ichooseme Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 Hi all, I was just wondering how do men handle or what do they do when their gfs are on their period and i'm talking about one of those moody ones. I have a gf and she has her periods sometimes twice a month even, so she gets overly sensitive and moody, I'm having a very hard time to be patient and sympathetic even sometimes. It looks like it's a lot of pain, I feel bad that women have to go through it. But is it me, or do women get a pass on what they say and how they behave when they're on their period? does anything go only because her hormones are jumpy and unstable? I'd like to have your input, because i'm really curious how others do it
Onlyjonley Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 Sometimes I am more irritable and emotional around that time of the month, but I try my hardest not to take it out on my boyfriend. And if I do happen to lash out at him, I make sure to apologize for my behavior. It's definitely not an excuse to treat your significant other poorly, no matter how ****ty you feel and how much you hate the world during that time. 5
tman666 Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 Sex helps with cramps, so there's that. Alcohol and chocolate helps with the mood. 6
utterer of lies Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 I was just wondering how do men handle or what do they do when their gfs are on their period and i'm talking about one of those moody ones. I have a gf and she has her periods sometimes twice a month even, so she gets overly sensitive and moody, I'm having a very hard time to be patient and sympathetic even sometimes. It looks like it's a lot of pain, I feel bad that women have to go through it. But is it me, or do women get a pass on what they say and how they behave when they're on their period? does anything go only because her hormones are jumpy and unstable? I'd like to have your input, because i'm really curious how others do it Haha, seriously? If she can't behave herself, she better spend her time somewhere else than around me. Asking her to leave is a valuable educational tool. 1
xxoo Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 It is never an excuse to be nasty. But it does often cause very real emotional distress for the woman. It is similar, imo, to the emotional distress I might feel during other stressful situations in life: problems at work, problems at home, etc....except without any of those actual problems It might help to think of it that way, and respond as you would if she were stressed from work, or stressed from family problems. You'd cut her some slack to a point, and be supportive. But you also wouldn't accept work stress, or family stress, as an excuse for abusive behavior. 2
CarrieT Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 Sex helps with cramps, so there's that. Alcohol and chocolate helps with the mood. There is nothing better for cramps than a mind-blowing orgasm and when I get bitchy or crampy, my BF helps me through the difficult time with extra sex!!! 1
sally4sara Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 Think back to the last time you had a really bad headache at work or some other inopportune time and it might help you to identify with what is going on for the woman in your life. When you had that headache it wasn't that things you normally don't even notice suddenly irritate you, its more likely that the things that typically do irritate you are magnified. That co worker that takes up too much of your time chatting can annoy you on any given day but if you're dealing with a bad headache you might get a bit snappy about it instead of patiently waiting for a tactful way to end the conversation. That's what its like the day before I start and when it happens I notice it and give a better effort towards patience. If some "lady" is growling at everyone over the smallest stuff then they might be using their monthly to justify being a brat. 1
veggirl Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 Only very immature girls use their period or PMS as an excuse to be a bitch to people. I do get more cranky when I am PMSing, but I recognize it and control it, like a grown up! If your girl is getting her period 2x per month, she may need to see a Dr, average cycle is around 26/28 days. 3
january2011 Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 Unfortunately, sex is the last thing on my mind during my actual period. And orgasms from self-love always make the cramps worse. So individual woman = individual wants and needs. Therefore, I suggest asking her what she would like you to do during those days. And check-in with her from time to time to make sure that her wishes still hold. And no, women shouldn't get a pass. On a good day, talk to her about her behaviour, but on a bad day, try to do what she's asked for, whether it's more hugs and reassurance, more sex, more comfort food or more time alone. I also find that it's useful when a partner is more attentive to changes in mood and behaviour. Learn her cycle and learn to read her. That's already a good start that will have a positive impact on the rest of your relationship. And if the moods and pain are really bad and she's not coping, perhaps you can look into a better management strategy together (if she doesn't mind your input). 1
phineas Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 I have a menstrual hut in the back yard with a small TV & lifetime channel piped into it. 5
Art_Critic Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 Asking her to leave is a valuable educational tool. hahaha.. for the person saying it.. It would be utterly disrespectful to try to educate your SO that way. I personally just lay a little low if my wife is having a bad period, while it's not an excuse to be nasty it certainly is an excuse to be moody... 3
Anela Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 Only very immature girls use their period or PMS as an excuse to be a bitch to people. I do get more cranky when I am PMSing, but I recognize it and control it, like a grown up! If your girl is getting her period 2x per month, she may need to see a Dr, average cycle is around 26/28 days. I have trouble controlling it when I'm living with undisguised hostility from another person - under the same roof. I've attempted laying the sugar on thick, but there are times when I can't. Two nights ago, I just saw the look on her face, and said, "oh, just what I need: another one of your sneers." Unfortunately, sex is the last thing on my mind during my actual period. And orgasms from self-love always make the cramps worse. So individual woman = individual wants and needs. Therefore, I suggest asking her what she would like you to do during those days. And check-in with her from time to time to make sure that her wishes still hold. And no, women shouldn't get a pass. On a good day, talk to her about her behaviour, but on a bad day, try to do what she's asked for, whether it's more hugs and reassurance, more sex, more comfort food or more time alone. I also find that it's useful when a partner is more attentive to changes in mood and behaviour. Learn her cycle and learn to read her. That's already a good start that will have a positive impact on the rest of your relationship. And if the moods and pain are really bad and she's not coping, perhaps you can look into a better management strategy together (if she doesn't mind your input). Definitely individual needs: a lot of women I know use heat to ease things like cramps, but it makes mine worse. I tend to crack the window open in the winter, or at least have a fan running on me. I need for my back to be cool, and there to be no pressure/warmth in the stomach region. The husband of a family friend, works out when his wife should be PMS'ing, and actually marks the day on the calendar in advance, as a reminder to him and her sons that they should be a little more careful around her on those days. She was both touched and amused by that. 1
Anela Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 I have a menstrual hut in the back yard with a small TV & lifetime channel piped into it. Try air-conditioning, TV, DVD player and DVD's from the library, and I'm there! I wouldn't mind being able to get away from everyone whenever I feel that way.
utterer of lies Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 hahaha.. for the person saying it.. It would be utterly disrespectful to try to educate your SO that way. I disagree. If she uses her period as an excuse for behaving like a female canine, it can be appropriate. Of course it is an extreme solution and should not be used lightly or too often.
BetheButterfly Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 Hi all, I was just wondering how do men handle or what do they do when their gfs are on their period and i'm talking about one of those moody ones. I have a gf and she has her periods sometimes twice a month even, so she gets overly sensitive and moody, I'm having a very hard time to be patient and sympathetic even sometimes. It looks like it's a lot of pain, I feel bad that women have to go through it. But is it me, or do women get a pass on what they say and how they behave when they're on their period? does anything go only because her hormones are jumpy and unstable? I'd like to have your input, because i'm really curious how others do it It is a lot of pain! I am a super sensitive person, and my hormones get super charged right before my period. My hubby knows exactly when that happens lol. What helps me is chocolate. Peppermint patties are very nice because they are not a lot of calories/fat, and they satisfy my chocolate need nicely. Also, skim chocolate milk or skim chocolate ice cream helps. My hubby helps me by offering gifts of chocolate. He also gives me massages and doesn't get mad when I get upset too easily. (He rarely gets mad anyways.) Another thing which I personally have found to be a good help is to be consistent in exercising well at least 3 times a week. It seems that exercise helps the period go by faster, which I really like. Even though sometimes I don't feel like going to work out, I do find that the workouts help my body and my mind. Hopefully that gives you some ideas for helping out your girlfriend. In the Dogon culture, they used to (or still do I don't know) build period huts for women, but I don't advise doing that lol! She might not like that idea.
TaraMaiden Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 I have a gf and she has her periods sometimes twice a month even, so she gets overly sensitive and moody, ...because her hormones are jumpy and unstable? I'd like to have your input, because i'm really curious how others do it Has nobody else picked up on this? Periods TWICE a month - ? OVERLY sensitive and moody..? Jumpy and unstable?? I think she needs to see a gynaecologist, because this is bordering on a hormonal imbalance that might need attention or rectifying... seriously dude - periods twice a month sometimes, is a deeper problem than natural periods... 1
BetheButterfly Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 Has nobody else picked up on this? Periods TWICE a month - ? OVERLY sensitive and moody..? Jumpy and unstable?? I think she needs to see a gynaecologist, because this is bordering on a hormonal imbalance that might need attention or rectifying... seriously dude - periods twice a month sometimes, is a deeper problem than natural periods... Yikes! No, I didn't notice that till you pointed out. Then if that is true, she most definitely needs to see a gynaecologist! Twice a month ... there is an issue there.
SarahRose Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 my advice would be to lay low when she is in a mood and yeah she should see a doctor if she is having periods 2x a month. im going through menopause and talk about a muther. i can't even stand to be around me at times. it is no joke and i am a really laid back person normally. as for sex for period cramps, yeah right. the last thing i feel like doing when i am bleeding like a massacre with huge gross clots and cramps like labor pains is have sex. just lay low and watch some tv and chill until she is done with her monthly.
Andy_K Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 A period cycle of 21-23 days would still be perfectly normal... and would result in twice a month every now and then. I think you guys are jumping the gun
LexiB Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 Has nobody else picked up on this? Periods TWICE a month - ? OVERLY sensitive and moody..? Jumpy and unstable?? I think she needs to see a gynaecologist, because this is bordering on a hormonal imbalance that might need attention or rectifying... seriously dude - periods twice a month sometimes, is a deeper problem than natural periods... Not really. Once or twice a year - during the longer months - this will happen to me. I'll be in the middle of a cycle when a new month beings and if it's a long month, 28 days will indeed go by and I'll start a new cycle within the same month. It sucks when the timing aligns that way but it happens. I don't think OP means his GF goes though 2 full periods in a month's time.
SarahRose Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 A period cycle of 21-23 days would still be perfectly normal... and would result in twice a month every now and then. I think you guys are jumping the gun maybe so but it doesn't hurt to check not that the medical profession does much for periods anyway. they tend to say that is life too bad or prescribe bc pills. my docs solution for the horrible cramps was to take massive dosages of naproxin which raises your blood pressure sky high which he failed to mention.
phineas Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 A period cycle of 21-23 days would still be perfectly normal... and would result in twice a month every now and then. I think you guys are jumping the gun Just be glad it's showing up. babynames.com....... 4
serial muse Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 I don't think anybody should get a pass on being a jerk. But I'm not sure if that's what you mean by "overly sensitive and moody", OP. Is she yelling at you, or just kind of weepy and a bit mopey? The first is absolutely not OK, but the second...well, it happens. I have on occasion found myself crying at absolutely random TV commercials or whatever when I'm at that point in my cycle. And then I might do a little laughter-crying, because I don't know why the he!! I'm crying. If she's just mopey, maybe just give her a hug and let her be? If she's raging at you though, I suggest the hut mentioned earlier. No cable TV, either.
BetheButterfly Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 A period cycle of 21-23 days would still be perfectly normal... and would result in twice a month every now and then. I think you guys are jumping the gun Yeah... but it still might be good for her to get checked, just to make sure everything is ok.
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