Bob_Funk Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 So after messaging over 1000 girls, I finally found one who was interested. Ended up going back to her place on the second date. One thing led to another, and eventually her clothes came off. It wasn't a pretty sight. HUGE gut, hairy nipples. "F*** this s***!" I thought, while on the brink of crying. If this is the best I can get, especially after all that effort, I'd rather just be celibate. I immediately stormed out and never talked to that girl again. 3
henderson14 Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 LOL. Hilarious story. What did you expect. It's OLD. You should have had some idea how she looked with her clothes on.
carhill Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 Don't think I've ever seen a woman with hairy nipples. That must've been some sight. I doubt those kinds of risks are solely a feature of internet dating, since folks one meets IRL can present surprises when clothes come off. I do give you credit for messaging so many women. I could never do that. I tried OLD while I was separated and found my response rate was about 10%. I probably messaged 15 women and found two to date. Not to different than when I met my exW via OLD 13 years ago. Dated one four or five time and the other a couple. I kinda lost interest as the D progressed and my mom became terminal. I might try it again the future, perhaps heading back overseas again. I had good response rates in Europe/CIS/FSU and the people were pretty cool too. Here ya on the celibate part. Kinda sucky when all the parts work perfect at my age but it's just too much time and effort right now. I'd rather do other things. Hope it works out for you.
Author Bob_Funk Posted June 21, 2012 Author Posted June 21, 2012 LOL. Hilarious story. What did you expect. It's OLD. You should have had some idea how she looked with her clothes on. Women have become experts at hiding their fat. I knew beforehand she was carrying a few extra, but damn. The reality was so much worse than I imagined. 2
mesmerized Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 Women have become experts at hiding their fat. I knew beforehand she was carrying a few extra, but damn. The reality was so much worse than I imagined. No one can hide a "huge" gut. 2
Author Bob_Funk Posted June 21, 2012 Author Posted June 21, 2012 Don't think I've ever seen a woman with hairy nipples. That must've been some sight. I doubt those kinds of risks are solely a feature of internet dating, since folks one meets IRL can present surprises when clothes come off. I do give you credit for messaging so many women. I could never do that. I tried OLD while I was separated and found my response rate was about 10%. I probably messaged 15 women and found two to date. Not to different than when I met my exW via OLD 13 years ago. Dated one four or five time and the other a couple. I kinda lost interest as the D progressed and my mom became terminal. I might try it again the future, perhaps heading back overseas again. I had good response rates in Europe/CIS/FSU and the people were pretty cool too. Here ya on the celibate part. Kinda sucky when all the parts work perfect at my age but it's just too much time and effort right now. I'd rather do other things. Hope it works out for you. Yeah, long-term celibacy's looking like an attractive option right now. It's not like women have anything I need. And thanks.
Cracker Jack Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 Was it plentyoffish? Also, before the clothes came off, how'd she look?
Author Bob_Funk Posted June 21, 2012 Author Posted June 21, 2012 Was it plentyoffish? Also, before the clothes came off, how'd she look? Yeah. The paid sites like match.com are probably somewhat better. Not bad for her age (late 20's).
KathyM Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 I think most men that were starving for female attention would have been happy to have a naked woman in front of them, regardless of whether she had a gut or not. As far as the hairy nipples, you should have reached for the razor.
Enema Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 If you can only get women interested who are 2/10, it suggests that you're a 2/10. The reality that you're not quite the catch you thought you were can be painful, eh? 4
Author Bob_Funk Posted June 21, 2012 Author Posted June 21, 2012 If you can only get women interested who are 2/10, it suggests that you're a 2/10. The reality that you're not quite the catch you thought you were can be painful, eh? Sorry to burst your bubble (pop!), but you clearly have no understanding of female hypergamy. The problem is that guys want girls way more than vice versa. The result is that any plain jane can have pretty much any guy she wants, if only for a night, while an average guy is lucky to get interest from a girl in his looks league twice a year. If that. Objectively I'm about a 6, but in a way you're right. With the way girls view me, I might as well be a 2. Same goes for any other male under 7. 3
Eddie Edirol Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 Don't think I've ever seen a woman with hairy nipples. That must've been some sight. IO've seen it, on a peruvian woman. I should have known when she had mutton chops. Im not joking. The problem is that guys want girls way more than vice versa. The result is that any plain jane can have pretty much any guy she wants, if only for a night, while an average guy is lucky to get interest from a girl in his looks league twice a year. If that. Objectively I'm about a 6, but in a way you're right. With the way girls view me, I might as well be a 2. Same goes for any other male under 7. Thats why you dont look online, its a meat market. Talking to women in person increases your chances 1000x over OLD. Women always shoot above their league online just like men do. Thats why youre a 6 getting 4. So what have you done to learn to understand how to talk to women in person to get the ones above your league?
USMCHokie Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 That sounds like it could actually be a lot of fun.
Yare Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 Oh by the way , I forgot to mention, I had ONE incident where I think i almost got some play but it's really 50-50. Pretty much immediatly I figured out that online dating was pointless for men , so I thought I would have some fun and start trolling. I would scroll through the profiles and see the most obnoxious of womanisms, stuff like : "My interests: philosophy, history, science, horror movies. Only message me if you have blue eyes, those shaka zulu earrings that deform your earlobes, and only wear FUBU brand clothes" "only message me if you're 6'9 and work on Wall street" "Only message me if you have brown hair, dimples, a size 13 shoe, sleeve tattoos, and just got out of prison" Of course I made sure to message all of them One of them was a girl who actually had a profile that piqued my interest, I read the whole thing then got to the bottom "I know I'm only 5'2, but I only respond to guys over 6' tall. Sorry , it's my thing, no offense" So I sent her a message that said "I'm 5'8, F*ck You!" . She actually responded and I just said the most vulgar things I could think of to her over chat, then suddenly, out of the blue she says "you want to come over and teach me a lesson baby". I don't know if she was legit or not, but I tend to air on the side of caution and assumed I was being set up to get jumped or something and said no, and made sure to tell her it was because she was fat. Good times, that was probably more fun than actually banging her. Hahahah AWESOME!
ThingsAreComplicated Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 This "looks-classification" crap (i'm a 6, she is a 5, blabla) is really disgusting. You'll all get what you deserve and btw, it's not futile. I met the love of my life through online dating. Not to mention I wrote her without a profile picture...and for me she was "off the scale" 1
USMCHokie Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 Why is it so "disgusting" to notice different looks and acknowledge the fact that your looks relative to a woman are the prime factor in whether she will talk to you or not? If you want to get semantical and say numbers are an evil way to rate people that's fine, but you still categorize women based on her looks in some way to some extent. It's simply a preservation of one's righteous image on LS. 1
Sanman Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 I don't think that OLD is futile, but you have to find your sweet spot like any other place. It helps in some ways and not others. dating within a certain niche always helps. For example, I don't in social circles where I run into many women of my own ethnicity. However, online dating allowed me to get dozens of dates with women of my ethnicity looking for a relationship with someone who is chill, Americanized, and shares the same ethnic heritage. Now, when just randomly contacted women of all ethnicities and backgrounds, my numbers went down dramatically.
ThingsAreComplicated Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 not sure if you are referring to me, if so I don't have to "preserve an image" on an online board. I'll happily leave this to you. WeShallOvercome: sure you can rate people with numbers, not evil at all but not the point at all...
El Brujo Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 Online dating sucks for us guys because the geeks who invented it thought women were going to initiate contact at least half the time. More proof that geeks don't live in the real world...
USMCHokie Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 Now, when just randomly contacted women of all ethnicities and backgrounds, my numbers went down dramatically. This is truly unfortunate...
USMCHokie Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 not sure if you are referring to me, if so I don't have to "preserve an image" on an online board. I'll happily leave this to you. No, I was speaking generally. 1
Sanman Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 This is truly unfortunate... That's life man. It is funny actually. A lot of female friends think I only date within my ethnicity when the truth is I date women of all ethinicities and backgrounds. However, the women of my own background tend to be attracted to me more often and tend to be better catches than the competition (more attractive, better educated, etc.) I meet on OLD or IRL.
USMCHokie Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 That's life man. It is funny actually. A lot of female friends think I only date within my ethnicity when the truth is I date women of all ethinicities and backgrounds. However, the women of my own background tend to be attracted to me more often and tend to be better catches than the competition (more attractive, better educated, etc.) I meet on OLD or IRL. Yes, it is the way of the world. You will get no objections from me regarding that. And I have found that those of my own ethnicity have "preferences" which parallel those of everyone else...
Leigh 87 Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 I have heard online dating ca be harder for men. I had no issue meeting quality men online- doctors, hotties, you name it, I talked to them and could have met them - only I had already met my boyfriend online, and had to taper off talking to other men. Seeing as I liked my bofriend. I have had no issue meeting good looking or at least decent/average looking me online. Girls have it easier, perhaps. I was thin and blond with big boobs and hot to a lot of guys, though. It is easier for girls who are average to cute, or better still - hot ( but not even model territory - I sure aint) HERE is a reason I shut down a lot of guys: - too many tried to add me. I am not particularly facially stunning, but had a very thin and sexy body, nice teeth, and long blonde hair. - I HAD to filter guys out, and only accept guys I really REALLY liked the sound of - because 100's of guys added me, and I did not have time to talk to all of them at once. ...I admit, I was once shallow. I shut down guys based on their pics - because I was single and hot, and could get hot, and decet quality men; I had also not had sex in a LONG time, badly wanted some casual sex badly, therefore I did not WANT to sit and read 100 profiles Ironically, I met my boyfriend, who I did not think was that attractive at first, and ended up falling in love with him, and viewing him as very attractive. You see - I was a very thin, hot girl, and the last guy I slept with was a male model/ bofy builder; I had a very high standard. My boyfriend was attractive enough in reality, but I had too high of a standard. So, hot girls who are picky online must be plentyfull -I was one. Unfortunately, I do not think many other shallow girls change their tune much. I did, and I hope they do, though. I would rather an average guy look wise, who becomes very sexy to me in the long run based on the reasons I love them, and not have millions of hot girls swarming over him constantly. I would date a " 6". He would have to feel right, though, based on getting to know him, and overcoming any attraction I feel is lacking physically. Some girls give guys a chance, you know, you do not just need to be confined to ugly ones with nothing going for them: - Honestly though, are you that special? -what are you doing, where you only come across very ugly girls? - very hot people come into contact with very hot people naturally and easily, however, many people who are not ugly, only attract ugly people, and it may get to them. My boyfriend has had a lot of overweight and unnatractive gorls go for him, yet he is far from ugly. It would have made him question himself. The first girl he met online, was larger than he was. And he is a large ish build. Worst of all, she was boring. His picture on the dating site was nothing special, though, because you could barly see him. I think he is hot as hell now, but at first I had impossibl high standards. I guess the girls online only add super hot guys, guys that are their types ( and not necessarily " hot"), or guys that are a great match, in terms of their interests and outlook on life.
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