CopingGal Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 Better to break his heart and your dog's and yours. Find yourself a man who would love your dog and there are PLENTY out there. EEK darn typos! I meant to say Better to break his heart THAN your dog's and yours. Sorry.
Samilia Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 (edited) Hey guys, I need your advice/help/support. First, I apologize for my English, it isn’t my first language, I live in Europe. So here is my story. In February I met this man (39) through a colleage and everything was just perfect. We are both teachers, I am 32, we both are ready to start family andwas seeking for a committed, serious relationship. We were really honest with each other from the beginning. He knew I had a dog, a 3 year old English CockerSpaniel, living with me in the apartement. She is a registered therapy dog, Iwork with her at a local children’s hospital and at the Hospice House. My bfseems all fine with her, 2 weeks ago she asked me to move in with him at theend of August and we were planning our summer vacation, where he wanted to takemy dog as well. Actually I was the one, who didn’t want to take her, as my parentslook after her perfectly when I travel. They live 1 hr from me, but adore my dog and are more than happy to haveher anytime. Last Sunday my bf introduced me to his brothers and their families, everything was fine, when at the end of the day, on a football gamehe casually mentioned „your dog bothers me”…I was completely shocked as he never sad anything about the dog! My dog is super friendly and totally adored him. I asked him what exactly bothered him… 1. Shedding. I understood this, I don’t like it either. I clean my apt. almost every day, I offered the same at his apt., but he never let me to do so. 2. Barking.Fact, my dog bark when someone knows on the door. So I contacted the trainerwho worked with her when she was a puppy to teach her not to bark. 3.She smells….well,I told him that she gets a bath every week, as she must be super clean at thehospital and at the Hospice, so she isn’t a stinky dog, but surely doesn’tsmell like a human… 4.I must walkher, so we can’t stay away as long as we want…Well, it is a fact too….my dog isfine alone for 8 hrs, she sleeps, doesn’t bark, doesn’t chew, completely housetrained…But she must go out and to me it’s obvious, that if I am away for 8hrs, then I must hurry home to take her out…If I have to stay longer, I usually know it in advance and she stays at my parents’. 5.It’s annoyingthat he hears her walking around the apt…So I told him I ’d buy some extracarpets in his apt., so he doesn’t hear her nails on the floor. 6.His studioflat is too small for a dog…..true, it is small….So I asked him to move into abigger apt, where we could have at least one extra room, where the dog isn’tallow to enter….But he said he loved his apt, didn’t feel like moving. None of the above mentionedmade him feel any better about my dog, he just kept saying „I just can’t standanother living creature in my apt.” Last week we met only twice (before we metevery day, and he called 3 times daily) to discuss about this problem. He askedme to get rid of my dog, which I refused. I love this dog and she is my responsibility.Really, I could never give her up. This week on Monday he came over and we saidour final good-byes. He said he was very dissapointed with himself, as he neverimagined this could be such a big issue for me and never tought ourrelationship would end like this. Me neither, we were talking about kids andfamily…and he never said anything bad about my dog….I am still in shock, I didn’tsee this coming :-( Wow.. one of my ex had a problem with my dog, that's why he's called the ex. There is nobody who's going to make me let go of my dog (and two cats). By the way, I happen to love the smell of his ears and paws What a selfish little b*astard. By the way, kudos for taking her to the hospital Edited July 11, 2012 by Samilia
CopingGal Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 My dog smelled wonderfully. Except for one time, she cleaned herself. We didn't bathe her a lot, but we did bathe her. But she was ALWAYS so clean and smelled good (except for that one time when she "let herself go"). I loved sniffing her feet. Only once in her life did she "let herself go." Other than that, she washed herself- a little here, a little there. She would wash in front of you, but not while you stared at her. She didn't like being on display. We had to look away in order for her to keep washing herself. My dog was the greatest thing on earth to me. 1
Samilia Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 My dog smelled wonderfully. Except for one time, she cleaned herself. We didn't bathe her a lot, but we did bathe her. But she was ALWAYS so clean and smelled good (except for that one time when she "let herself go"). I loved sniffing her feet. Only once in her life did she "let herself go." Other than that, she washed herself- a little here, a little there. She would wash in front of you, but not while you stared at her. She didn't like being on display. We had to look away in order for her to keep washing herself. My dog was the greatest thing on earth to me. My dog is about the size of my cat, when I walk my dog, my cat follows. They sniff each other, it's cute My ex loved my dog, that was a good plus. Too bad it didn't work out. It's ok, a lot of guys like dogs, I just have to meet the right one
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