monkey00 Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 I am over my ex, but some days I wonder how her family/relatives are doing, especially when I see them on facebook. I haven't spoken to any of them really since the break up...and were all very nice people. I'd hate to say it but I think I kind of miss them. I wonder if this is just one of those necessary times where everyone has to say goodbye in order to move forward. Has anyone remained a friend of the ex's family after the break up? How is it going?
AlexanderJames Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 Of course. My most recent ex was the diamond in the rough. Her relatives were not very nice people, bad habbits, bad attitudes and all that, but she was very different. She had direction in life and confidence and beauty which is what attracted me to her. So I do not miss them at all to be honest. But my ex before her's family was wonderful. They welcomed me into their lives from day one. I think I was only seeing the girl for a month before I was getting invitations to travel on road trips to meet her extended family. They were like a second family to me. Sadly I dont contact them any more due to an unenjoyable falling out with the girl but I do miss them from time to time. I do not miss her though. Strange that.
dustpull Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 definitely!!!!!!! especially my ex's dog.....Pug..Frankie..... and his mom..... I loved them both to death.... i haevn't spoken to them since breakup, which is 5 months now. sad.
CopingGal Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 No, my ex kept me hidden from his family. Also, my ex rejected his father when he got sick and could not recognize him. He cut his mother off when she asked him to help her with heat money. He also cut off his sister and brothers as well.
Sugarkane Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 Not really they were polite to me But I never got close to them. My exes sister for some unknown reason was always a cow to me.
Author monkey00 Posted June 22, 2012 Author Posted June 22, 2012 I think what I miss most was her large extended family and closeness of all her relatives and cousins...family gatherings often too! And they easily welcomed me into their lives. Whereas I hail from a small family. It was just very different from what I grew up with. What I don't miss though is her pretentious know it all slutty sister though who unfriended me on facebook immediately after the break up...lol.
BB7 Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 Yeah definitely, I've been one of the family for years so it's especially hard. I am good friends with my ex's cousin's boyfriend and her cousin. I was actually invited over to the cousins house to watch the NBA Finals today which I felt bad about going to but they talked me into it. I probably will not spend much time with the cousin anymore because it's not fair on my ex.
Toru Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 I've been broken up with my ex-gf for over 4 months now. But I still play badminton now and then with her dad and I see her grandma every 2 weeks or so. It's hard because I know I will have to start letting go of these people when she or I find a new relationship. They all have a really difficult time letting me go I've noticed. Every time I see her dad he says how glad he is to have seen me, etc. Hard, I don't know how this will end.
fificremefarben Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 Yeah, his extended family were really lovely and always made me feel really welcome. I miss his dad, who died two years into our relationship. He was such a lovely man and I'm pretty sure an integral part in shaping my ex into the man I loved. He changed for the worse when his dad died, regrettably but understandably. I don't really miss his mother, if I'm honest. She had alcohol issues (well before her husband died) which made it hard to have a proper conversation with her and, I dunno, I always got the impression that she felt like I was "taking her son away", because he always did a lot to help her (paperwork etc), especially after his dad passed.
KatZee Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 omg, all of the time. Sometimes I feel like I miss the family more than I miss the ex. He had a very large family, and I was around for three years. His father loved me, and would always hug me and tell me, and my parents that he loved me and I was part of his family. We went on multiple family vacations together, I was called "Aunt XXX" by his nieces and nephews. I would eat family dinners with his grandmother and brothers/sister every week even if he wasn't around. I literally WAS part of the family. I never thought we'd split. I actually am still in contact with a few members of his family still. Cousins, sister, but not him. It's kind of weird, but kind of not because I really enjoyed seeing these people, being around them, and having that close, tight family feeling. Sigh.
lovinglife21 Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 Yes I miss one of my ex's family dearly, in fact it was one of his main selling points, it's one of the reasons I ignored the nagging in the back of my head for so long... xx
Crusoe Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 Yup, even after 11 years I still miss some of her family, or at least, wonder how they are doing. I was good mates with her brother, father, step mother and grandfather. In all truth, no longer being part of the family is what I found to be the hardest loss. Most of her family tried to stay in touch after the split but she demanded that they no longer speak to me (scared I would reveal her affairs). Only her father ignored her demands and we stayed good friends until he died a couple of years ago. I must admit, the way many of them cut me off annoyed me for quite a while. Over the years I had built 4 extensions on the homes of various aunts and uncles, all free of charge. Also gave two of her cousins work when they were down on their luck and spent 4 months worth of evenings and weekends running her grandfathers farm whilst he was ill. Not sure you have to say goodbye to move forward, though. My ex brother in law is still as welcome in the family as he was before my sister elbowed him 10 years ago. Don't see him much anymore as sis still tries to make his life hell, but he knows that if he ever needs us, we are there.
melenkurion Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 I miss his parents quite a bit. I really liked them. I have had Christmas cards and a birthday card from them, each time with a letter inside. I didn't reply to last years Christmas card. I thought about it, but in the end I think it is probably best to draw a line under things.
Sophia12345 Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 I miss my ex's family like crazy. They still speak to me every so often, I miss being at his house and staying up all night talking to his mum. I just miss being around his house. I was accepted from day one, I'll NEVER forget his family and allways wish i was able to stick around. Heyho, i guess thats life people move on.
Author monkey00 Posted June 22, 2012 Author Posted June 22, 2012 I miss his parents quite a bit. I really liked them. I have had Christmas cards and a birthday card from them, each time with a letter inside. I didn't reply to last years Christmas card. I thought about it, but in the end I think it is probably best to draw a line under things. Hmm, yeah I got an x-mas card from her mom last year with a letter saying goodbye with a picture of me and her having a beer. A few days later I bumped into her and ex on the way to work and had a nice chat. I wanted to send a merry x-mas text to her parents and her dad's bday at a later point, but decided it was better off not to. Funny as it is...every time I think of this, I think of the character that Owen Wilson plays from 'Meet the ****ers' and how he's still a major part of his ex's family.
daniellethedisaster Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 I still am extremely close to my ex's mom and step dad. I see them frequently and talk to them a couple of times a week. I thought it would make things harder but it has helped actually. They became my family and I'm not ready to let that go. I miss his Grandma though. I helped him take care of her and so i wonder how she is doing now...
iEmly Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 yes! for me it was one of the saddest things knowing i wouldn't see them again i really got on with his little brother and sister and had long chats with his mum - got on so well with her i bought them bday cards, xmas presents, sent good luck texts they were seriously like a second family and they were good to me like they welcomed me, introduced me to personal friends, family friends and family, showed me off even sometimes i wanted to just go and have a chat with them about the break up but that would never be possible, cos at the end of the day they would always be on their sons side. i sometimes just want to let them know that i really did love their son and was willing to stay through anything. in someways i want them to know more than i want him to know.
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