At least I can move on and believe he was an A and treated me like S. He can move on and compare me to all the girls and know he may never find someone that accepted everything about him and loved him no matter what and did everything for him. I need to find someone that loves me more then I love them. It's the only way to be happy maybe! Good luck and thanks i know one day i will look back and think that time made me so much stronger
jmjacobs31 Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 This is me. My boyfriend just ended a 12 year relationship with out even wanting to work on us. Just tossed me aside and is ready to move on. How he can just give up the life that he has known for the past 12 years is beyond me. I feel used and disposable. it sucks. Hes the ass and i am the one hurting. its not fair.
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