StellaA Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 So It's been a year since we moved out of the flat we shared and the furniture has been stored in my parents garage. We got back together for a few months but I finished it about 7 weeks ago as I was just still too hurt by it all and could not trust him. I love him and wish him every happiness but I could not make him happy anymore. I have been dreading sorting out our things, he has not done anything about them. I have finally started selling them, I have had a few tears going through things as the memories are still so fresh and I can picture us together in our bed, using our washing machine. Surely I have to look at them as just items and another reminder out of the way
january2011 Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 Yes and no. They all mean something to you and it's okay to acknowledge that. But they belong to a time that is not part of your today or your future. The purging will help you to create a clean slate on which to design the rest of your life.
Author StellaA Posted June 22, 2012 Author Posted June 22, 2012 Yes, thats how im trying to see it.....a clean canvas
BewitchedandBothered Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 Furniture? Washing machine? You may need those later; save them so you dn't have to waste money and repurchase.
Author StellaA Posted June 23, 2012 Author Posted June 23, 2012 I did think about keeping them but 2 many.memories
GLDheart Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 ...I can picture us together in our bed, using our washing machine... That's quite the memory.
Norse Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 I'm actually going to buy a lock box and put all of the things other than clothes she got me into it. Removing memory triggers is important.
Author StellaA Posted June 25, 2012 Author Posted June 25, 2012 Yes, I have already done that. All memories boxed away. I have now sold most things apart from a few items which are now wrapped and at the back of the garage! One day I hope when I go out there it won't be so painful. Little triggers do not help, even going to places for the first time but I hope with time and once you have been nack for the first time it will not seem as painful??!!! memories will fade right?
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