QtBlOnDe1109 Posted July 2, 2004 Posted July 2, 2004 [font=arial][/font][color=darkred][/color] My ex and I broke up about 3months ago! We were together for a year and half! I loved him soo much! I still do! I have tried almost everything to get him back! I really dont understand where we went wrong.. we had the perfect relationship that everyone was jelous of! Everytime we would walk into a room everyone would say how cute we were! I dont know where we went wrong! This is how are relationship started and then how it ended: He started talking to my best friend when the school year started of 2002.. well she realized she didnt like him! Me and him became so close! We talked every night til about 3am... we were the best of friends.. we told each other everything! Then one night a bunch of us went out, it was around halloween, we went to a haunted place! Well the people we were with wanted to go do something else while me and him wanted to go do something completely different.. so we all parted! Well, i got real scared so i was up on him... then we all left the park and while we were on the ride home, i fell asleep on his shoulder and when i woke up he was holding my hand! We were both kinda surprised! So we didnt talk for a couple of days.. then one day i was on the internet and i got an IM, and it was him, he asked me if i would like to go to the movies with him and my friend and i said "sure ok whatever"! i was kinda mad cause i had feelings for him, but whatever! well it turned up that she couldnt go! So we went by ourselves! we were just sitting there in the movie theater and he started pinching and tickling my leg! and i started doing it to him, then he grabbed my hand and we started holding hands!! it was the sweetest thing ever! then people at school started noticing us talking a whole lot.. so everyone started asking if we were ever going to go out! Well.. we were talkin one night and we decided that we would start going out on 11/09!! everyone asked y we set a date and it was because i recently broke up with a boy and he was talking to one of my friends(she didnt care that we were together cause she didnt like him like that)!! Soo.. we got together and we were the perfect couple besides the fighting! We both got jelous when we were with our friends! But we got over it after we started a stupid fight over it! We were together 24/7! He didnt trust most of my friends cause they had a bad past! i didnt like a couple of his friends because they tried breaking us up! Finally, spring break this year, me and one of my girls went to Panama City Beach and i dont think he really liked that all that well.. but he didnt start anything til the night before i was leaving!! But we made up like an hour before i got on the plane and left and i thought everything was ok!! Well.... i was wrong!! we talked all the time when i was down there so i could let him kno i was not doing anything behind his back! well the night before i was leaving he went camping with a couple of friends and i didnt get mad or anything cause he was going with friends and their parents! (Well.... after we broke up i found out that there were no parents there, people were drinking and this trashy girl was there and my boy was walking her to the bathroom, then i found out they slept in the same bed! She's also a slut and sleeps with everyone.. she's 19 and she has slept with 15 year olds! yea TRASH! so its hard to tell if they did anything.. but he told me nothing happened and i trust him!) well i came back on a friday and i found out my grandma was in a car accident and i already promised my boy i would go to his baseball games Saturday.. well i get home and go to bed and wake up and my dad has my car so i cant go to his game til my dad gets home! So finally my dad gets home and i drive out to the baseball game and well... he yells at me for being late and i told him how my dad had my car at the hospital! then he was like well go to my house and i will meet you there in 30 minutes.. so i'm walking out to my car and i hear "Hey, turp its your girlfriend!" then i hear "Yea, NOT"!! and i was like WTF! but i keeped it to myself! I spent $200 on him when i was in florida! So i get to his house and he gets this major attitude with me and he says that he doesnt want to be with me anymore! and the night before he was telling me he loved me and everything! me and his mom are real close and we still are! she tries talkin to him but he gives her a huge attitude! we didnt talk for a while although i tried calling him all the time to see what was happening! n for christmas he bought me a promise ring so i really dont understand whats happening! Now we talk all the time! unless he gets in his moods! We still have a lil fling going on but he says he just doesnt want to get back together... i dont understand y!! when its just us two its like he wants to be with me but when he's not around me he just says screw me! I NEED HELP! I love this kid soo much he means the world to me!! What should i do????? everytime i try and move on i just end up back at him!! i've tried dating around and all i do is think about him! he's always worried about what i am doing or who i am talking to! What should i do?????????????
dynamom Posted July 7, 2004 Posted July 7, 2004 You know, I was in a situation where I really loved a guy and thought I couldn't live without him, and he ended up running around with his ex-girlfriend and getting her pregnant. I even went so far as to cut my wrists at one point. That is how much control he had over me! He wanted his cake and to eat it too. He even went as far as to make prank calls to my house years after I was married. I even spotted him driving by my house (how pathetic is that?). We have since then moved, changed our number and become unlisted(not because of him). Anyhow, the best advice I can give you is stop letting him rule your world. He knows he has you if he wants you and that's all he's in it for. You need to have some pride and get on with your life. Once you stop letting him use you, you will see how much happier you can be. Don't answer his calls, block him from your IM, block his e-mails, tell him to stay away from your home, work, etc... and look the other way when you pass him. This puts you in control of the situation and will start the healing process and help you start to get over him. Don't get me wrong, you will think of him at times and maybe feel that you miss him and wish you could be with him, but the feeling passes and will become less frequent. I truly think, as was my situation, you are in love with certain qualities he has, but not necessarily the person. Good Luck!
herno jones Posted July 7, 2004 Posted July 7, 2004 thats great advise dyna. being in love with someones qualitys always happens and shrouds the big picture of who that person is. you should get away, what your doing now is gonna make things soooo much harder, there is no hope for you, and in the long run would you like to end up with someone like that, even as thefather to your children? i was on and off with my ex gf for a while and she only ended up breaking my heart 2 more times, its been 7 months since we first broke up and cos i got back with her twice im having to go through all the initial pain again. everything happens for a reason, this is so you can learn, and hopefully love yourself more than some loser. leave now, youll come out of it in the end and so much stronger because of it!
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