DimeSlime Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 New to the forum. Found it on a random search. I broke up with my girl (also mother of my 2 1/2 year old son) last Monday. We have had troubles throughout our almost 4 year relationship due to drinking, I'm alcoholic, but also due to her lying about talking to other men. I went to rehab last summer and she got into a fling with another, much older man, and when I got out we got back together. I caught her periodically talking to him which caused more fights and relapses for me. I went again to rehab two months ago, and she met someone on a dating site. When I got back we reconciled but she lied right to my face about stopping talking to him. She actually told him I raped her while she was staying with me for a few days. I caught her talking to him again and broke up with her last Monday. I have not seen my son since, she is keeping him from me for spite. I'm very broken up now. I attend AA daily and get out as much as possible, but am on house arrest due to a legal situation stemming from my last relapse. I have been planning suicide, I don't feel good. I'm not sure how to cope with the pain. She apparently can jump on someone else right away and feel ok, I cannot do that. I don't think it would be fair to the other person since I'm still broken up about her. I hope this doesn't last long because the pain is unbearable. Help
no_more_tries Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 First off, I am sorry you are hurting, but please refuse to entertain thoughts of suicide. This is early in the process for you, and if you push through, the hurt will lift. Sounds like you've got a lot on your plate, but make it through this time, choose to move toward greater stability, and your entire perspective can change. Good luck to you.
Cherry21 Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 New to the forum. Found it on a random search. I broke up with my girl (also mother of my 2 1/2 year old son) last Monday. We have had troubles throughout our almost 4 year relationship due to drinking, I'm alcoholic, but also due to her lying about talking to other men. I went to rehab last summer and she got into a fling with another, much older man, and when I got out we got back together. I caught her periodically talking to him which caused more fights and relapses for me. I went again to rehab two months ago, and she met someone on a dating site. When I got back we reconciled but she lied right to my face about stopping talking to him. She actually told him I raped her while she was staying with me for a few days. I caught her talking to him again and broke up with her last Monday. I have not seen my son since, she is keeping him from me for spite. I'm very broken up now. I attend AA daily and get out as much as possible, but am on house arrest due to a legal situation stemming from my last relapse. I have been planning suicide, I don't feel good. I'm not sure how to cope with the pain. She apparently can jump on someone else right away and feel ok, I cannot do that. I don't think it would be fair to the other person since I'm still broken up about her. I hope this doesn't last long because the pain is unbearable. Help You need to talk to a psychiatrist or something. Suicide will not fix anything AND you'll be dead. It will just make everyone around you worse. You have to fight through it! Don't worry about the b!tch. She's heartless and I can tell you right now that the relationship she's going to have with the guy won't last long. The only reason you have to talk to her is to see if your son is okay. Get yourself together man! It's only the first week. I guarantee you'll feel better with time..
Chi townD Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 okay, so your post states that you've hit rock bottom. So, if this is the lowest point in your life, then there's only one direction to go and that's up! Don't worry about what she's doing. You have enough on your plate. First, you need to get your life sorted out. Not only for your sake but for the sake of your kid. He or she deserves to have a Dad in his or her life and someone they can look up to. Stay away from the booze. Nothing good ever comes out of abusing alcohol. I mean, look at you now. You're under house arrest because of the bottle. You need to stay away from it and never touch it again. Instead of spending money at the bar or club, you could be saving it or using it to take a few classes at your local college and staying out of the bar. I mean, wouldn't it be nice to save all of that money up and take your kid to Disney World or something like that? Something that they will rmember and cherish? And, of course, Dad becomes a total rock star for doing that! You need to fix yourself first. Do EVERYTHING the court orders so you can get off house arrest. Your life isn't over. The way I see it. A new life has just begun. You need to open your eyes and see it. Crave it. Get motivated for it and don't let anything stop you. Go get it!!!!
Author DimeSlime Posted June 25, 2012 Author Posted June 25, 2012 Last night she brought my son over and when she picked him up she started to hug me and kiss me. It felt amazing. Today I broke down and begged to have her back, which she denied. This is going to be a long tough road, tougher than anything ever, esp since I cannot even drink over it.
Chi townD Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 Last night she brought my son over and when she picked him up she started to hug me and kiss me. It felt amazing. Today I broke down and begged to have her back, which she denied. This is going to be a long tough road, tougher than anything ever, esp since I cannot even drink over it. And even if you could, what would it solve?
Author DimeSlime Posted June 25, 2012 Author Posted June 25, 2012 And even if you could, what would it solve? Alchol has a amazing mental effect on me. Euphoria dont care anymore about any problems. Makes the ton of crap floating in my head instantly float away. Thats what its like when an alcoholic drinks
headsashed Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 Avoid alcohol as its a depressent,we all know it takes the pain away but its only tempory,its right back there in the morning. You have to face this head on. Suicide is no good either,it wont achieve anything at all,ive been where you are now,i drank heavily almost everyday last year and i attempted suicide a few times,it got me nowhere at all,the only thing it did was push my ex further away. Now im scarred for life and ill constantly regret what i did. Believe me pal,it aint worth it. Just keep yourself busy and when the pain hits you just ride it out,i promise it eases in time. Remember this,as each day passes you are 1 day closer to recovery. All this happend last year when me an my ex broke up,we reconciled after 4 months,she cheated on me and broke my heart yet again,but u know what im doing now? the opposite of what i did last time and i feel loads better,ofcourse im still hurting loads,i miss her,think about her alot still but the pain is alot less. As i said,just keep urself as busy as you can,it will help take your mind away from things,avoid alcohol and when ever you need to vent then just post here.
Author DimeSlime Posted June 26, 2012 Author Posted June 26, 2012 I have found some relief in a pof.com account lol. I can find someone else too, even in this compromising situation
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