bilbono Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 A month ago, me and my girlfriend broke up. We had a two-month whirlwind, way-too-fast relationship that ended up in an argument and her breaking up with me, saying she wanted space. I was devastated, but I realize also that we went about things the wrong way and that our relationship had problems from the outset. We decided to stay friends and see what happened in the future - acknowledging that we had a real connection that may someday bring us back together. Moving on has been hard, but I'm making progress - getting my career back in line, having fun, spending time with friends, the occasional hookup. I still miss her and wonder if we have a future, but I realize that we need a total reset in order to make it work. I guess it dawned on me that if she's the right one for me, I can let her go and she'll come back. Though we agreed to be friends, I've decided not to contact her unless she contacts me, to help myself move on. When she does text me or email, I don't answer instantly, keep my responses short, sweet, and cheerful, and don't dwell on them. That being said, I'm trying to figure out where she's coming from and what I should do. She's texted me a few times saying she's thinking of me. She called on my birthday (didn't pick up the phone) saying that she missed me. She asked for photos of the vacation we took together (one of them is her facebook pic) and just the other day asked me about an artist we'd seen on our first date. She's not overtly saying she wants to see me in person or spend time together, but I'm wondering, what should I do? Continue to respond to her only? Initiate some contact of my own? Pursue her again? Is she sending me signals? Or should I wait until she makes more overt moves?
utterer of lies Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 That being said, I'm trying to figure out where she's coming from and what I should do. Don't. She's texted me a few times saying she's thinking of me. She called on my birthday (didn't pick up the phone) saying that she missed me. She asked for photos of the vacation we took together (one of them is her facebook pic) and just the other day asked me about an artist we'd seen on our first date. It doesn't matter. She's your ex. She needs space (for another man inside her, which is ...not you). She's not overtly saying she wants to see me in person or spend time together, but I'm wondering, what should I do? Continue to respond to her only? Initiate some contact of my own? Pursue her again? Is she sending me signals? Or should I wait until she makes more overt moves? Ignore her. Don't answer her. Find someone new.
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