rana-rana Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 just started my new job at bestbuy in the city. was so excited about it as it was me & 3 other people got hired in 1 bang. after starting work last week I got hit on quite alot especially in the night shift because bestbuy stays open really late sometimes. anyways this one guy a couple yrs older than me wanted to take me to a bar after I get off at midnight. I told him no & I'm not into drinking on the 1st date with someone I dont really know. he cursed me out & left . next theres this other guy that works there at bestbuy with me but he's been there a little longer so he knows more than me. anyways he tries to flirt with me at times in the nightshift but I try to keep it neutral since I'm on the job. now he's totally ignoring me. acting like I aint there. wtf?! on my way home from work last night I'm waiting for the train & this guy comes up to me & asks me about the movies I got from bestbuy & tell him that I work there so I get discounts. he's not really my type physically but he's cool so we chat for a minute, whatever. now he wants my number. I'm like, oh boy here we go. but I still try to be nice because he's cool & tell him he can take my facebook. but he takes it as an insult! he says I'm just trying to brush him off. I'm like look, we just met but he's annoyed by this & tells me I aint all of that anyways & stomps off. people are staring at me like I did something so bad. did I? guys I'm trying to keep it safe. I know rejection is a bitch & stuff but I'm not gonna consider any guy for a date or just hand out my number. but it seems guys get xtra sensitive. my father & brothers aint like this. guys does it matter to u that much if u get a girl's number or if she wants to date u or not? why not move on to the next prospect?
Pyro Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 those guys have massive egos that you just bruised by turning them down. Some guys think that if they can get a girl to start talking to them that they are suave and anything that goes wrong after that point is the woman's fault. All you can do is brush them off and move on. 4
ThaWholigan Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 Guys get rejected a lot. After a while, the more sensitive among us will start to take it harshly. Some women don't really understand this, but a lot of them at least attempt to not be rude. Still, guys will still take it harshly, almost like it's an insult to their character or something. I have been rejected quite a few times myself, very rudely even on a few occasions. It used to make me upset before, but I'm much better now at dealing with it. You also have to understand that there will be a few guys who do not have prospects lined up, and don't get any action at all. If guys you aren't attracted to are approaching you, or you're not feeling it, that's just that really. It's not your fault that their sensitive, unless you've been rude about it. If you haven't been rude, then there isn't much you can do about it. Just understand that those guys who are upset, are probably upset because you're like the 1000th girl who has rejected them. Possibly. Or they are just that sensitive. 1
Cracker Jack Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 Some guys (especially those ones) are hard headed and think they're above rejection. Once reality hits them, tho, they throw a fit. Smart men would move on, while others will stay to let the woman know how she's scum or whatever. Not worth the time. Rejection happens. Just gotta leave it at that. 1
RedRobin Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 Don't worry OP. I actually did give my number to a few guys recently who approached me when I was out and about. They started with the sexy-talk ASAP. One of them on the very first phone call.. and I had to hit the 'reject' button. I'm afraid too many have been reading too much PUA literature and seem to think they are owed sex within a week or two of meeting a woman or there is something wrong with her. A few here on LS have called women like me a prude for expecting a guy to wait for sex at all. Like women are supposed to drop trou for a total strangers to prove their sexuality. :rolleyes:
ThaWholigan Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 I'm afraid too many have been reading too much PUA literature and seem to think they are owed sex within a week or two of meeting a woman or there is something wrong with her. Pah . Most guys who read PUA literature are doing it wrong .
d'Arthez Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 Pah . Most guys who read PUA literature are doing it wrong . The reading or the materials? These men probably have to fake social skills, in the hopes that a woman can fake an orgasm. That is a good start for a relationship. To OP: Just brush it off. I do see you have created quite a few threads in which similar behavioral patterns are described. Could it be, that for one reason or another, that the way you act / how you come across, influences the behavior of these men?
RedRobin Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 Pah . Most guys who read PUA literature are doing it wrong . yea, it's kind of funny when you see it. Kind of like the married guy who whines about his horrible marriage and how his wife never gives him sex... as he stares at me with sad puppy dog eyes. Awww! That's so sad... here, let me give you a hanky... I'll whip out my little violin while I'm at it. :lmao:
d'Arthez Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 Awww! That's so sad... here, let me give you a hanky... I'll whip out my little violin while I'm at it. :lmao: If you were a man, that comment would have been funnier. 1
ThaWholigan Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 The reading or the materials? These men probably have to fake social skills, in the hopes that a woman can fake an orgasm. That is a good start for a relationship. They apply the material all wrong. I've got all the old PUA stuff on my computer. Half of it is garbage, but there is some great stuff in there, if you get past the half-assed routines, magic tricks, acronyms and attempts to get "same-night-lays". Social skills are usually poor at that stage, as that's what they need to even pull it off. yea, it's kind of funny when you see it. Kind of like the married guy who whines about his horrible marriage and how his wife never gives him sex... as he stares at me with sad puppy dog eyes. Awww! That's so sad... here, let me give you a hanky... I'll whip out my little violin while I'm at it. :lmao: funny and sad at the same time.
Algermas Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 Guys get rejected a lot. After a while, the more sensitive among us will start to take it harshly. Some women don't really understand this, but a lot of them at least attempt to not be rude. Still, guys will still take it harshly, almost like it's an insult to their character or something. I have been rejected quite a few times myself, very rudely even on a few occasions. It used to make me upset before, but I'm much better now at dealing with it. You also have to understand that there will be a few guys who do not have prospects lined up, and don't get any action at all. If guys you aren't attracted to are approaching you, or you're not feeling it, that's just that really. It's not your fault that their sensitive, unless you've been rude about it. If you haven't been rude, then there isn't much you can do about it. Just understand that those guys who are upset, are probably upset because you're like the 1000th girl who has rejected them. Possibly. Or they are just that sensitive. I always like hearing women talk about how men take rejection as though they know what's going on. Women avoid any chance of rejection like the plague because it would shatter their frail egos, yet they critique how men take it. 1
ThaWholigan Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 I always like hearing women talk about how men take rejection as though they know what's going on. Women avoid any chance of rejection like the plague because it would shatter their frail egos, yet they critique how men take it. Ermm, check my profile dude. I'm 100% male
Algermas Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 Ermm, check my profile dude. I'm 100% male I was agreeing with you, my reply was aimed at the OP.
Author rana-rana Posted June 23, 2012 Author Posted June 23, 2012 The reading or the materials? These men probably have to fake social skills, in the hopes that a woman can fake an orgasm. That is a good start for a relationship. To OP: Just brush it off. I do see you have created quite a few threads in which similar behavioral patterns are described. Could it be, that for one reason or another, that the way you act / how you come across, influences the behavior of these men? influencing them how?? I dont got a clue so I guess I dont. anyways this isnt every guy I meet. some say have a good day ms. or whatever but its the older men that do that stuff. younger guys get jerky. I went to the store on the corner & a guy pulled up in a jeep & honks his horn at me so I stop. he says dont I recognize u from somewhere. I know he's trying to kick game at me or whatever but I play along & I give him a minute anyway to see what he's about. then he tells me this & that & he knows this place where we can play pool & he expects me to ride with him. but I tell him no thanks & he wants to know why. I mean really? is he that dense to not know that a girl dont jump into random cars? lmao!
ThaWholigan Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 I was agreeing with you, my reply was aimed at the OP. Apologies
Algermas Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 Apologies Np man, I can see why you'd think it was aimed at you.
Shaun-Dro Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 I always like hearing women talk about how men take rejection as though they know what's going on. Women avoid any chance of rejection like the plague because it would shatter their frail egos, yet they critique how men take it. This is true. Women never put themselves out there. And I mean never! I only see them standing around with their butts poked out or flipping their hair around or some other typical lame excuse to attract a man, but it's not the same as putting themselves out there and actually approaching a man they're interested in and making it clear that they're interested. Guys always have to do the guessing game with them. I hear stories of different men getting approached for something but it's never anything to show genuine interest from a woman. She's that much of a chicken! So, all this equal-equal claptrap being thrown around is just to make women feel better about themselves, nothing more, until proven otherwise.
Bristolius Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 Hahaha! Some guys here are taking it bad that the OP, who they don't know, rejected some guy they don't know. 1
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