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Why does he still want to hurt me??


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I am seeing a therapist on Tuesday to discuss this, but could use some support...

 

To follow up on my previous post, I was in an on-again, off-again relationship with "Jack" for a few years. We work at the same company, although he is not always working on site. While we had a passionate connection, I ended things with him several times because of his bad behavior towards me. I know I should not have kept going back, especially with signs such as the fact that he broke his hand while "punching a wall at his ex-wife's house. " :(

 

I finally had gotten him out of my head last Christmas, when he started texting and pursuing me. We ended up sleeping together. He told me that he was seeing someone else but will always love me. This was yet another red flag to me and I ended things. He did not take it welll, hanging up on me and refusing to talk.

 

Since then, and it has gotten worse since he has been in the office lately, he seems so hostile, even though he always makes sure to bring his girlfriend with him (which is odd, since she doesn't work at the same company). When she is not around, he gives me mean looks and refused to answer a work-realted question. Others have noticed this too. I don't understand why, if he is happy with his girlfriend, he still has such animosity towards me and cannot just be cordial and move on...Anyone? Other than ending our relationship, which I did in a nice way, I was nothing but kind to him.

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He's a user and you spoiled his game by calling him out. I suspect that he also has anger management and impulse control issues. But that's not your concern anymore unless you experience violence from him or witness him being violent towards someone else.

 

I strongly suggest that you look for another job and take this as a lesson learned to not get involved with someone at work.

 

And please block and delete him. Only talk to him if someone else is present and copy someone else in on emails.

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He needs a victim - every abuser does. Don't allow it to be YOU!

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He needs a victim - every abuser does. Don't allow it to be YOU!

 

I couldn't have said it better.

 

And the abuser usually KNOWS who will allow their bad behavior. It's an insult to the abused person's self esteem and should never be tolerated.

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