darkmoon Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 (edited) due to having no family, i have nobody to depend on, i have no man to lean on either my ex was a rock but the sex was bad - any one got any tips for me please about living without a rock? Edited June 22, 2012 by darkmoon
january2011 Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 There is one person who has always got your back. Look within. 1
Reddice Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 I disagree with January on this one. Though it is true that you need to be your own best friend, it is also true that humans are group animals. We need people around us to support us and to help us. If we (humans) have no-one to help us when we're down, we could fall in a depression. What exactly is it that you need from us darkmoon? Just advice on how to meet new people? 1
SomedayDig Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 Zen. That is all. Live in the present. Be happy with you. I do agree with Reddice for a portion, because we as a human species truly do "need" people to relate to. Do you have friends? Is this anonymous forum enough?
january2011 Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 I disagree with January on this one. Though it is true that you need to be your own best friend, it is also true that humans are group animals. We need people around us to support us and to help us. If we (humans) have no-one to help us when we're down, we could fall in a depression. What exactly is it that you need from us darkmoon? Just advice on how to meet new people? I'm not advocating that darkmoon go solo for the rest of her life and forego building a support network. However, unless she's willing to go for professional help, it's very difficult to immediately build a support network out of thin air. These things usually take time. Until then, she needs to rely on herself. A site such as this one can help to a certain extent but probably can't go as far as the OP needs. Therefore, I'm advocating reliance on self first and foremost. The benefits gained from self-sufficiency and self-confidence in one's abilities means that support from everyone else is a bonus and will help to carry darkmoon through the times in the future when she is alone again. In my experience, the times when we are alone happen more often than people think. Darkmoon - I agree with Reddice in that you need to be clarify what it is that you need. Then look for the fulfilment of those needs first in yourself, with backup from other people. Preferably from more than one person. I suspect that you came out of a co-dependent relationship where you relied heavily on your ex to meet all or most of your needs. It's time to take that back and rebuild your life. Start with yourself and then search out other people for the rest, e.g., social, sexual, emotional, etc.
Author darkmoon Posted June 23, 2012 Author Posted June 23, 2012 January, you did help no professional can provide an ally in a choppy world I used to be self-reliant, i learned to really like it thank-you all or coming 1
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