Not anxious/sick over him anymore, but can't stop missing him

[AlexanderJames]

This is a great mindset. We cant always fight our desire to want something back, even if we know what is best for us. I can relate.

 

You're doing the right thing in trying to move on but hoping that he will come back lots of people on here have done the same, myself included. You are definitely not a nutter

 

Keep doing what you're doing and trying to move on, keeping up NC will help lots.

If he comes back, you can cross that bridge when you come to it. You might even find that by the time he comes back you've grown to love yourself and your life so much that you chose not to go back. But if he doesn't, your already well on your way to moving on

[StarlaStardust]

argh, dreamt of him last night. i sure wish he'd come back.

[peppapig]

Hey Starla,

 

You've come such a long way. 11 days NC PLUS you've taken the necessary steps to improve yourself and feel better. I think its natural that after a 9 month relationship, you're going to miss him and think of him. I know we both know that he isn't right for you and perhaps you just miss what he represented in your life. Why would you pine for a guy who could just leave you, and not give a f*** about how you feel. He doesn't care enough to see how you're doing or is even wondering how you would be, because if he was, you'd hear from him. I know it sounds harsh, but I think its reality.. something I've come in terms with also. You're making great progress so far, and keep trekking, FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT.

 

You'll be great, just give yourself some time to mourn and some more time to heal and eventually these thoughts of loneliness will pass. You're going to find someone who thinks the world of your sexy body and your personality Hang in there, i got yo back girl. Our exes are douchebags and they dont deserve us crying or hurting for them..

 

The ones who are worth our tears, wont make us cry.

 

just what i needed to hear

[skyisfalling]

argh, dreamt of him last night. i sure wish he'd come back.

 

Hang in there, you're doing great. UGH, its the weekend again...

[StarlaStardust]

Hang in there, you're doing great. UGH, its the weekend again...

 

Thanks, girl. I will. I am REALLY wanting to go chase him down. But I promised myself 30 days NC. And then after 30 days, I'll break NC not by contacting him directly, but by putting myself out there on the dating sites, which also belongs to, so I will see his profile. And I am telling myself now that if in 6 months I still feel like I've lost "the one," I'll contact him.

 

It's funny how our boundaries change from day to day.

[DMS]

Hope you all are having a good weekend! Mine is going better than I thought it would with monday being what would have been our 5th Anniversary and the day I was hoping to marry her. Got a little something planned for Monday evening I figure I will do here that should be interesting.