ginastar Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 Men, there are 2 theories floating around concerning you. Which one is true? Theory 1- Men have to be ready for marriage. example - If this is true, a guy will not be open to marrying you regardless of how wonderful, special, unique or how great the relationship is? And if this theory is true- Do they just marry the girl that they are dating at the time when they become "ready"? Theory 2- Men do not get married until they find a woman they want to marry? If this is true, men are always looking, open, considering marriage but he is just searching for "the one". Do they marry "the one" even if they are young, haven't dated around, etc? Does "the one" make them "ready"?
Algermas Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 Men marry once they think the girl they're with is the best they'll ever be able to do. 1
mesmerized Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 I think this is a combination of the one and two. I do NOT think that a man who has always feared marriage would all of a sudden become a marriage fan when he meets a right girl. If he does, it would take him longer than normal to get to that point. I think men would want to marry when they are ready for marriage AND they meet the right girl.
january2011 Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 In my experience, they are both "true" depending on the man.
Joaquin Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 (edited) I think it very much depends on the guy. In my 20s the thought of marriage didn't enter my head even tho I had a few relationships with some really decent girls. I started thinking id like to settle down with my forever girl when i was around 32-33. Why 32-33? No idea. That was just when those thoughts were there for me. For the sake of all women I'd like to hope guys want to do a little better than "this one will do", even if his light is on. Edited June 24, 2012 by Joaquin
Titanwolf Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 I never did understand why a piece of paper determined what kind of relationship you had. If you love a person, you're going to stay with them regardless of what a government issued, piece of paper says. It's like you have to get the go-ahead to validate your relationship. I'll never understand marriage, in today's society anyway.
FitChick Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 I never did understand why a piece of paper determined what kind of relationship you had. If you love a person, you're going to stay with them regardless of what a government issued, piece of paper says. It's like you have to get the go-ahead to validate your relationship. I'll never understand marriage, in today's society anyway. If it truly is just "a piece of paper," I'll never understand why so many people are afraid of it. 2
Titanwolf Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 If it truly is just "a piece of paper," I'll never understand why so many people are afraid of it. touché FitChick, touché 1
FitChick Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 I have a friend who is from a family that is well off, owns a lot of property. When he was around forty and it was the holiday season, he was invited to dinner with a group of friends. He was feeling a bit depressed but went anyway. This was a man who had a lot of options when it came to women. He liked playing the field. But he said he had reached a point where it wasn't very emotionally satisfying. So he went to the dinner party and met the woman who would become his wife. She was rather plain and a bit plump but he decided she was perfect to help him run his family estate and be the mother of his child, qualities he never sought in other more attractive women. He didn't settle, just was suddenly attracted to other qualities at that time in his life. She has been a wonderful wife and mother and they seem happy after fifteen years. So in his case, it was more about timing. Of course, if he'd met another party girl, the story would have had a different ending. He might still be looking. Sometimes Fate lends a hand when you need it most.
Woggle Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 Marriage is a dying institution at least in the west with a few pockets that actually take it seriously but men who do decide to marry do it because they meet the right woman. A man would do damn near anything when truly are in love. 2
Algermas Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 Marriage is a dying institution at least in the west with a few pockets that actually take it seriously but men who do decide to marry do it because they meet the right woman. A man would do damn near anything when truly are in love. Maybe it wouldn't be dying if the vast majority of marriages didn't end in costly ( for men ) divorces initiated by women.
Joaquin Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 Men marry once they think the girl they're with is the best they'll ever be able to do. There is a lot of truth in this. But what happens when someone prettier or with bigger boobs shows interest.
thatone Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 If it truly is just "a piece of paper," I'll never understand why so many people are afraid of it. paper is dangerous. i don't make a habit of walking into banks and handing them a full financial statement and signing away half of it as collateral in exchange for them promising to like me, give me blow jobs, and wash my socks, while they point out to me beforehand that most banks will stop liking me, stop giving me blow jobs, stop washing my socks, blame me for their change of mood and steal the previously mentioned half on the way out the door. that would be craziness. from another thread yesterday. overly simplified but basically accurate.
manup Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 Men, there are 2 theories floating around concerning you. Which one is true? Theory 1- Men have to be ready for marriage. example - If this is true, a guy will not be open to marrying you regardless of how wonderful, special, unique or how great the relationship is? And if this theory is true- Do they just marry the girl that they are dating at the time when they become "ready"? Theory 2- Men do not get married until they find a woman they want to marry? If this is true, men are always looking, open, considering marriage but he is just searching for "the one". Do they marry "the one" even if they are young, haven't dated around, etc? Does "the one" make them "ready"? Well all men are exactly the same so...
Algermas Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 There is a lot of truth in this. But what happens when someone prettier or with bigger boobs shows interest. That varies, there are two saying and depending on what he can afford one will generally hold true. - Sometimes it's cheaper to keep her. - Why does divorce cost so much? Because it's worth it.
Sid6.7 Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 Men, there are 2 theories floating around concerning you. Which one is true? Theory 1- Men have to be ready for marriage. example - If this is true, a guy will not be open to marrying you regardless of how wonderful, special, unique or how great the relationship is? And if this theory is true- Do they just marry the girl that they are dating at the time when they become "ready"? Theory 2- Men do not get married until they find a woman they want to marry? If this is true, men are always looking, open, considering marriage but he is just searching for "the one". Do they marry "the one" even if they are young, haven't dated around, etc? Does "the one" make them "ready"? First off if you believe anything at all you see in that movie, you are seriously misguided. It's entertainment, at best. The sad part is many females believe the festering garbage they spew. Men marry once they think the girl they're with is the best they'll ever be able to do. Furthermore, it's mostly to prevent them from sleeping with someone else. And even that is not full proof. If it truly is just "a piece of paper," I'll never understand why so many people are afraid of it. Because it is more than a piece of paper and it's a significant thing to fear. When you sign that document you have just entered into a business arrangement with another person. You have legally formed a corporation between two parties that now has standing in a court of law if it ever comes to such a thing. You send it off to your state capital and it is returned to you with a that raised seal of approval form the state, right on the front in plain view. Where is the romance in that? As most Men know, the court system does not find in favor for the Man in the event of a divorce. This is just a fact. This only compounds the reason even more that mean should fear marriage. Until the courts under go some type of reform in regards to these issues, marriage for men, is in reality a dying tradition in the U.S. I have no plans on marriage and I have not for a long time and I don't intend on it. However, with that being said, if and this is a big IF I were to make that sacrifice there will be a pre-nup involved. Yeah, it's just a piece of paper.
Titanwolf Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 there will be a pre-nup involved. Yeah, it's just a piece of paper. You make a very good point.
FitChick Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 The point I was making is that it's not about a piece of paper. It's about your beliefs about that piece of paper. Different people believe different things and act on those beliefs. Find someone who believes the same as you do and you will be "on the same page" (couldn't resist! ).
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