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Hey guys.

 

My ex-girlfriend through 2 years dumped me a month ago, and I've been coping tremendously well considering the circumstances. We lived together for a year, but the relationship basically turned platonic a couple of months ago, I suspect she didn't find me attractive anymore. I think we both knew it was going down the drain one way or another.

 

Point is, I went out with some friends last night and a friend of my ex slipped out that she had been cheating on me several times. My ex have been cheated on in all of her previous relationships, and she once told me she would never hurt someone that way. She was drunk everytime.

 

Now I sit here quite indifferent. I was extremely angry and drunk at first, but today I'm just "meh..."

 

So I was wondering, is this a normal way to cope - to not actually feel anything other than apathy towards her? I'm actually quite happy for the time being, other than the shocker last night.

Should I confront her with the cheating and make her feel like crap?

Her best friend told me my ex still has strong feelings for me, but I just wanna meet her and trash them, to never see her again. Unfortunately we're commited economically until October. And she whines about meeting up for coffee all the time, but if we do, she justs sits on her phone through the whole meeting.

 

I guess I'm pretty confused. Any pointers?

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If you were just able to accept it as the past and not hold anger over it that is a good sign. Letting it go rather than trying to read too much into something that is simply the past.

 

But then you're considering throwing it in her face which is anger, which is not a good choice. Right now it is what it is. There is no reason to open up a bunch of old wounds by tearing into her. You'll leave such a conversation worse off than if you just kept your mouth shut and continued your healing.

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