Frank13 Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 It's going on 6 months since the break up and NC. I ended it because she lost feelings for me. I actually missed her the most at 4 months into NC and it stayed that way more or less for a month. Things had been going well for me and I didn't think of her so much prior to that, but for some reason months 4-5 were the worst. Today I wake up and for the first time I am really feeling over her and indifferent. Like someone I used to know a long time ago. I realized this is how she has probably thought of me since the break up and how breaking NC would have meant absolutely nothing to her and I would have been ignored. I felt I had just turned another corner. Now tonight she is back on my mind again and I am feeling how easy it would to contact her and to be to be back in each other's lives, even just as friends. Of course I am not going to break NC and ruin the healing and progress I have made. My goal is to be feel so indifferent to her that when the time comes that we could be friends, I won't want to even bother. My question though is, which of my emotions are the real ones? I know over the months my emotions were all over the place and would fluctuate from one extreme to the other, from one minute to the next. I realized that was normal. But today was the first time I felt indifferent toward her and realized what a fool I would have looked like to break NC, yet here I am now feeling close to her and like it would be easy to break NC and we could be friends.
january2011 Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 They're all real. But you don't have to act on them. All you have to do is acknowledge them, take a timeout if you need to, but otherwise get on with your life. 2
Author Frank13 Posted June 23, 2012 Author Posted June 23, 2012 One more thing. For the past week or two I have had this super strong feeling that she is going to reach out to me and break NC. Almost like a sixths sense. I don't know why. There hasn't been any event or any reason for her to do this. She didn't even break NC for my birthday last month. I have no idea why I feel this way, but it is weird.
LoveAnimals Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 Give it more time..It could very well be real but healing is a crazy process one day you are doing well and the next.. not so much.
TaraMaiden Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 Emotions are real. But Emotions are NOT WHO YOU ARE. They're an appendage, an accessory, a filler.. you have to feel *some way* some time, so they come and go, because they're ephemeral, they're variable and they're a product of our mind. as you have discovered. so while they're there, acknowledge them and then let them be. Try to let them be in your mind, but not occupy it to the exclusion of other better things. You're not 'happy' you FEEL happy. You're not 'sad. You FEEL sad. Feel - and then let go. 3
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