LoverOfDance Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 I have been trying to get over this guy I spent an entire year training with(in dance) 4 a few months now. I'm getting stronger and my feelings are getting less intense but sometimes I have these weak moments when I just want to check on him to see how he's doing. I never check on him no matter how badly I want to but I'm getting tired of fighting this urge to take a peek at his twitter page, lol. It's really hard and I just want it to end:( Just looking for some words of encouragement to help keep me going strong. And if u have any ideas on how to speed up this moving on process, please feel free to share. Thanks in advance:)
MooBear Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 Did you check in on him? Don't do it - you won't feel any better for it. Sure you'll feel happy for a little while but then you'll crash and it will be awful all over again!! Keep going strong!! You'll be so proud of yourself for not giving in. And then you can treat yourself to ice cream! Unfortunately there is no way to speed up the healing process. Just stay NC, keep yourself really busy, treat yourself, and dont check his Twitter! Whenever you get the urge, get up and do something to distract you. It's like getting off drugs - one day at a time 1
tryingtodiscoveranew Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 Please read the quote below from the wonderful Barese1 "Remember it is like an addiction, you will want that fix but you will not heal if you keep getting that hit. A heroin addict only stops when they go cold turkey, you need to do this. Someone here posted on one of my threads 'would you heal a burn with fire?' I couldn't think of a better analogy." I love remembering the idea that, the pain we feel from holding back and not communicating with our ex, in no such way compares to the pain we feel when we break NC. All it takes is one of their empty replies, or no reply at all to send us right back to a nervous breakdown! 2
Author LoverOfDance Posted June 24, 2012 Author Posted June 24, 2012 Thanks Moobear:) and Thanks tryingtodiscoveranew! No I didn't and you're both right, I'm very proud of myself 4 not checking on him, lol. I've done that before when I was still trying to decide whether or not to get over him. After I read his updates, I felt like such a creeper. UGH, it is not a good feeling. I feel freer and so much happier when sticking to NC. Thanks for the words of encouragement. They are very much appreciated:)
tryingtodiscoveranew Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 Thanks Moobear:) and Thanks tryingtodiscoveranew! No I didn't and you're both right, I'm very proud of myself 4 not checking on him, lol. I've done that before when I was still trying to decide whether or not to get over him. After I read his updates, I felt like such a creeper. UGH, it is not a good feeling. I feel freer and so much happier when sticking to NC. Thanks for the words of encouragement. They are very much appreciated:) AWESOME!! You're dedication inspires me as well. I'm actually going to find the cutest rubber band to wear today. That way, when I think of her, I can try the old pop my wrist theory. See if my brain will catch on that it's not a good thing. 1
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