PIM Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 So I've been doing OLD and recently I met this girl online. Her pics were absolutely amazing so much so I was intimidated in the comfort of my own home, and her profile was very warm and fun. I really just msged her kind of a one off and was sure that was going to be that.... Anyway long story short we've been emailing back and forth we're meeting up later this week. It's not even Sunday and I'm crazy nervous and freaking out a bit. I've had this feeling before and usually I turn into a nervous mess during the early part of the date and I really ****ing hate it. Anyone else felt this way, how did you handle? Was thinking of having a drink before?
Titanwolf Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 May I ask you why you think she's out of your league? is she high-status? is she more intelligent? kinder? more generous? or is it because she looks attractive? honest question. Bear in mind though that only one of these is based solely on genetic fortune. On topic- Best medicine for me is watching something that makes me laugh, really hard. That feeling you get after having a good laugh is very soothing. 1
Desinova Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 Just go over the points you want to bring up during the date. Make sure you have gum and a handkerchief or tissue in your pocket.
Author PIM Posted June 24, 2012 Author Posted June 24, 2012 I know this is going to sound shallow and stupid but it's mostly her looks. She's extremely attractive and more attractive than I've ever dated before. I get pretty nervous for a first date with a girl I find attractive but this girl is a different level. I feel like my eyes will melt if I look at her directly... I wonder if this would be the first time in history of OLD where I actually am hoping she's not as attractive as her pictures?
lospantalonsfancie Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 Her poop probably smells really bad. Remember that. I dated a really hot girl once. She smelled really bad most of the time, like she was constantly farting. Got over her looks pretty quickly. 1
Titanwolf Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 I know this is going to sound shallow and stupid but it's mostly her looks. She's extremely attractive and more attractive than I've ever dated before. I get pretty nervous for a first date with a girl I find attractive but this girl is a different level. I feel like my eyes will melt if I look at her directly... I wonder if this would be the first time in history of OLD where I actually am hoping she's not as attractive as her pictures? That's completely understandable, because in today's world it is truth after all. lol @ melting eyes. Someone suggested chewing gum, which is a good idea as it may help prevent you focusing so hard on her beauty. Attractive members of the opposite sex can easily make people go stupid lol but if you can just concentrate on the conversation and the other good qualities she has, you may find the whole experience more fulfilling. Good luck bro.
Bob_Funk Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 It's not like anything's going to happen. She's just using you as free therapy.
MooBear Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 It's not like anything's going to happen. She's just using you as free therapy. Cause he wasn't nervous enough without you saying something like that lol Girls love confidence. No matter how spectacular she is, she is still a human being, just like you. No better and no worse. So just treat her accordingly and you'll do great!
henderson14 Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 Don't worry. The girls almost never match their pictures or what you think they will be. Its happened to me where I was worried about the same thing, but I never considered them out of my league once we met. It was usually the opposite.
Author PIM Posted June 24, 2012 Author Posted June 24, 2012 God I know it's not gonna be too bad just freaking out a bit. I get like flop sweats when I get too worked up and it's super uncomfortable on a date.
Sid6.7 Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 Did she send you a head shot Or a full full body shot This is important information to have.
MooBear Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 Did she send you a head shot Or a full full body shot This is important information to have. Oh my goodness that was deceptive
UpDownAllAround Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 sorry, what is an OLD site? On-Line Dating...OLD...
mario_C Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 I think you're brave, first of all, to go "out of your league" and challenge her to accept you for you. Truth be told, men are conditioned to hate the way we look, behave and all that, but she's obviously going out with you because she likes those things about you. Maybe you're in her league after all? Lucky bastard Have a great date!
Author PIM Posted June 24, 2012 Author Posted June 24, 2012 Did she send you a head shot Or a full full body shot This is important information to have. She had like 15 photos on her profile. Multiple head shots and full body shots. Some of them looked professional.
manup Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 May I ask you why you think she's out of your league? is she high-status? is she more intelligent? kinder? more generous? or is it because she looks attractive? honest question. Bear in mind though that only one of these is based solely on genetic fortune. On topic- Best medicine for me is watching something that makes me laugh, really hard. That feeling you get after having a good laugh is very soothing. Guys don't give a **** about this, it's because she's good looking.
manup Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 She had like 15 photos on her profile. Multiple head shots and full body shots. Some of them looked professional. Confidence is key, even if you have to fake it. Also remember to engage physically, I don't mean grope her, but touch her shoulder etc... Try to kiss her if the date is going well.
mickleb Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 Did she send you a head shot Or a full full body shot This is important information to have. I have to say, hearing some of the anti-fatty stuff on here gets on my tats but any guy who encounters lying-by-omission on that level, gets my permission to be grumpy. So I've been doing OLD and recently I met this girl online. Her pics were absolutely amazing so much so I was intimidated in the comfort of my own home, and her profile was very warm and fun. I really just msged her kind of a one off and was sure that was going to be that.... Anyway long story short we've been emailing back and forth we're meeting up later this week. It's not even Sunday and I'm crazy nervous and freaking out a bit. I've had this feeling before and usually I turn into a nervous mess during the early part of the date and I really ****ing hate it. Anyone else felt this way, how did you handle? Was thinking of having a drink before? OP, I suggest you learn about how to be charming. This girl may have met plenty of studly types in her past but who knows how they treated her? A good-looking girl gets many ars*holes after her and she may have become disillusioned with that type. I'd suggest behaving like a total gent to maximise your potential. Show her you respect her. You don't have to lavish money on her to make a woman feel like she's a queen. Remember that she must like you to have spent time emailing back and forth, and now, the time to meet me you. If you do anything dopey because of nerves, you can always try what I did when I went for the interview for my 'perfect job': My mouth dried up so badly when I got a question I struggled to answer, that I couldn't speak for about one minute. Eventually, after drinking half a glass of water, I managed to croak 'Sorry - it's just you know when something is really important to you, it can make you really nervous?' They liked that and gave me the job. (N.B. After 4 years, the job turned out to be a pile of sh*t. I'm glad I left it! )
FitChick Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 If she wants to meet you, clearly she doesn't think you are out of her league or vice versa. Go for a long run or have a tough workout before meeting her so you burn off some nervous energy.
FitChick Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 Just go over the points you want to bring up during the date. Make sure you have gum and a handkerchief or tissue in your pocket. Yes, mummy. No gum, bring Altoids.
yongyong Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 we all know that we should treat hot girls just like average chicks. You could try to motivate yourself by saying 'she is just a hot girl, I am an attractive guy too. I can do this' but I bet it's not going to work though. You can not get good at public speaking unless you practice with the real pressure. Go to bars, hit on the hottest girl you can find there. get blown out and try the next one. Keep doing it till you feel comfortable around hot women. Hot girls can sense that 'nervousness' from a guy just by looking at him. when they sense that, you are inferior to her.
Author PIM Posted June 25, 2012 Author Posted June 25, 2012 ROFL! Well OP, if you read the "who pays for the date" thread at the top of this forum, the bitter guys will tell you that she's been chatting with you for weeks, has put all kinds of effort into getting to know you, and has agreed to meet up with you ALL so she can "gold dig" that $2.50 iced tea out of you. :laugh: Yeah I think this girl is legit. At first, actually, there was a break in the conversation for about week or so and basically I gave up on her but she emailed me back profusely apologizing and since then we've talked and set up a date. She even called me very cute =) She seems pretty cool and warm. That's why I guess it's freaking me out. Usually I settle down after the first 15 mins but I get pretty sweaty in that time. Booze usually helps, was wondering does anyone else maybe take a shot or drink a bit to take the edge off?
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