kallen84 Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 So as the topic says its just random at times during the night she will call or send me a message one night she called for 3 hours in a row if it was about our kids i could see but if i didnt pick up there are other ways she could get ahold of me if its for them.Last night she called and keep saying she needed her password to aol and stuff when i picked it up i told her i didnt have them and asked was that all she needed.Why do exs do this kind of stuff to us,btw i am a guy.
2sunny Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 So as the topic says its just random at times during the night she will call or send me a message one night she called for 3 hours in a row if it was about our kids i could see but if i didnt pick up there are other ways she could get ahold of me if its for them.Last night she called and keep saying she needed her password to aol and stuff when i picked it up i told her i didnt have them and asked was that all she needed.Why do exs do this kind of stuff to us,btw i am a guy. Because she's drunk?
Author kallen84 Posted June 23, 2012 Author Posted June 23, 2012 Nope she has never been drunk and called and its always when shes not with the ex or he is asleep or something.
2sunny Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 Nope she has never been drunk and called and its always when shes not with the ex or he is asleep or something. Block her...
january2011 Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 She's inconsiderate. Unless it's a child-related emergency, ignore her. She will soon learn that you will not respond unless it's important and an emergency. And AOL passwords do not fall under that category. Having said that, be careful. She can use the kids as leverage. You don't have to be nice to her. However, I suggest that you retreat to a place of polite disinterest in anything that doesn't relate to the kids. Maintain and defend your boundaries. Otherwise, she will never leave you alone so that you can move forward with the rest of your life.
EgoJoe Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 Probably because she has been told by her Mother, Aunts, Sisters, Grandmother etc. etc. That because she has a vagina she is more important, that her feelings are more important and real, that every man owes her dinner and flowers and that all she has to do in life no matter how fat, deaf, dumb, broke etc. she is is pop out a kid and she owns that guy forever. This is the short list too. That is what type of Woman your Ex probably is. See a Lawyer and get full custody. Your children will probably be better off not knowing their Mother.
Gulf-Delta Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 Probably because she has been told by her Mother, Aunts, Sisters, Grandmother etc. etc. That because she has a vagina she is more important, that her feelings are more important and real, that every man owes her dinner and flowers and that all she has to do in life no matter how fat, deaf, dumb, broke etc. she is is pop out a kid and she owns that guy forever. This is the short list too. That is what type of Woman your Ex probably is. See a Lawyer and get full custody. Your children will probably be better off not knowing their Mother. You're a bitch
EgoJoe Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 You're a bitch Fantastic hypothesis. However, we're going to require empirical data in order to process your reality defining statement as anything other than an Ego lashing out.
Gulf-Delta Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 Fantastic hypothesis. However, we're going to require empirical data in order to process your reality defining statement as anything other than an Ego lashing out. You made your "analysis" without any emperical data, and with no knowledge of the relationship of poster and his ex. Seems kinda unfair to make such a wild conclusion with so little knowledge. Based on your post, I concluded you're bitter and sad. Sorry you've been hurt so bad that it forced you to judge people with so little knowledge.
EgoJoe Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 Probably because she has been told by her Mother, Aunts, Sisters, Grandmother etc. etc. That because she has a vagina she is more important, that her feelings are more important and real, that every man owes her dinner and flowers and that all she has to do in life no matter how fat, deaf, dumb, broke etc. she is is pop out a kid and she owns that guy forever. This is the short list too. That is what type of Woman your Ex probably is. See a Lawyer and get full custody. Your children will probably be better off not knowing their Mother. Two probablys change the whole context, that is, if you know how to read things in context obviously. Simultaneously, I chose to allude to experience with regard to pattern recognition in these circumstances. I've seen your posts G-D and I think you're looking for hope in all the wrong places. Not only that, but, your Ex does something similar and has you so worked still that you're jumping to defend her behavior to spare yourself pain. See how that works? It's called using previous experience to close a gap on data, you could call it assumption or you could call it by it's legal term. Ratification of the preponderence of evidence to draw a definitive conflusion beyond a reasonable doubt. I got a good laugh at your attempt to deflect and then project. It puts your first post into context, denial. It is pretty sad really to watch you defend this behavior because it happened to you and you're struggling to admit the truth. That you were outsmarted, played and cast aside like a worthless piece of crap...just like the rest of us down trodden Egos. No better than anyone else. Not special, not loved and not desired. Just like everybody else at some point in their life. tl;dr Nobody forced me to say probably and then launch into the most obvious mental pattern, frame of mind etc. I'm not bitter either, I'm objective, awake and alive in reality. There are good Women out there. They are simply rare and not all of them are even for me.
Gulf-Delta Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 Two probablys change the whole context, that is, if you know how to read things in context obviously. Simultaneously, I chose to allude to experience with regard to pattern recognition in these circumstances. I've seen your posts G-D and I think you're looking for hope in all the wrong places. Not only that, but, your Ex does something similar and has you so worked still that you're jumping to defend her behavior to spare yourself pain. See how that works? It's called using previous experience to close a gap on data, you could call it assumption or you could call it by it's legal term. Ratification of the preponderence of evidence to draw a definitive conflusion beyond a reasonable doubt. I got a good laugh at your attempt to deflect and then project. It puts your first post into context, denial. It is pretty sad really to watch you defend this behavior because it happened to you and you're struggling to admit the truth. That you were outsmarted, played and cast aside like a worthless piece of crap...just like the rest of us down trodden Egos. No better than anyone else. Not special, not loved and not desired. Just like everybody else at some point in their life. tl;dr Nobody forced me to say probably and then launch into the most obvious mental pattern, frame of mind etc. I'm not bitter either, I'm objective, awake and alive in reality. There are good Women out there. They are simply rare and not all of them are even for me. I think you're getting me confused with someone else. I've done nothing but hold my ex responsible for her actions, and haven't done any "defending" of her or her actions :/ Sorry that you were, eh, "Played, cast aside, outsmarted," and someone made you feel "not special, loved, desired". Not everyone shares the same experience/circumstances Your "probably"s don't change the fact that you made a conclusion like that.
EgoJoe Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 (edited) Yes, my probablys do change my conclusion as there is no final conclusion beyond get a Lawyer and get custody. As far as holding your Ex responsible from the gate Exhibit A: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/second-chances/324109-what-happened-my-girl Also, no need to be sorry those didn't truly happen to me to that degree and are only things that the Ego interprets as wrongs. Not only that, but, nobody can make you feel anything but sensation and that is a scientific fact. I do like how you keep playing into my hand and taking the bait. As I read your entire post despite seeing the specifics and responding in kind reads: Denial, Deflection and Projection. Tl;dr Lashing out and scrambling for a foundation is so manly, right? Edited June 24, 2012 by EgoJoe
Tiera D Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 ahh Delta playing the adversary again eh?but Ego you could use a softer tone though OP perhaps you should really start considering getting your childrens custody,i think perhaps you could give a more stable home to them than her TD
Gulf-Delta Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 (edited) Yes, my probablys do change my conclusion as there is no final conclusion beyond get a Lawyer and get custody. As far as holding your Ex responsible from the gate Exhibit A: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/second-chances/324109-what-happened-my-girl Also, no need to be sorry those didn't truly happen to me to that degree and are only things that the Ego interprets as wrongs. Not only that, but, nobody can make you feel anything but sensation and that is a scientific fact. I do like how you keep playing into my hand and taking the bait. As I read your entire post despite seeing the specifics and responding in kind reads: Denial, Deflection and Projection. Tl;dr Lashing out and scrambling for a foundation is so manly, right? Look at the date of that first post bud You have yet to explain your position/opinion of me "deflecting, projecting, derp, derp". Edited June 26, 2012 by Gulf-Delta
Gulf-Delta Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 ahh Delta playing the adversary again eh? This is a forum to help people, and the people asking for help are usually in extremely fragile states of mind. The negativity and allegations thrown around by the "helpers", especially with such little information and knowledge, doesn't help anyone, and sounds almost as if they're trying to break the "asker" down as much as possible. I understand people need a reality check sometimes, but being SO brutal and negative is uncalled for. In many ways, it's a pit of black, souless ****, and most of the "helpers" are people who aren't healed AND they have a god-complex. Look at Ego's post...don't you think that's a little harsh AND presumptuous on his part considering he doesn't know EITHER the OP or his ex. I've visited a couple other forums like this, and LS is by far the most bitter and negative. People come here for help and advice. Last thing they need is some person who doesn't even know them telling them how they're supposed to act or trying to put things in their heads.
Follower Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 OnTopic: Sounds like she is trying to assert control over you, its probably not done in a conscious manner but that's what it reads as to me, desperation. As others have said stick with looking after you. Fighting over Kids is a rather extreme move but i an in ignorance to backstory ect ect, i will say its always best for children to have access to BOTH parents and its always better if a mutual ground can be reached civilly by all parties involved. OffTopic: Everyone above really needs to grow up. Stick with helping people instead of these personal attacks... If you want to go gun for gun at each other fine but do it in a topic that doesn't involve an innocent party seeking some assistance....
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