mortensorchid Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 She is in the service industry. She was doing a few things: 1) Flirting for tips 2) Flirting because she found you attractive (even a little) 3) Flirting because it's part of her job to do so, making customers feel good 4) Rejecting you because she had a boyfriend 5) Rejecting you because she didn't want to jeopardize her job by accepting a date from a customer. But ... Live and learn and move on.
Author johnwolfra Posted June 22, 2012 Author Posted June 22, 2012 (edited) dizy: Well, personally, I don't flirt with girls unless I am interested. No reason to give them the wrong idea. I'm friendly in a totally different way to women I'm not interested in. It doesn't make any sense to me why she would be trying to build rapport with me for future tips. I suppose it's possible but did she not expect (well she clearly didn't as she sped off in the other direction! haha) that if she continued this flirting that she would get asked out? Did she really think I was going to go there, try to get seated in her section and just keep laying down a big tip for her every time and that would be it? Who would be dumb enough to just throw away money for some meaningless flirting time after time? As a college student she didn't really think I had money to burn like that anyway did she? I wish I had that kind of money! I've been a regular at plenty of other places and I've had many waitresses that have been very nice and even gone as far as remembering me and my friends standard orders, yet they not once asked us any personal questions or did anything that could be construed as flirting. Yet this waitress, who had never waited on me, was asking personal questions, etc. When I asked to speak to her she should have known before she ever came out that something was up. Like I said, guys don't just go out of their way to make friends with random girls. I thought I'd take a chance since she had never been my waitress and was giving would would very likely be signals in any other social situation, and I'm glad I did. It didn't work out but that's the worst that came out of it. Surely getting a date from a waitress isn't impossible is it? That's really the only place I encounter women (my field of study is all guys). How would accepting a date from a customer endanger their job? It's not like they would be kissing at her job or something.. Anywho, I still maintain she was being a bit misleading, even if I thought it *could* be her in waitress mode. I guess it's irrelevant, I am almost done with my degree. Once I leave this college town (and especially as I get older) women working in restaurants are going to be way too young anyway, and you know the futility of trying to meet someone at a professional job (won't be many women in my field anyway, but you've got interoffice politics, sexual harassment suits, etc.). I've got no idea where I'd meet women then.. Oh well. Edited June 22, 2012 by johnwolfra
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