KansasChica Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 My ex and I have been broken up for close to eight months with very little contact- a couple of emails. We dated close to ten months. He broke up with me because I was his first serious girlfriend and he claimed not to feel the spark anymore. It was very painful, but pretty undramatic. I didn't beg/plead or anything. Although we had a lot of mutual friends, he withdrew and kind of fell off the radar. Recently, however, he has been hanging out again. We've been talking about good/old times and flirty lately and two Saturdays ago, we got really drunk and slept together. I still feel a strong connection and he told me that he still really loved me and missed me. I'm not naive and I don't think that sleeping together automatically means that we're going to get back together, but I'm just trying to figure out what to do next. How can I make him chase me again or is that game playing even worth it? Any advice?
Beaker78 Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 Don't do anything....I know that sounds counter productive but u gotta treat this like it is a new start rather than the same as before......don't pressure him into making a decision as this will push him away........ Best thing you can do is be aloof mysterious and kinda unavailable if he really wants you he will come running
Author KansasChica Posted June 22, 2012 Author Posted June 22, 2012 Thanks...I guess you're right. Nonchalance is key. It's weird because we semi-discussed our breakup. There wasn't much closure at the end, but he told me that the reason he broke up with me was because he told me I had been selfish and I admitted that I had been. But then I tried to work on things and he broke up with me anyway. Sigh....
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