Nancy B Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 I've posted here about breaking up with my boyfriend in a foreign country. 3 year on off relationship. He moved out a month ago and said we'd stay friends. He didnt know what he wanted for us. Told me not to lose hope. I have spent the past month hoping he might become more certain. We are heading home to visit friends in August for a month. We had been planning to visit another country in this time off to see some friends. These were his friends first but I was grew relatively close to some of them. Anyway, I was quite sick this week and he took care of me. We were getting ready to go out for dinner and I asked him what hope there is for us...he basicially said none, its not what he wants, he was uncertain, hes now certain. He went on to say he doesnt really want me coming on this trip to see the friends. I am devestated, Ive been checking flight prices for weeks and hes aware of this. How can someone who says they want to stay friends treat another person this way. He walked out of here and I rang him to say I have a right to be angry over him basicially telling me not to come on the trip. He hung up. I feel absolutley lost. I couldve came to terms with the break up. but what hope is there now for friends
Ruby65 Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 Friends with an ex is not a good idea -- not while you still have romantic feelings for them. If one of your girlfriends had behaved this way and told you they didn't really want you to come on this trip, you might have been disappointed or a little hurt or angry..... but you wouldn't have been posting on a forum about it. It wouldn't feel devastating to you. He's not your friend. He's your ex-boyfriend and everything he says and does is going to cut you like a knife (for a while -- not forever.) Do yourself a favor and take some time away from him to heal. Go NC and get through this breakup..... then maybe someday when you're fully healed and over him you really CAN be friends!
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