Notforever Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 IS AMAZING! Even when you know they're maybe not right or you're not ready- the first person who shows genuine interest makes lots of things feel lifetimes better. Not saying you should ever count on a man or woman for your happiness, but you will remember why you're a catch and that more things are ahead! So I'm going paddle boating on a lake on Friday and I'm ecstatic, I didn't imagine I could go from where I was a month ago to where I am today. So remember- you'll get there too:) there's hope I promise! 2
USMCHokie Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 IS AMAZING! Even when you know they're maybe not right or you're not ready- the first person who shows genuine interest makes lots of things feel lifetimes better. Not saying you should ever count on a man or woman for your happiness, but you will remember why you're a catch and that more things are ahead! It's called a rebound and it's so common for a reason. But good luck to you.
Author Notforever Posted June 21, 2012 Author Posted June 21, 2012 It's called a rebound and it's so common for a reason. But good luck to you. I feel like that was a rude response. I clearly stated that it wasn't going anywhere or was too soon and I wasn't interested. Let me say, IM NOT LOOKING TO REPLACE ANYTHING OR ANYONE, but I'm not avoiding dating forever. And an ego boost of someone coming up to you an being interested is nice. Since you assumed, I'll assume you just haven't gotten any or had that ego boost in awhile and put the nastiness down to that. Thanks though;) 2
AlexanderJames Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 I never thought I would see negativity on this page. Just ignore it like you would your ex I know where you are coming from. I confided in a close female friend shortly after I was hurt explaining that I want to enjoy single life but I often find I can't because when I'm single I feel unattractive. Hearing her and another female friend telling me not to be ridiculous and that they find me very attractive is a very big self esteem boost. One of them is my best friend and the other a good friend. I do not intend to seek romance with either of them and they don't want it either. But it's great to be around people attracted to you genuinely and make you feel great about yourself. 2
Author Notforever Posted June 21, 2012 Author Posted June 21, 2012 Alexander is there anything you don't reply to?! It's a good feeling to still feel desirable:) this week I started seeing more friends more often and I can't even begin to describe the amazing impact it has. Even whistles when I walk by make my day:) Its great to feel great:) 1
USMCHokie Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 I feel like that was a rude response. My responses never lack in brevity or clarity. Since you assumed, I'll assume you just haven't gotten any or had that ego boost in awhile and put the nastiness down to that. No, that's just my style. I don't feel the need to lie to people.
without Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 I never thought I would see negativity on this page. Just ignore it like you would your ex I know where you are coming from. I confided in a close female friend shortly after I was hurt explaining that I want to enjoy single life but I often find I can't because when I'm single I feel unattractive. Hearing her and another female friend telling me not to be ridiculous and that they find me very attractive is a very big self esteem boost. One of them is my best friend and the other a good friend. I do not intend to seek romance with either of them and they don't want it either. But it's great to be around people attracted to you genuinely and make you feel great about yourself. yes you're right i agree. Its not a good thing to jump to a new relationship but its good to know you're still wanted.
AlexanderJames Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 Just your posts notforever ;D I post a lot cause I like helping heh
g450 Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 I feel like that was a rude response. I clearly stated that it wasn't going anywhere or was too soon and I wasn't interested. Let me say, IM NOT LOOKING TO REPLACE ANYTHING OR ANYONE, but I'm not avoiding dating forever. And an ego boost of someone coming up to you an being interested is nice. Since you assumed, I'll assume you just haven't gotten any or had that ego boost in awhile and put the nastiness down to that. Thanks though;) I cant speak for USMC but I did not see any malice in what he wrote. He was 100% correct. Rebounds are very common because we tend to seek them out to help us heal and to get our ego back up to the level of human. Most of us have our self esteem on the bottom of our WSs heels and an ego boost from another woman is almost required at some point. I did the same thing, went out and found a rebound and there is no shame in it. Knew my rebound for about 4 months or so. She was a sweet woman but she was on the rebound herself so we were each other's shoulders to cry on. And although having sex was not that good of an idea, it sure helped me and I am pretty sure she enjoyed it as well. Rebound relationships tend to get bashed here a lot but I take a different view on them. The only really bad thing about them is when your rebound partner is not realizing that you are rebounding and that its probably temporary and they get hurt. Not a pretty picture. This is why some say not to date for a while after divorce.
AlexanderJames Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 I cant speak for USMC but I did not see any malice in what he wrote. He was 100% correct. Rebounds are very common because we tend to seek them out to help us heal and to get our ego back up to the level of human. Most of us have our self esteem on the bottom of our WSs heels and an ego boost from another woman is almost required at some point. I did the same thing, went out and found a rebound and there is no shame in it. Knew my rebound for about 4 months or so. She was a sweet woman but she was on the rebound herself so we were each other's shoulders to cry on. And although having sex was not that good of an idea, it sure helped me and I am pretty sure she enjoyed it as well. Rebound relationships tend to get bashed here a lot but I take a different view on them. The only really bad thing about them is when your rebound partner is not realizing that you are rebounding and that its probably temporary and they get hurt. Not a pretty picture. This is why some say not to date for a while after divorce. There seems to have been a miscommunication here. I think where the rudeness was percieved wasnt in him making a comment about rebound relationships. Because he's right theyre common. Where the negativity came from is that he made the assumption that Notforever was going to go out with someone, get on the rebound and be done with it. Whereas her intentions are the spend time with people that respect her and make her feel attractice and desirable, without the intent to sleep with or use the person as a bounce back. Lets try to avoid conflict and argument on this forum, its a help center. Misunderstandings happen lets leave it
Author Notforever Posted June 22, 2012 Author Posted June 22, 2012 If it was meant with no malice, then believe me I completely apologize. With that being said I did feel like he was judging my situation, which in no means is a rebound. It doesn't matter because everyone is entitled to their opinions- that's what makes these posts so great:) Alexanderjames you knocked it right on the head! Thank you:)
g450 Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 OK well I didnt see what you saw in USMCs posting but I can honestly say the first thing that poped in my mind after reading the OP was also "rebound". But yeah, point taken. I feel the need to help people here and sometimes I tend to forget that text can only convey so much info and lacks emotion that is needed in discussions like this. So yeah, lets leave it.
mario_C Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 IS AMAZING! Even when you know they're maybe not right or you're not ready- the first person who shows genuine interest makes lots of things feel lifetimes better. Not saying you should ever count on a man or woman for your happiness, but you will remember why you're a catch and that more things are ahead! So I'm going paddle boating on a lake on Friday and I'm ecstatic, I didn't imagine I could go from where I was a month ago to where I am today. So remember- you'll get there too:) there's hope I promise! Well done! I wish I knew how that felt, but I'm going to leave the chip on my shoulder where it belongs and take heart that maybe, somehow, it can be done. Enjoy your date.
Author Notforever Posted June 22, 2012 Author Posted June 22, 2012 Thank you Mario:) You will definitely get there, I never thought it would happen, but I really am happy an that's better than any relationship or date, just knowing I can be happy by myself. Good luck, we are all here for you:) 1
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