suds00 Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 i'm older and have a moderately debilitating handicap.i walk with a limp.i'm funny,smart and kind.i'm considering giving up trying to find a woman.any advice?
Desinova Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 Giving up means you have no chance. Not giving up means you have some chance, even if you feel it is a small one.
Vintage79 Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 i'm older and have a moderately debilitating handicap.i walk with a limp.i'm funny,smart and kind.i'm considering giving up trying to find a woman.any advice? It's certainly going to be harder - I'm not going to lie. One attractive aspect of most women, though, is that they really appreciate confidence. If you act like the limp doesn't bother you, it will be much easier to overlook. That said, if you're meeting someone online, I would be upfront about it, so they know what to expect. Does the limp prevent you from doing much, or is it largely aesthetic? As the previous poster stated - you simply have to put yourself out there. Your great personality will eventually win someone over...not trying is the only way to truly fail.
jobaba Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 i'm older and have a moderately debilitating handicap.i walk with a limp.i'm funny,smart and kind.i'm considering giving up trying to find a woman.any advice? If it makes you feel any better, I'm (relatively) young, healthy, limber, and have a nice body. And I still do badly with women and get rejected all the time. You are in the position you are. That's life. If you really feel like the odds are too great against you, you could give up. But only you can make that decision.
mortensorchid Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 This was another fascinating chapter in Guide to Getting It On, where they have a chapter on sexuality and the disabled. I'd never thought about this. Were you born with this or was it the result of an accident or disease? We blanch at the thought of disabled people doing this because we have been taught to not think of the disabled as sexual beings. It was not that long ago that disabled people were hidden from the world (ex. FDR - People thought he was able bodied during his lifetime). And yet he and Eleanor had, what, 6 to 8 children? I would highly recomend this book as noted above for more information on this. While it is a bit dated (for example, it addressed the fairly new concept of Internet dating and how all of a sudden people were leaving their spouses / signifigant others for someone they met online, as the first edition was written in the late 90s when we were still at the dawn of the Internet and very few people were on it as often as they are now), it truly covers wonderful topics and gives insights.
Author suds00 Posted June 29, 2012 Author Posted June 29, 2012 didn't he have children before he became disabled?
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