Should I talk to her about getting back together?

[Rudyruude]

Hey everyone,

 

So I've posted on here about who I thought was the one for me breaking up with me cuz she "wasn't happy anymore". I loved every inch of her; she really meant everything to me. Anyways I thought she might just need some space and after a little while she might contact me and want to try it again but she hasnt contacted me at all. Its been about a month since we broke up...we haven't spoken to each other very much since but I still love her and everyday I hope to wake up to a text message saying "hey I was hoping we could get together and talk" but nothing so far. I haven't made the mistakes people on here sometimes talk about like calling and testing her all the time...actually ive been pretty good for not contacting her at all but it kills me not being able to talk to her. Do you think she'll eventually want to try it again? We were together for 2 years leading up to the break up and were very much in love with one another. We had no problems of either of us being unfaithful or anything like that...we rarely fought and when we did it was very minor stuff. Do you think i should bring up the idea of trying it again with her? I'm so jelous of all the threads on here about how after a couple weeks of nc the ex girlfriend contact him and wanted to try it again because that is definatley not happening in my case. I just dont know what to do. This girl was my everything and i miss her like crazy. Advice please??

 

Thanks

[whoknows11]

So you havent contacted her yet at all? She hasnt done the same?

[Chi townD]

I'm so jelous of all the threads on here about how after a couple weeks of nc the ex girlfriend contact him and wanted to try it again because that is definatley not happening in my case.

 

 

Don't feel jealous. More than half the time our Ex's contact us to throw breadcrumbs our way. To give them and ego stroke and curb you once THEY are satisified. They normally have no intention of getting back with you. So, don't feel jealous. People that get contacted get set back to square one with dealing with the feelings these contacts created.

[Jose11]

agree with ChiTown_D. Most of the time its just breadcrumbs. They just do it so they can feel better about themselves, via ego boost or they were just feeling lonely. Don't look too much into it. Hope for the best, but prepare for the worst.

[Rudyruude]

It hasn't quite been 100% no contact. I work part time at the restaurant that she works full time at. Luckily I've only had to work with her twice but both times I've tried my best to avoid her. I felt bad about it and asked her to stay for a drink the other night and apologized for ignoring her at work because she would try to strike up a conversation (basically about nothing) and I would just ignore it because she seemed totally happy while I have a huge gaping hole in my heart and did not want her to know how much I was hurting. I told her I was acting this way because it was how I've been dealing with things and that it has been pretty rough on me. I know, not the smartest idea. She also mentioned it had been rough on her too, but not for the same reasons. She said her friends and family have expressed that they do not agree with her decision to break up with me and THAT what was rough about the situation for her. This really hurt cuz it has been rough for me because I miss waking up next to her whereas she says its rough because her friends and family don't agree with what she did. I dunno. But other than that one conversation we have had next to zero contact except for one text message she sent me about a week after we broke up saying her little 7 year old brother said hi and was wondering about the present I bought him for christmas. I ignored this message cuz of how badly I had been hurting and have had no contact with her over the phone since...*sigh* I don't think she wants to get back together but part of me thinks if I dont try ill never know for sure