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Well where else can you meet people? I rarely meet anyone new. OLD is my only option I think, unless I want to meet men in bars.

 

Its fine for women because theyres a lot more guys on it then women so women can afford to be even more picky and shallow,for guys unless your extremely good looking and stand out its not worth it

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With all this going on, I love how people continue to suggest doing OLD.

 

It's just retarded.

 

At least they're doing something. It sure beats sitting in your bedroom whining on forums.

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At least they're doing something. It sure beats sitting in your bedroom whining on forums.

 

At least this can be done without pants.

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So after messaging over 1000 girls, I finally found one who was interested. Ended up going back to her place on the second date. One thing led to another, and eventually her clothes came off. It wasn't a pretty sight.

 

HUGE gut, hairy nipples. "F*** this s***!" I thought, while on the brink of crying. If this is the best I can get, especially after all that effort, I'd rather just be celibate. I immediately stormed out and never talked to that girl again.

 

damn bro, i actually had a girl like that to. a cuople hairs coming out both nips, plus the vjj smelled soo bad. i got rid of that fast lol. you did the right thing.

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So after messaging over 1000 girls, I finally found one who was interested. Ended up going back to her place on the second date. One thing led to another, and eventually her clothes came off. It wasn't a pretty sight.

 

HUGE gut, hairy nipples. "F*** this s***!" I thought, while on the brink of crying. If this is the best I can get, especially after all that effort, I'd rather just be celibate. I immediately stormed out and never talked to that girl again.

 

Whenever I see a thread writing a thread such as this, I assume that the guy has no game. And so far, I'm about always right.

 

Getting back to your thread: That is a bunch of crap. I would say 20% of the women whom I write--cute SWF in their early 30's--write me back. Of those who write me back, I would say 75% of them I end up meeting. They always look at least as good as their pictures.

 

Get yourself some game!

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damn bro, i actually had a girl like that to. a cuople hairs coming out both nips, plus the vjj smelled soo bad. i got rid of that fast lol. you did the right thing.

 

 

 

Why did you even get that far with her, if she was that ... unnappealing?

 

 

.......I think guys do this more than girls - they want sex, so attempt to have sex with girls who they find to be very unnattractive....

 

I do not know many girls who would have sex with a guy they were disgusted by?

 

 

...could you even go through with it, in the end?

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No doubt about it, girls have a much easier time. My last serious ex (whom I met on a dating site) said she received 100 messages within a few days of signing up.

 

I'm a bit confused by statements like this. I'm a guy who's tried online dating, and is currently OLD, and I just looked back at my account, and I had 37 correspondences initiated by women within the first week [many who were very cute/attractive]. Granted, it's not 100, but there is certainly plenty to choose from. Moreover, I get responses to contact that I initiate probably on 2 out of every 3 letters, and I only write to people that I find both physically attractive and attractive in other ways as well. Within that first week, I had conversations with about 50 women.

 

I think my confusion stems from - I just don't know what it's like for other guys. The 1000 messages and 2 responses seems a bit ridiculous.

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I'm a bit confused by statements like this. I'm a guy who's tried online dating, and is currently OLD, and I just looked back at my account, and I had 37 correspondences initiated by women within the first week [many who were very cute/attractive]. Granted, it's not 100, but there is certainly plenty to choose from. Moreover, I get responses to contact that I initiate probably on 2 out of every 3 letters, and I only write to people that I find both physically attractive and attractive in other ways as well. Within that first week, I had conversations with about 50 women.

 

I think my confusion stems from - I just don't know what it's like for other guys. The 1000 messages and 2 responses seems a bit ridiculous.

 

Are you physically attractive...? Particularly tall...? White...?

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Are you physically attractive...? Particularly tall...? White...?

 

I know this wasn't directed at me, but anyhow... I'm tall (6'3"), white, and athletic. I posted my pic on a forum full of straight-shooting guys who have no problem telling people they're ugly, and the general consensus was that I'm a 6.5-7.

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Are you physically attractive...? Particularly tall...? White...?

 

I'm 33, 6 ft tall, white, generally considered attractive, very fit, think cardio-healthy, not bulky, well educated (degrees from UC Berkeley, Harvard, UChicago - including an MBA), have started 3 venture companies, was a venture capitalist, and now work in a think tank helping save peoples' lives. I've traveled the world, and am usually told I'm pretty funny.

 

I online date because I don't have a ton of time to run around and meet people. Probably 2/3 of the people I go on a date with are people I encountered online.

 

I'm not sure what a typical profile is for a guy - although looking at in in condensed form, I'm guessing I'm an outlier. Still, I would be curious to know what's it's like for a typical guy - not those guys who are jaded and bitter.

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I'm not sure what a typical profile is for a guy - although looking at in in condensed form, I'm guessing I'm an outlier. Still, I would be curious to know what's it's like for a typical guy - not those guys who are jaded and bitter.

If you want to know what a typical guy on an online dating site is (and how low he's willing to settle), I suggest you check out these two threads:

 

My Fake Fat Girl POF Acc - Bodybuilding.com Forums

 

*My Fake Fat BLACK Girl POF Acc - Bodybuilding.com Forums

 

(WARNING: not for the faint of heart)

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Why did you even get that far with her, if she was that ... unnappealing?

 

 

.......I think guys do this more than girls - they want sex, so attempt to have sex with girls who they find to be very unnattractive....

 

I do not know many girls who would have sex with a guy they were disgusted by?

 

 

...could you even go through with it, in the end?

 

That's what I'm thinking. How do you even get to the bedroom to the point of clothing removal when there's a possibility of being disgusted by the person? You can see the person's face and potential gut even before clothes come off.

 

As for online dating...ugh. My feelings about it are 20% positive and 80% negative. I hang in there for the off chance of meeting someone I like (and I have before), but you just have to not take it too seriously.

 

I'm totally sick of OkCupid, but given that I don't try in any other way (to date, that is), I feel like having an active profile on that god forsaken site is the least and most effortless thing I can do.

 

Oh, and I agree that guys have a better chance in real life. I fall for guys 3 dimensionally so much more so than from profiles and online. (Well, "fall for" is too much; I develop mild attraction from in-person so much more). I bet there are a ton of guys whose profiles I've seen who I might like in person, but online I'm just thinking...ehhhh.

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I'm 33, 6 ft tall, white, generally considered attractive, very fit, think cardio-healthy, not bulky, well educated (degrees from UC Berkeley, Harvard, UChicago - including an MBA), have started 3 venture companies, was a venture capitalist, and now work in a think tank helping save peoples' lives. I've traveled the world, and am usually told I'm pretty funny.

 

I online date because I don't have a ton of time to run around and meet people. Probably 2/3 of the people I go on a date with are people I encountered online.

 

I'm not sure what a typical profile is for a guy - although looking at in in condensed form, I'm guessing I'm an outlier. Still, I would be curious to know what's it's like for a typical guy - not those guys who are jaded and bitter.

 

Yea, you are an outlier and a prime male candidate for online dating. :)

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Why did you even get that far with her, if she was that ... unnappealing?

 

 

.......I think guys do this more than girls - they want sex, so attempt to have sex with girls who they find to be very unnattractive....

 

I do not know many girls who would have sex with a guy they were disgusted by?

 

 

...could you even go through with it, in the end?

 

Nope, plus she wasn't ugly either which dissappointed me even more. I only go out with women i'm attracted to period. How was I supposed to know the girl had hairy nipples and a smelly vjj? It wasn't until clothes came off that i discovered that. Kinda hard to ask a girl "sooo before we start do you have hairy nipples or a smelly vjj? Come on. anyway no i couldn't go through with it. I made some excuse that my brother needed me so i could get out of there asap lol. I wasn't gunna risk doing anything sexual with someone like that who clearly had hygiene issues or whatever the case my be. And let me ask you a question you ever have sex with a unattractive guy before? I think you gotta stop judging people because you know damn well if roles were reversed and the cute guy you were with had bo real bad or something you still gunna have sex with him 9/10 probably not.

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I'm 33, 6 ft tall, white, generally considered attractive, very fit, think cardio-healthy, not bulky, well educated (degrees from UC Berkeley, Harvard, UChicago - including an MBA), have started 3 venture companies, was a venture capitalist, and now work in a think tank helping save peoples' lives. I've traveled the world, and am usually told I'm pretty funny.

 

I online date because I don't have a ton of time to run around and meet people. Probably 2/3 of the people I go on a date with are people I encountered online.

 

I'm not sure what a typical profile is for a guy - although looking at in in condensed form, I'm guessing I'm an outlier. Still, I would be curious to know what's it's like for a typical guy - not those guys who are jaded and bitter.

Congratulations! Online dating was made for guys like you.

 

Now try being half white, half Hispanic, 5'6, barely average in looks, with an average body.

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Congratulations! Online dating was made for guys like you.

 

Now try being half white, half Hispanic, 5'6, barely average in looks, with an average body.

 

If you were born female, you could literally walk into a male model convention and have any guy there with nothing more than a simple come-hither motion. You could also charge guys $300 an hour for your company.

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If you want to know what a typical guy on an online dating site is (and how low he's willing to settle), I suggest you check out these two threads:

 

My Fake Fat Girl POF Acc - Bodybuilding.com Forums

 

*My Fake Fat BLACK Girl POF Acc - Bodybuilding.com Forums

 

(WARNING: not for the faint of heart)

 

Your warning is a bit much. So, she's overweight. She looks like a nice person. That's what I get from that. Also, I'm not impressed with the responser, and you guys seem to like the word "brah".

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If you were born female, you could literally walk into a male model convention and have any guy there with nothing more than a simple come-hither motion. You could also charge guys $300 an hour for your company.

 

Because that's all we want: sex and money?

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If you were born female, you could literally walk into a male model convention and have any guy there with nothing more than a simple come-hither motion. You could also charge guys $300 an hour for your company.

 

And of course, all of us women on this forum who have trouble dating must be not actually female, right? We're just plants by the evil feminists to make you feel bad.

 

I have an actual dating profile (aka, not a joke created by a bunch of trolls), and I can't get a single response on it for the last 2 months.

 

God, the bitter guys on this forum are just disgusting.

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Your warning is a bit much. So, she's overweight. She looks like a nice person. That's what I get from that. Also, I'm not impressed with the responser, and you guys seem to like the word "brah".

Those women are not just overweight. They are exceptionally ugly. And...sounds like a nice person?? Have you even read the threads I linked :laugh: Nevertheless, there is no shortage of normal, average looking guys willing to have sex with those land whales. Shows you how desperate most men on online dating sites are...Pathetic.

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And of course, all of us women on this forum who have trouble dating must be not actually female, right? We're just plants by the evil feminists to make you feel bad.

 

I have an actual dating profile (aka, not a joke created by a bunch of trolls), and I can't get a single response on it for the last 2 months.

 

God, the bitter guys on this forum are just disgusting.

 

Glad to hear from you again, babes. ;) *kiss kiss*

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Because that's all we want: sex and money?

Who said that's all a woman can get?

 

It's simply easier for a woman to get into a relationship as well, as long as she doesn't have any major issues.

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I bet there are a ton of guys whose profiles I've seen who I might like in person, but online I'm just thinking...ehhhh.

 

That's why online dating will never be as successful as real world meets.

 

Most people scan through their search results like a google page. Skimming through quickly until something catches their eye.

 

When most dating sites display like 20 results per page, how many people are honestly clicking on borderlines and reading their profiles to see whether they'll be a yes or a no. I would assume very few.

 

Online dating is very binary. You're either hot or you're not. No one comes across a borderline in their search results and says "hmmm, maybe I could see myself getting involved with this person, let me see more pics of them and read their profile to see if our personalities would mesh." That scenario almost never happens.

 

It's more of a quick scan. Not, not, not, hot, not, not, hot.

 

So those average/borderlines that might get their chance in real life because of all their other qualities, get passed over.

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I know plenty of guys who have had success picking up girls with online dating.

 

I have also been pretty successful at meeting girls through online dating.

 

In my experience, people who are unsuccessful have a serious flaw they are unwilling to acknowledge or work on.

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As immature and assanine as the fake fat girl profile link was, I guffawed out loud. Holy crap that was some funny stuff.

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