SunandMoon Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 So I have a huge crush on an online friend (never met her in person) and have had it for like 6 months now. We swapped numbers back in Februray and we text pretty often, so I've gotten to know her a bit (we share quite a few common intrests and whatnot.) And I think she is just absolutely amazing...But she has a boyfirend, I'm not certain how long she has been with him or not, I just know he treats her well and loves her (which is great of course.) As she feels and does the same. Some time ago I finally just admitted to her I had a crush (which she kinda suspected) after she had sent me message about flirting a lot; one she had sad faced me at the end of. I told her I'm just kind of that way. She had told me "I didn't wanna hurt your feeling some people are just that way." And the hilarious part was her boyfriend was not about 5 or miniutes away from her house after I had just confessed my crush. I was so worried the confession would change our friendship...delighted to know it wouldn't when she texted me back later that night after he had left. So she knows, but said nothing about it... I had been flirting with her very often still and just recently learned she had let it slip to her boyfriend that I did. He wasn't happy about that to say the least. He thought I was bugging the crap out of her with it, but she said I was "harmless" with it. And whenever I did flirt she'd very light-heartedly fight back. It was fun and I enjoyed it, apparently she was a bit bothered by it. I felt like a jerk and promised I would do my best to stop. That's honestly killing me...but that's neither here nor there. But yeah, the point to all this.... lol. I'm curious if I should just go ahead and ask her how she feels about me, but that may change our friendship (a friendship which I adore) and I don't want to lose her...she's really is one of the most important people in my life. She makes it wonderful and has changed me for the better. (Whether she knows all that or not.) Or if I should wait out their relationship (if it ends...) and ask then...or if I should ask at all. I'm just clueless on how to approach it. So advice/opinions on what to do would be appreciated. Note: I have a feeling there is a moderately-high probability of getting shot down by her. And well that would just suck, but I think I'm prepared for such an answer, whenever/if I get one.
FitChick Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 She won't choose someone she's never even met over someone she has been dating unless he beats the crap out of her. You need to find someone in real life. You must be very young.
jobaba Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 So I have a huge crush on an online friend (never met her in person) and have had it for like 6 months now. We swapped numbers back in Februray and we text pretty often, so I've gotten to know her a bit (we share quite a few common intrests and whatnot.) And I think she is just absolutely amazing...But she has a boyfirend, I'm not certain how long she has been with him or not, I just know he treats her well and loves her (which is great of course.) As she feels and does the same. Some time ago I finally just admitted to her I had a crush (which she kinda suspected) after she had sent me message about flirting a lot; one she had sad faced me at the end of. I told her I'm just kind of that way. She had told me "I didn't wanna hurt your feeling some people are just that way." And the hilarious part was her boyfriend was not about 5 or miniutes away from her house after I had just confessed my crush. I was so worried the confession would change our friendship...delighted to know it wouldn't when she texted me back later that night after he had left. So she knows, but said nothing about it... I had been flirting with her very often still and just recently learned she had let it slip to her boyfriend that I did. He wasn't happy about that to say the least. He thought I was bugging the crap out of her with it, but she said I was "harmless" with it. And whenever I did flirt she'd very light-heartedly fight back. It was fun and I enjoyed it, apparently she was a bit bothered by it. I felt like a jerk and promised I would do my best to stop. That's honestly killing me...but that's neither here nor there. But yeah, the point to all this.... lol. I'm curious if I should just go ahead and ask her how she feels about me, but that may change our friendship (a friendship which I adore) and I don't want to lose her...she's really is one of the most important people in my life. She makes it wonderful and has changed me for the better. (Whether she knows all that or not.) Or if I should wait out their relationship (if it ends...) and ask then...or if I should ask at all. I'm just clueless on how to approach it. So advice/opinions on what to do would be appreciated. Note: I have a feeling there is a moderately-high probability of getting shot down by her. And well that would just suck, but I think I'm prepared for such an answer, whenever/if I get one. Wow. You have a long way to go in terms of learning to deal with women.
Author SunandMoon Posted June 23, 2012 Author Posted June 23, 2012 @FitChick: I'm 23...not that young. Just very inexperienced, honestly. Wow. You have a long way to go in terms of learning to deal with women. .....Yep....Kinda why I joined.
Author SunandMoon Posted July 10, 2012 Author Posted July 10, 2012 Wanted to mention I had no intention of trying to break them apart or anything. She's happy, so yeah.... But, Just to update. She somewhat brought it up a few days ago. Not how she felt in so many words, just that there is no hope for a relationship. Which kinda sucks. But I was prepared for and still friends with her, so happy with that. But maybe when we have met and things have changed - and are old, like, 60 or something... one can dream I'll get my chance one day, maybe.
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