luvinthesun Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 I have a friend who continually thinks the bar is the place to meet those who would have a relationship. I think they will only find a person to sleep with - and a bad idea. This is the ONLY place they go. I have mentioned trails with the dog- nope. Any ideas?
nofool4u Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 Bars and clubs are the WORST place to find someone who is relationship material. Clubbers can't be trusted farther than you can throw them. Best places? Depends on someone's interests. I'd say sporting events, social events, simple little get togethers with friends where someone you don't know may be invited. I've even heard a good place to meet someone is the grocery store.
KungFuJoe Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 LOL at people who say clubs/bars are a bad idea. The best place to meet someone? Planet Earth.
nofool4u Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 LOL at people who say clubs/bars are a bad idea.. Care to elaborate?
nofool4u Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 I hear this all the time and it's just a bunch of nonsense I Know a ton of successful and intelligent people who enjoy going out for drinks. You guys act like the only people going out are drunkies and drug addicts. No just no Going out for drinks, say after work, to socialize is a far cry from clubbing and bar hopping. Whenever I went out for drinks after work, it was to have a few cocktails, shoot the bull, then go home. NOT to meet people. Clubbing and partying at bars, completely different. So no, not nonsense at all.
LittleMissSatin Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 If you have a small group of friends and more girly interests, and clubs and bars are a bad idea, then does that mean you can just never meet people? Ive only met guys through classes and stuff but that was at college. My social circle are all people who know each other, no one new.
Joaquin Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 The thought of OLD makes me want to be sick and I don't really have hobbies, beyond regular sports watching. In my experience there are 3 usual ways which I work to. 1. Bars/clubs Pros- you get a huge variety of girls to try it on with and there is no fallout to getting knocked back Cons - you get knocked back heaps, being drunk when meeting someone doesn't always mean someone is attractive to you when sober 2. Workplace Pros- you can get to know someone over a period of time before trying your luck, usually can suss out a persons values etc, can build great sexual tension with people at work Cons- you have to be careful how you make a move (Xmas, office parties are usually safest), it can be torture facing the person who knocks you back each day, Break ups are a nightmare 3. Through Friends Pros - like work, except easier to make a move, your friends can talk you up, can usually get a read on the situation through friends before making a move Cons - you don't want to work your way through too many, thats awkward, and your friends might stop putting a good word in stud muffin .
nofool4u Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 Well that's you, that's not everybody. I know an individual who loves going out and getting hammered who is an executive (a very low level but still an exec) at a company at the age of 30 years old and is smart as can be So what? Being an exec and "smart" doesn't qualify someone to be a worthy catch. I'm not saying that someone absolutely CANNOT find someone that is trustworthy, but if they are habitual party hounds, sorry, they don't have a good track record of being trustworthy.
LittleMissSatin Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 ^^ I think that's true. Most people want someone who is grown-up, with good hobbies and their own life. An attitude towards self improvement is good too. What kind of hobby is drinking? Or what kind of self improvement? Drinking or partying like that doesnt really help you or enhance your life in any way. In fact lots of drinking can make you dumber and poorer. Why spend all your time being in a drunk haze when there are so many fun activities you could do that would grow you as a person? I think if youre only having a few drinks sometimes with friends, then it isnt so bad, but not when its a lifestyle and youre a big partier. Youll only get along with other big partiers. 1
Joaquin Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 What I'm telling you is that the people you meet at the gym or the classroom are the same people you see at the bar or the club. I've seen it many many times I enjoy going out and getting drunk every week and I would be the most loyal and best boyfriend around if I was to get into a relationship I agree with this. You can't judge or generalize. People are people. If you discount clubs/bars your cutting off a supply line unnecessarily.
nofool4u Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 I agree with this. You can't judge or generalize. People are people. If you discount clubs/bars your cutting off a supply line unnecessarily. No generalizing at all. I did say that it doesn't mean one can't find someone at a bar or club. But experience tells me the success of finding someone who isn't out just to get a piece of ass is minimal. Again, a far cry from just going to a place and having some social drinks with no intentions of hooking up. Bars, maybe not so much. But clubbing, sorry, I won't entertain touching a woman who likes to club.
nofool4u Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 There is another thing. Most people don't want a partner that comes waltzing through the door at 7am the next day.
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