agz137 Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 I know this post is unnecessary, but I have to share with someone, even if strangers. I had been in a relationship for three years. First real relationship, and with someone two years younger than I am. I am 22 years old. About a year ago or more, I don't remember, I started getting bothered/mad at my ex (broke up with him about over a week even though still talked to him a bit). Get mad he getting call at least once a day for even a min, or how he does nothing when I'm mad at him and he tells me he doesn't want to deal with it. As I see and feel, all those times I have been mad it has built up to this point and has gotten worse ever since December of 2011. I know I am not the best girlfriend ever. I read other peoples post similiar to mine as I can find, and yes I can see calling myself verbally abusing my ex since I say a lot of bad things and have put him down...I get so frustrated and angry at him... I feel like he doesn't love me anymore or care about me. I probably broke up with him like twenty times and each time he does nothing and makes me feel more like I'm not wanted, which is probably true and would be true if he didn't keep saying he loves me etc etc etc which I believe is Bs cause if he loves me so much why does he do nothing whenver I am mad or try to understand how I see things and feel about things...One example: I read his old emails from 2009 like last year, and that was when we were eight months together. I found his emails flirty (I could be wrong, but It really bothered me) and silly. Him saying "your the only girl I talk to", "Only person I can be myself around", "your the only person I relate to", " I want to visit you so badly" (he said that like five times...) *And yes I may have over stated a few of those quoetes but he did say it like he ddidn't have a girlfriend, even though he told me he had told Her that he was in a relationship*. Anyways, I tell him I feel like he was flirting, he just respones "I didn't flirt". Shouldn't he try to understand how I feel instead of always replying "I didn't flirt"?. Not my real question. I don't know what my question is. I want to feel wanted. I want him to actually SHOW he wants me and loves me as he has been saying. I'm tired of words. And I know I shouldn't be talking because I know I am horrible to him even though he says I'm not. I should probably leave him alone, huh? I'm sorry for the long post. Actually, none of this is accurate on how I'm feeling or the whole story.
january2011 Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 I suspect that he's trying to protect himself from further injury. Breaking up with someone, "like twenty times" can do that to a person. I'm wondering if you should call it quits permanently rather than this back and forth, which is tiring out both of you and probably making both of you miserable.
drivingmyselfcrazy Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 Hey girl, I feel you in a sense. I will get mad at my man and he just says :whatever" because he knows Im just in a ****ty mood... I also get pissed when he doesn't fix why I am upset but most the time I have no idea why I am so pissed. It's just me, I get like that Anyway, normally what he does is deal with it then doesn't talk to me for a whole day then messages me asking me if I am okay right now? BUT I have been extra snappy without the intimacy thing and he doesn't get it! he copes so much better. Iam so confused I posted on here but no one has gotten back to me. Just tell him straight up why he won't help you out when you are ****ty.
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