Squishy_Belle Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 Since i left in October my stbxh we tried talking and being friends but after he got a new gf shortly after i left all he would ever call me for was when he needed advice on what to do with her. I got to a point where i told him i didn't mind being there for him when he was going through a hard time but i couldn't deal with him calling me every day to tell me he was treating her way better than he did me and that she doesn't appreciate him and all that jazz. We had been talking about the divorce and he was trying to get me to pay for it all and used the fact that we had bought a house together (which isnt even in my name and i didnt want in the first place) as an excuse that i should pay for it all. I agreed because i knew he was just going to go psycho on me if he didn't get his own way but i told him i had other stuff to pay for and it may take time. Well he agreed until around March time when he called me telling me his new gf was starting to think he will never get divorced. I told him i didnt care what she said because i couldnt just pull money out my @$$. He agreed to pay 250 of it and i told him i would have it all paid for by July. After that he would message me every weekend threatening to take me to court if i didn't pay it all ASAP. I told him that threatning me wouldnt make the money appear in my account any sooner but he still carried on. 3weeks ago he started again and i told him to just go ahead and take me to court because i was tired of his *****. He messaged me saying he had paid a lawyer. I said ok whatever and that was it up until 2 days ago when he messaged me asking if there was any news on me paying my lawyer. I told him i wasnt going to pay anymore until i heared from his lawyer seen as he was taking me to court. He came back saying that the money had to go to the lawyer for something else that has happened and that he wants me to just pay my lawyer and get this divorce done with. In the back of my mind i knew right off the bat he wasnt going to take me to court because he has nothing against me. If anything i do against him. It kinda makes me feel good that he is crawling back begging me to pay the lawyer because he ALWAYS had control over me and i can tell he is hating that im finally sticking up for myself. Now im wondering shall i just get the divorce over and done with or do i let him sit in limbo for a little while and give him a piece of his own medicine for the last 3 years of my life that he made hell?
d'Arthez Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 Just get him out of your life. The sooner the better. ETA: Just to add, make certain that you get what you are legally entitled to. No use in giving him freebies.
96nole Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 Just get him out of your life. The sooner the better. ETA: Just to add, make certain that you get what you are legally entitled to. No use in giving him freebies. Sooner is better, but do it on YOUR time. Stay in control of the process and don't let him rush you or try to bully you. He already tried to bully you and you called his bluff. Good for you! It sounds like the more you stay in control of the process the more it pisses him off. GOOD! Perhaps his girlfriend is giving him even more grief the longer it takes. And do get what is rightfully yours. I had to spend extra time in mediation fighting just to get to even.
M30USA Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 Just get him out of your life. The sooner the better. ETA: Just to add, make certain that you get what you are legally entitled to. No use in giving him freebies. Im sure he probably IS a jerk, but my question is: what is she "entitled" to? Is her STBXH "entitled" to anything, or does being a male automatically disqualify you?
jaymz Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 WOW! I think you had better go no contact as much as possible and start splitting up your lives asap. Him calling you about is g/f is just totally disrespectful and just rubbing it in your face! Good job on calling him out on his bluff! Make sure you do have a good lawyer and get what your entitled to, I dont condone screwing the guy over but also dont YOU roll over! And stop paying for anything for him! He made choices he lives with that choice! Get rid of him, the sooner the better.
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