LalalaLauren Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 Hey guys! Recently my friend and I have become "friends with befits" I guess you could say, honestly all we really do is sext (sense his dad and my dad are both pastors I know he won't show any texts to his friends) Anyways, after sending him nudes two night ago he hasn't texted me back? He said he would text me first thing in the morning. I know he isn't bored with our relationship because I always have interesting things to say. Conclusion; Should I text him, or let him text me. Is he uninterested in me?
confusedheartlessbxt Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 Let him text you. Have fun and don't wait on his call. I really wish you didn't send those pix.. But let him initiate contact and be unavailable sometimes.. 1
confusedheartlessbxt Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 And if he is interested.. He will text and more so call.
Ninjainpajamas Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 That's not the best idea Lauren, you don't know this guy...unless you don't mind who sees these pics then don't send them. I don't care If it's Jesus himself, If you text him I'm sure he would have shown his disciples...half-joking but you get the point..boys will be boys. 1
Author LalalaLauren Posted June 21, 2012 Author Posted June 21, 2012 Guys I DO know him. We have been friends sense birth, 16 years.
mortensorchid Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 I really, really, REALLY wish you hadn't done that. Not that you don't know this person, but you really should not send nude photos of yourself to others because you never know what material will fall into the wrong hands. But in terms of his not responding ... Consider what you did. 2
MrCastle Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 Please end the charade and just text him. As a man, I find it extremely annoying when I always have to text first. Be a pioneer and go where no woman almost never goes. Make the first move. 1
veggirl Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 You should HOPE his mom or dad found those on his phone and took it away or something. Stop sending nude pictures of yourself! Holy crap, you are 16 yrs old?!?! You may have known him all your life, but he is a 16 yr old boy and you have just gone from friend to girl-who-sends-nudes to him. Honestly yes his friends have ALL seen that Trust us. and as far as him not texting you--hell you just sent him nude pictures, DO NOT text him first!!! maybe he is freaked out, maybe he lost respect for you, maybe he is busy passing your pic around...
BetheButterfly Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 Hey guys! Recently my friend and I have become "friends with befits" I guess you could say, honestly all we really do is sext (sense his dad and my dad are both pastors I know he won't show any texts to his friends) Anyways, after sending him nudes two night ago he hasn't texted me back? He said he would text me first thing in the morning. I know he isn't bored with our relationship because I always have interesting things to say. Conclusion; Should I text him, or let him text me. Is he uninterested in me? Remember that guys who do this are becoming more and more common. They use and then they look for someone else to use. I don't know how many stories I've heard from girl friends who do this and then regret it and then become bitter and develop hard shells around their hearts because they are always replaced by other girls. It's becoming super common. So, don't be surprised if someday he replaces you, or you replace him with another guy. That's how that kind of lifestyle generally goes. 1
verhrzn Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 I would not text him. You have already sent him photos and initiated action... the ball is in his court. Now onto the nude photos... do not do this. Yes, you may trust the guy, but technology is tricky. All it would take is one of his friends picking up his phone, idly scrolling through his buddy's photos, and boom. Your pictures have now been sent out to fifteen other guys. And even if your friends-with-benefits keeps a tight lock on his phone and is the most trustworthy person in the world, phones DO get hacked. There have been some scary reports of people breaking into phones and stealing data... haven't you seen all the reports about celebrities whose naked photos were leaked? I know it's all fun and sexy to get male attention, but keep the sexting purely to written prose.
Leigh 87 Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 I would think most normal guys who get naked pics would be thrilled, and text you back excitedly. I certainly would never send a nude pic to a guy unless I KNEW they would respod VERY excitedly! If a guy did not respond that same day, or he was not very eager about the pics, I would be extremelt embarrassed, and back off.... you did the opposite, and texted HIM:sick: Come on, your better than sending nude pics to guys your not in a remationship with! Even if you CAN trust them, a guy should EARN his right to see you naked! i.e, be really into you sexually and want to be with you in more ways than just sex. Your young, why not wait for the right guy, and save your nude pics for them? My biggest regret, is the fact I gave access to my body away very freely when I was young.... I now do the opposite, and it is REALLY important, to keep something like your body, to yourself! Sure, if your into parting when your older, if your over seas and there is a crazy party, as a one off thing, skinny dipping or runnning around NAKED is something I personally have done and would to again -as a ONE OFF sort of thing, hahaha ....I am not actually being a hypocryte, though! I am talking about your real life, every day actions! Not one off, wild nights some people have...I do not think it is a good idea at your age, to show guys nude pics, because it could really hurt you if they ignore you ( ahem). You have no idea what he is capable of - trust me, at that age a lot of people find out that people that think they can trust, end up letting them down. Sometimes your right about people you feel you can trust - you could be, et you can be wrong too, and naked pics are sure not something you want to be " wrong' about..
BetheButterfly Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 (edited) Even if you CAN trust them, a guy should EARN his right to see you naked! i.e, be really into you sexually and want to be with you in more ways than just sex. Totally agree Leigh! OP, Love is more than just sending nude pics to a guy who sex texts. Do you want to love this guy and be loved by him, or do you just want him to masturbate to your pic and send you sex texts to make you feel good about yourself? Are you just free porn to this dude? Edited June 21, 2012 by BetheButterfly
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