vtgirl Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 I've been with my bf for 6 months, we are living together, and overall we have a great relationship. I think the problem is all me.. Usually he is very physical, etc, but the past week he has been distant..not talking to me much, doesnt say I love you all day, no lovey text messages like he used to. His family tells me not to worry, that he's just stressed about work..but he never acts distant to me. When I ask him what's wrong, he says work..he gets home and gives me a one handed hug, but tells his dog that he loves her soooo much. When he leaves for work, again a one handed hug, and a tiny peck..it's just different. Last night, we took a road trip with his friend, and he said he likes our relationship, and loves me. That made me feel better. I'm not sure what to think. I am a bit insecure, because I love our relationship, and always want to make him happy. But here I am every day worrying myself to death, because he doesn't say I love you, etc.. I have asked him if anything is wrong, and he said it has nothing to do with me, but I still wonder.
MooBear Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 (edited) Try not to stress about it. I know when my boyfriend is busy at work or not really enjoying it, he is very distant with me. I get the hello/goodbye peck on the lips and "how was your day, what's for dinner" and that's pretty much the extent of it for a few days. I used to worry a lot and would push him to tell me what was going on and he just retreated further. He says it's work and says he loves you so trust what he says and try to be as supportive as you can and he'll come good again EDIT: Oh and as for not saying I love you? Mine rarely does either, he believes actions speak louder than words so don't stress. A lot of men are like that x Edited June 23, 2012 by MooBear Adding extra line
veggirl Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 Do you talk about your relationship with him with his family? Well 6 mos in, the honeymoon period is probably ending. How come you guys moved in so quickly? At some point you settle into more a routine, the desire to be all over one another will fade a bit, though obviously not go away. He says he is happy with your R, I guess you need to believe that, perhaps he has just found his comfort level. How long have you lived together? How long were you living together before you noticed this change?
Author vtgirl Posted June 23, 2012 Author Posted June 23, 2012 I just talk to his sister in law.. We've been living together for 3 months. Yes, we moved quickly. Its just been the past week i've noticed a change in him..
veggirl Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 I just talk to his sister in law.. We've been living together for 3 months. Yes, we moved quickly. Its just been the past week i've noticed a change in him.. The past week? Isn't this the guy you posted about in May? Sorry but this relationship is doomed, I'm sad that you are still with this guy who does not seem to care about you at all. He was texting another girl, back in April according to your previous post. He started fading away a month ago, he still has many ties to an ex. You need to leave him.
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