Leigh 87 Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 Do people have strong intuitions of their boyfriends going back to the exes one day? That turns out to be ACTUALLY happen? I have had dreams and I have a dreaded, bad feeling about my bofriend and his ex. I have talked to her and have a general picture of her, and she is a very unique girl and my b.f did have a special feelig about her - she was far better than any girl he had ever met from his narrow circle i his home country, before he travelled to meet her, and in a way I cannot explain. She was just prettier, more clever, and far more fun and crazy than the moer boring and less edcauted and less attractive girls where he lives. I am not sure if it is because I have a huge complex about my nose ( it is crooked, I have hated it my enture life, and hers is feminine and small) She is also more attractive than me, and better educated. I am secure in my core personality ( I am kind, quirky, fun, loves learning), but I am NOT totally confident with who I am yet, over all ( my core personality PLUS the effort I put in, to being a better version of myself). Basically: I am not all that secure with who I am in life right now, therefore it makes me feel bad about him and his ex, because she has her sh*t together, and IS very confident with who she is in life, and she is also prettier in a way I have always fantasised about ( small nose, I have always hated my crooked on). Is it true intuition I have about my bf and his ex? Or, is it the fact that she is genuiely a very, very high quality girl ( speaks 4 languages, has a sexy foreign accent, has manhy friends, has a master degree and yet travels a lot and parties hard with people) A gut instinct, or the fact she is genuinely a better quality girl than me? And yes, I believe in self inprovement, and believe that I wil too reach her level, in terms of the over all package.. I am just not there yet, being perfectly honest. I Just have a very bad feeling that when she visits Australia, he will get his old feelings back - he never stopped liking her, they just had to go back to their home countries, after 4 months of travel. His feelings never died, he just had to live without her. The biggest factor, is: she has achieved a that elusive level of self confidence that gets a guy to fall in love with you. I, on the other hand, have not reached the stage where I feel a guy CAN fall truly in love with me.
Author Leigh 87 Posted June 23, 2012 Author Posted June 23, 2012 Come on, surely there are people on here, who have been in happy relationships, and then the guy has fallen for the ex; obviously, although they loved you, they were not in love.. I think if I work on my fitness ( I tend to not feel confidet if i sit around all day, and if I am not quiet fit), and work on my career objctives, as well as focus on fun learning such as my Spanish and French, and also build myself up in other wise.. I will not worry about him and his ex. I am hoping it is a matter ofme needing to better myself and in turn, improve my self esteem; and not a genuine intuition, whereby he does fall for her when he next sees her.
january2011 Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 It happened to me. We were together 10+ years and had been living together for over half that time. He married her about eight months after we broke up. He was in touch with her during the first year of our relationship and also visited her during a break in our relationship. To say that I shouldn't have taken him back is an understatement. In my case, she wasn't a better quality girl - she was frequently and voluntarily the OW in at least a couple of other relationships. However, they were each other's first loves (long distance) and they never got over each other despite long-term relationships with other people. I can't tell you if you have "true instinct" but I can tell you that if you allow your insecurities and doubt to colour your interactions with him, then it will increase the probability that you will push them back together out of curiosity, just to see if there's anything there.
Author Leigh 87 Posted June 23, 2012 Author Posted June 23, 2012 I strongly think it is my ow perception I have of of myself, and my insecurities. Iam obviously not the best version of myself that I could be - i could be doing a lot better, whilst still liking the core of who I am... So, I just better keep improving myself, until I get to that more serene, confident place where I honestly can say that yes, I am a good vesion of myself.
Author Leigh 87 Posted June 23, 2012 Author Posted June 23, 2012 And she is not the type to interfere with relationships! I spoke with her on facebook, and she was very clear with me that she was very happy for him to have found me, that she never saw a future with him, and that they simply had fun whilst travelling, and he was merely a very good friend with benifits to her. She may gave loved or been in love, but she is an extremely attractive girl with options, therefore she is not exactly pinig after him, and never did. She is not the type, unless she truly was in love. Even so she has easily got on with her life after him, and had fun with various guys in the months after they said goodbye. Unless they are in love, and feel that apparent immediate connection some people believe in in the movies - the " in love, I have found the one" feeling..... Then she would not do anything. She woulsd respect the fact I would not like her moving in on my guy. Even if they were in love, she would not let him cheat, and neither would he. They both have great integrity. It would just be one of those horrible situations, where they realise it is true love, and figure out the best way to deal with it ( i.e, him ending the relationship with me before going off with her) It is horrible, but it happens, and it is better than cheating first! My fear, stems from the fact that I am worried he is not really in love with me, ( based on a poster on here who is convinced we are not in love and the very detailed account of WHY), and that a better quality girl who he has a special place for and MIGHT possible me IN love with, will come along. If he is not in love with either of us, then he would have something for her, if I am not good enough, and she is far moer a remarkable person than me at the time of their meeting. ON the bright side, I can see us all sitting down and having fun together when she visits! She sounds like she is very fun and we would all have fun together. I feel that it is my own low esteem and perception of myself getting int he way, and as long as I feel better about myself, then I could actually hand out with them both and enjoy it. If I am secure in myself in the end, and he truly does love me enough, I should not worry about a past flame, that he thinks is an amazing girl?
Joaquin Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 (edited) The worst experience I've ever had was being with a girl who I felt hadn't detached from her ex. It's was just awful in the pit of my stomach having the girl but feeling i did not really have her heart so to speak. I don't think it's about whether you are secure or not, whose hotter or whose richer. It goes a bit deeper and it's usually not about you or who you are. It's between two other people and you (not Necessarily you op, but people in the situation) are the unfortunate that's got themselves sucked in the middle. I think you just have to be alert to the red flags of a person that isn't really giving you their all. That isnt really committed to only you. I think the biggest red flag is contact with ex's or someone who just can't leave their ex alone. A lot of people might call that insecure but my own experience has shaped that view. If someone can't leave their ex in the past, then they can go join them and be my past. Edited June 23, 2012 by Joaquin 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 Yes. I was right too. I was with this guy for a few months and I was really falling for him. Looking back now, I think that it was mostly that he was exceptionally good looking and had a great sense of humour. He was a s.. person though. He was still friends with his ex and they spoke occasionally. He was always saying that he is completely over her and she was in a LTR with someone else. But it was just...change in his mood when he spoke to her. A flushed face...just little things that someone less observant would miss. I felt sick over it. She was not better than me though, in fact she was pretty much worse in every way. The only thing she had was really extroverted and socially charming personality with tons of friends. He ended up leaving me for her and they were together for 2 years before she left him (again) and married some rich guy. In retaliation he married someone else 2 months after she got engaged to this guy. They both have kids now but I think they will always have feelings for each other - and don't care about their new partners
Notforever Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 This one hits home so I had to post! Until now I've been posting in the breakup section, which leads me to my answer... First month of dating my boyfriend he would always make comments about his ex and had some communication with her. After a few months this stopped when I told him I couldn't take it anymore (we finally got comfortable enough with making more rules). I was with him for two years and lived with him for 6 months. I've always needed a lot of reassurance (she's gorgeous, cute, funny, more similar interests with him) and they were each others first loves. On usually more than a weekly basis he would have to comfort and remind me that he would never go back to her, he didn't even truly love her, he didn't Ben like her and even if we broke up he would be embarrassed to talk to her ever because he disliked her so much. I favebooked her during one fight and she said she was happy for us, had no interest and their relationship sucked. This guy who swore I would be the one to leave him left me and is now on great terms with her. Im sure I pushed him towards it by nagging him but it was inevitable. Now all I see is their pictures together on Facebook. I'm much better off without him, but yes sometimes you should listen to that voice in your head.
Bridgey Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 Does your "intuition" stem from anything your boyfriend says or does? Or does this all come down to how attractive and well off the ex seems to be? All that should matter is how comfortable your boyfriend makes you feel in your relationship. My boyfriend still talks to one of his ex's every once in a while, but it doesn't bother me at all because he makes it obvious he doesn't have those kinds of feelings for her anymore. Don't dwell on the ex if your boyfriend isn't giving you a reason to do so. If he is giving you a reason you should see it as a red flag and reconsider the relationship.
phineas Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 I've dated women who talked about their ex's WAY too much & wanted to "take things slow" my gut told me something shady was going on after a little while. They were all sleeping with the ex. Not gone back to them but secretly sleeping with them while I filled in the spot of "BF". These days if a woman mentions her ex boyfriend to me more than a few times of her own volition & it has nothing to do with anything we are talking about I will usually move on because honestly, she can't be all that into me if she's thinking about her ex. 1
FitChick Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 Leigh, go for consultations with a few plastic surgeons in your area and look at their rhinoplasty before and after photos. Get a price. Than start saving money for the operation. If you believe your nose is holding you back, get it fixed and then you can focus on other things for a change. I know someone who was just like you and she wasn't even half as attractive. Her nosejob changed her life (she still had a big nose but it suited her face and was better shaped). She was much more pleasant to be around because she wasn't so self-absorbed because she could finally look past her nose! 1
Author Leigh 87 Posted June 24, 2012 Author Posted June 24, 2012 Leigh, go for consultations with a few plastic surgeons in your area and look at their rhinoplasty before and after photos. Get a price. Than start saving money for the operation. If you believe your nose is holding you back, get it fixed and then you can focus on other things for a change. I know someone who was just like you and she wasn't even half as attractive. Her nosejob changed her life (she still had a big nose but it suited her face and was better shaped). She was much more pleasant to be around because she wasn't so self-absorbed because she could finally look past her nose! My nose is soooooooooooooo annoying! the BANe of my existance; and I am a person who KNOW'S how lucky I am, to not be disfugured, to not be in a whealchair, and the fact it is only my NOSE that holds me back physically, is VERY LUCKY; there are people FAR worse off... That said, I would be WAY much more pleasant to look at, and in turn, be more confident and social; I am already very frienfly and social, and NOT an introvert... but I am not as outgoing as I naturally feel like, due to my nose. It is not big, just long and I have a horrid profile; two dents. Not a smooth, upturned, girl nose. GRR! It is SUCH a waste! I mean, I can be thin easily, have a killer body when I an fit and work out ( a natural thin yet hourglass), and nice big eyes, thick lips, and pepetually clear skin.. .................... Yet, I walk past thick women, with thinning hair, that are not pleasant to look at, but happen to have GREAT, small girl noses! I shall be getting a nose job ASAP. As soon as I get a job - I am looking for work currently and doing a course to attain the job more swiftly
Author Leigh 87 Posted June 24, 2012 Author Posted June 24, 2012 The thing is, her and I stand out A LOT from any other girl he has previously met; we BOTH were soveyr different from the ru iof the mill, normal girls he grew up with and socialized with. He had a huge social circle growing up... He is still interested in her comments on facebook; what she has to say about anything is of interest to him, you can tell her words and what she has to say are still special to him. I put it down to her genuiely being a prett awesome character! She is an awesome girl, who he got very close to, so he still cares what she has to say and has interest in it. After all, she is genuinely very interesting. They seldom write. They stopped messaging one another about a month before I met my bf - it was because she was studying for her masters, partying, and moving through Europe a lot, and could not message him as much, and fell out of touch. He said he thought about her a lot at that stage, and missed talking to her.Regardless of missing her messages, he never persisted at cotacting her; if she stopped talking, he is the type to let it be. He DOES miss the close friendship they had via facebook, but he is not devastated about her, or really that upset. He just misses a really great girl he had to talk to; a girl who was far greater than the other girls he had met, and better to talk to than anyone else he had met. Honestly, i think the reason I am worried is because -she IS a great girl! I have yet to speak to many people as exciting, intelliget, fun, and as beautiful as her - she is intelligent and has a masters degree, yet partys hard, is interested in travelling the world ( she has a masters in tourism management), and speaks 4 languages. SHe is smart, beautifu, yet still very fun and interesting! - she has a small, upturned girly nose and a beautiful profile; where as I have a crooked nose, which really makes me mroe harsh and less feminine and less pretty than her, and I belive this makes me less sexually appealing to him! I mean - a hooked nose girl, will not be as sexuall arousing as a girl witha small, feminine nose. - she has more academic qualifications under her belt. What do I have going for me? - Besides my nose, I am very attractive to him, and have a body he likes better ( curvy yet slim, where as she is just slim and no @rse). However, with my nose, she is 8 - 9.10, where as I am 7. - I know who I am and what career I aspire to ( personal training and a travel sales consultant, the I want to do a degree in spcial sciences) Sadly, I had anorexia and a mental illness for the past 5 - 6 years, and ws socially isolated. So, I have been starting my life as a adult again and rebuilding it,. but I know who I am and what I want to achieve career wise. I got a good entrance score into Uni. He knows that. - I have passions and hobbies I am exploring : ( learning Spanish and French, I am apt to learing lanugages, opposed to maths driven subjects), and I like to draw abstract type art which I doodle on note pads. Not good work to sell - but I do it because I love it and cannot help myself from drawing. I do not sit around doing nothing, and have to draw, learn a language, or go for a hike/walk, or talk to a varity of people aroud the world, to gain greater knowledge on things. I ever just aimlessly sit around doing nothing. Yuck:sick: - I am very fit and healthy normally, and he knwos I am committed to being sexy, not just for him, but because I have high personal pride it helps the sex life with a long term partner, if you committ to being sexy... He is just as excited as when we first met, when I strip for him, show him my body naked.... - My boyfriend and I have a very unique bond, in that I am just... VERy different from any girl he has met!!!!!!!!! .... he calls me a unique specimen and likes to study me in general. I am the same as his ex in that sense we are two girls i his entire life who have stood out, in terms of being fun, crazy, and different from every other girl he has met. I am more different and slightly more.. stand outish in terms of being different to people, and he is very much into who I am. ..............So, she is better looking due to her nose, and has more academic qualifications than me; lastly, she has lots of friends, where as I don't in the new town I moved to. That said, my boyfriend knows that I have NOT achieved my academic goals and social goals, because I had anorexia for the past 6 years, and was socially isolated, and I am a big eater and failed to have the drive or energy and cognitive and mental capacity to focus on my studies while I He is not the type to think any less of a person, due to where they are in life; as long as they have a plan to better themselves. It is who they are, not what they have been through..... ANy thoughts? Is it because she has done better in life than me, and is better looking, that makes me worry? In addition to the fact he viewed his experience with her as the only girl in his life before me that was remarkable to him? he is very attached to me and it is clear his bond is with me, not her. I am worried that they might have the X factor, or SHE may have the X factor tohim, and he cannot control who is falls in love with? - -
Oxy Moronovich Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 I think the biggest red flag is contact with ex's or someone who just can't leave their ex alone. A lot of people might call that insecure but my own experience has shaped that view. If someone can't leave their ex in the past, then they can go join them and be my past. Exactly. The biggest bullsh*tters are those "still friends with my ex(es)" types of people. Who cares if people say you're insecure. It's not cool for people to be still friends with their ex. Either one or both party still has feelings for the other. Of course, these people won't admit it, because they'd be caught red-handed on their lies. Just don't date someone like that and let some other loser face their lies. 1
Author Leigh 87 Posted June 25, 2012 Author Posted June 25, 2012 Exactly. The biggest bullsh*tters are those "still friends with my ex(es)" types of people. Who cares if people say you're insecure. It's not cool for people to be still friends with their ex. Either one or both party still has feelings for the other. Of course, these people won't admit it, because they'd be caught red-handed on their lies. Just don't date someone like that and let some other loser face their lies. Neither of them saw it as a taboo, to keep in contact while he started seeing me. After all, they did naturally lose contact, because she had no time to message him, before I met my b.f. They only got i touch again because of me - because I was looking after his well being, and did not know what to do about his mothers death, and asked her, seeing as her father has died also and she was the only one who made him feel better about it when it first happened, a year earlier. After I initiated contact with her, and she messaged him in return, it is not like they talk often. Only once a month at most, if that. He feelsl ike he barly knows her anymore, but he does miss talking to her. I mean, is is really a matter of ' never talking to ex again!????? ' Because SHE only considered HIM as a very good friend to begin with< NOT a boyfriend....... He figures that they are good friends, they were very close when they travelled together, and why should he cease contact with a girl who was once very important in his life? Hanging out with the ex is wrong - but talking to a girl you once really liked, who lives o the other side of the world, when you believe you are in love with your girlfriend and have no interest in getting back with your ex, it seams normal for him to chat to her o facebook occasinally.
Author Leigh 87 Posted June 25, 2012 Author Posted June 25, 2012 hmm when I was with my boyfriend today, I did not feel a need to worry anymore. I feel like enough of a special individual to him, for him to not fall for other women. I guess the other girl isw very unique too, but since I know how attached he is to me, I am not worried. In a year or so, i can see myself way more confident, fighting fit and in a job on my career path of my choosing - and having a good time with him and that girl. Only for a few days while she visits, you know, I would not want tio have with him and his ex for longer than I needed to. She genuinely sees us meeting as her catching up with an old friend -she does not much feel like there is anything dubious about it, because there is just no ill intent from either of them. If she thought there was a chance he would leave me, she would not visit.
Snakechammah Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 You seem a little too enamoured by her. Perhaps it will be healthier to stop idolizing her? You are your own Goddess - with the nose and all. Maybe it's high time to LOVE yourself, everything that you are. She is no better than you. You have to believe that you are a special person in your own right. Stop comparing yourself to her - or others, for that matter. You won't be satisfied with life if you keep harping about what others have, and what you don't. Unless your nose is extremely disfigured, you have reasons to worry. Many atimes, there is trend when people go for cosmetic surgery for 'superficial' reasons (not burn victims or horrifying accidents)... there is something wrong with their self-esteem... and NOTHING wrong with the way they look. It's a vicious cycle. Today, it's the nose. When that's fixed, tomorrow it will be the lips. It's neverending. Look at the late Michael Jackson. The only worrying thing was his self-esteem disorder, nothing wrong with his natural looks. I hope you won't fall into the pits of wanting to change everything about yourself. Because you are already a Goddess in your own right. You just need to BELIEVE it.
xxoo Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 ANy thoughts? You are thinking about your bf's ex WAY too much. Consider this: Who spends more time thinking about his ex, you or him? Do you believe he makes lists of each of your pros and cons, comparing you? 2
stillafool Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 I think if I work on my fitness ( I tend to not feel confidet if i sit around all day, and if I am not quiet fit), and work on my career objctives, as well as focus on fun learning such as my Spanish and French, and also build myself up in other wise.. I will not worry about him and his ex. I am hoping it is a matter ofme needing to better myself and in turn, improve my self esteem; and not a genuine intuition, whereby he does fall for her when he next sees her. I really don't think any of those things matter. Some men leave (what society would call) a high quality woman for a lower quality woman. Sometimes it's just the emotional connection between two people that generate a chemistry that is hard to find and even harder to forget. I don't think you should try to make yourself like your bfs ex but be your own version of a fabulous woman.
kookybunny Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 To use film speak, when you compare your life to one of someone who you don't know personally, you are really comparing their highlight reel to your behind-the-scenes... Who knows, she could be really insecure that her nose is too small. She could be spoiled or entitled, afraid of committment, daddy issues, alcoholic.....people always seem great on paper or on facebook but you never have the whole story. If your guy wants to be with someone else, there;s nothing you can do about it anyway. All you can be is you. And if he doesn't want that, you are better off without him. It can be hard to just STOP negative thoughts, you have to make a plan and replace them with new ones the second they come up. Think of your happiest moment with your bf and your proudest moment in life. Every time you start to think of that chick, catch yourself and switch to one of those thoughts instead. Feel the emotions, try to remember every detail. In time
Author Leigh 87 Posted June 25, 2012 Author Posted June 25, 2012 THanks guys:) And no, he rarely talks about her, and only does so when he refers to his travels. He tells me she is just a really good friend - you know, they got kidnapped in central America together - he says she is just a very awesome girl, who he had a lot of fun being around, and also went throguh some hard times together when they were in them most dangerous places to visit. I idiolise her, in the sense that she has qualities and things that are actually in myself - that I have not explored yet. For instance; I am passionate about travel, and travelled around the USA and Asia, but then stopped and have not had the money since. ON the other hand, she ahs been all the places I WANT to go; Africa and central America, and gthen Europe after those places. And then of course, there is my dreaded nose. IT IS NOT EVEN THAT BAD - my nose. It has a slight dent in m profile,a nd that is it. It is not remotely " big". I just hate the profile I have. I have the looks of a very attractive women ( huge eyes and lips, clear skin and long hair) and my nose feels like a thing that gets between me being VERY hot, and just cute/hot to some. So, I guess I think about his ex because she has the things that I have always wanted for myself; I would have loved to have gotten a masters degree by now, travelled more extensively, and have a small, up turned nose. In terms of being ME, I really own that:) One thing I have learnt from my bf, is that it is great to find a person you can be truly yourself with - and a person who will laugh so much and think your the funniest, most unique and wonderful girl they have ever met. I have no doubt that I need to be a better version of ME and NOT copy another persons life. It just got weird, how the happens to be a little like me ( social, loves travel, is fun and crazy, yet likes more intellectual conversations and studying things). She just happens ot have some things I have always wanted for myself. I am confident enough in what I have with my boyfriend, to not be worried about him leaving. It is just hard to also picture how they left! They were very close, she was a perfect girl for him ( fun, crazy, clever, beautiful, he was in awe of her looks, as she has HUGE eyes and a really nice nose, and is stunning). So, the last time they were together, he was falling in love, and only left because of circumstances. I guess on some level, I am worried he will slip into the feelings he once had for her, since they never died naturally - he was forced to go without her.
stillafool Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 I idiolise her, in the sense that she has qualities and things that are actually in myself - that I have not explored yet. For instance; I am passionate about travel, and travelled around the USA and Asia, but then stopped and have not had the money since. ON the other hand, she ahs been all the places I WANT to go; Africa and central America, and gthen Europe after those places. So, I guess I think about his ex because she has the things that I have always wanted for myself; I would have loved to have gotten a masters degree by now, travelled more extensively, and have a small, up turned nose. It just got weird, how the happens to be a little like me ( social, loves travel, is fun and crazy, yet likes more intellectual conversations and studying things). She just happens ot have some things I have always wanted for myself. I have to break it to you that you and his ex are not that rare in what you want out of life. There are thousands of people if not a million or more who want to travel extensively and get better educated. There are millions of people who are fun, crazy and like intellectual conversations. It really isn't that rare.
Author Leigh 87 Posted June 25, 2012 Author Posted June 25, 2012 I have to break it to you that you and his ex are not that rare in what you want out of life. There are thousands of people if not a million or more who want to travel extensively and get better educated. There are millions of people who are fun, crazy and like intellectual conversations. It really isn't that rare. Hmm, I guess what I mean to say, is that around here on the Central Coast NSW, in the area where my bf went to school - there are not girls that are hot, and also into travel, have their ideal career, and who are ALSO very nice. We were the first two girls he met, that were... different. There are other things about us that I have not mentioned, but our characters were very unique to him. I know it is not that rare, though. These are just things that go well with him, that his ex and I happen to pocess. I am not much of an intellectual, though; just average but love learning about a myriad of areas, and I am driven to pursue my dream career. The thing he loves about me, is that I am very nice and like to look after him ( his ex was not as caring as me). He loves this - yet I also like to do my own thing and we do not hug and smother each other. I guess I should not worry, seeing as I do not feel what we have between us is i immediate threat. We are getting closer and happier as time goes b, so hopefully that, coupled with me bettering myself and feeling BETTER hah, will nip this insecurity in the bud. I will maintain, though, that there really was something about the way she looked, that intrigued me; she has huge eyes and a really really prett face. She just had a look that was.... I can't put my finger on it, but it is the type of look that is easy for guys to fall in love with.
Mme. Chaucer Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 You seem to be heading down one of your never ending rabbit holes again. Your partner is not going to leave you for his ex because of your nose, or which ever body part is your obsession du jour. Her "awesomeness" and your level of fitness or not aren't going to make him leave you for her. Things like this DO happen. It's not because of anybody's nose or because somebody else was more "perfect." Perfect people do not exist. You should not be spending even one minute of your time on this crap. Aren't you supposed to be looking for a job, taking a course and going to therapy? And having a social life? 1
Author Leigh 87 Posted June 25, 2012 Author Posted June 25, 2012 I KNOW RIGHT:sick: Actually, I am to begin a travel sales course on the 16th, which will get me a job in a travel shop - it is not a dude job and requries that you got a high sore in high school - that GPA thing you call it in the states, that gets you ito a degree/ college. I already have an interview for a travel shop, which provides extenstive training for you i addition to my own course. It is a full time job, with travel perks. Fitness and Travel are my passions, in terms of career psospects, so I am literlly following my dreams. I have my PT certificate, and now I will have another certificate. I am thrilled, because when I get my degree for social work down the track, I will already have a full time job, and can study part time shilst making money in the process. I also decided to start meeting people, and made friends with a girl at the bank yesterday whilst I was in the line. We are haging out this w/e. I am the type to make friends easily, being very social and a positive girl, so I may as well do it instead of beung lazy about it and then complaining! Lastly, to make more money, I am doing a bar and gaming course so, in addition to my dream career for now, I can also work nights and weekends. My parents would be THRILLED once I start making money. I can start to show them how greatful I am for their excellet life they have given me - i.e, a great flat whilst they are over seas, for freee,which makes getting m,y life on track a breeze. I am also building my confidence b learning Spanich and French. I was always adept at learning languages, and now my love for travel and rthe fact I will spend a great deal on my money on travel ( in place of children), means that resuming an old hobbie is really enjoyable and motivating. I am making steps towards a better life, don't worry. Feeling better, has in turn, made Andrew and I closer, and I have VERY little doubt he would leave me for his ex. We are just too close, and what we have now, is something that is very much.. safe guarded YOu know - sh*t happens, but not often if your relationship is very solid. Which I feel mine is,. It is not like we go aroud trying out threesomes anymore, that is for sure! We got that experimentation out of our systems, but want to settle down together n ow, and have no need for .. more of the " teen fantasy" sh*t now.
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