Bassackwards Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 We lived together for a year when I got his separation papers in the mail, I had no idea he was married. I was 4 months pregnant then. We fought and I fell, after a few minutes he came to the bottom of the stairs and said get up" I couldn't move just yet so he said"die then". I lost the baby, fast forward 2 years later He told me I was busy shopping and at my nieces birthday party that he was at the er, cause he was not feeling well, I was with my family but could not reach him on his cell for most of the day. Later that evening I read txt on his phone to and from his now ex wife that said, I'm on my way to pick you up, he had spent the day with her. I lost it and kicked him out(I'm also 6 weeks pregnant). The next month he moved out of state to be near family, he started having major health problems. He ended up having a leg removed due to diabetes. Now he wants to settle down and get married. Any advice is appreciated.
Just_A_Poster Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 Jesus, my FIRST piece of advice is learn how to use birth control. You keep getting pregnant by a low down, lying, cheating, abusive piece of crap. Why you would choose to continue staying with this loser when he told you 'die' at the bottom of the stairs - and then be foolish enough to get pregnant again by him a couple years later? This just makes my brain bleed. So the abusive asshat lost a leg and now suddenly you're marriage material, are you? A couple years ago you were nothing more than a liability to him - someone who wasn't worth picking up off the floor when you fell down a flight of stairs, pregnant. Now, Pegleg Pete suddenly finds you desirable enough to be his wife. How flattering (not). This isn't rocket science, but I'm taking a big fat guess here. It would appear no one else wants this loser (I wouldn't have wanted the jerkoff even when he HAD two legs) especially since he's a medical MESS and is now handicapped and will require a lot of care. You're pretty much his ONLY option now, so suddenly, you're marriage material when you weren't worth picking up off the floor just 2 years ago. You honestly need strangers on a message board to TELL you how you should have booted this loser out of your life 2 years ago? Seriously???? You're now stuck to him for life because you got pregant by him YET AGAIN, which I just can't even wrap my brain around. So what advice are you looking for - how far and fast to RUN? Would you like that answer in miles-per-hour or in distance? 3
denise_xo Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 Now he wants to settle down and get married. Any advice is appreciated. Welcome to LS He can settle down and be married with someone else. Get this poison out of your life.
YellowShark Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 If your girlfriend told you she was thinking of marrying a guy who CHEATS, LIES, and wouldn't help her when she had fallen down WHILE pregnant, would you advise her to marry the douchebag? I would hope not. The guy is a cancer, lose him. 2
Squishy_Belle Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 Have to agree with the above, why would you want to settle down with someone who has put you through all that? WAKE UP LADY!! Don't let him pull you into his pitty cr@p because he has been sick and now wants to settle.
Author Bassackwards Posted June 21, 2012 Author Posted June 21, 2012 I'm not going to marry him, I was crazy to consider it. I know it's going to be hard, but I can do this on my own. I know he's going to fight me for custody, he's well off, and I just get by. I wish that I can hide from him forever.
2sunny Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 Sheez - your post barely makes sense... Are things always this complicated for you? If so - simplify! Be clear with your words...
fergolance Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 If he fights for custody, he won't win. He's physically disabled and you are the child's completely able mother. He can give you money to help raise the child and see him/her on weekends. Like the majority here I am going to say do the right thing and raise the child on your own, it would be much harder with him around anyway. (Not to insult anyone who is disabled) He is not worth it, he told you to die when you fell down the stairs. he is using you, and I beg, sincerely beg that you do not go back on your word. Leave him and never even consider a relationship, other than seeing him when he collects the child. 2sunny - That was a bit offensive, not everyone is a master wordsmith, I am considered somewhat intelligent in my field but I can't post coherently at all, there is no need to be rude.
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