KungFuJoe Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 NUMBER ONE RULE OF DATING AND RELATIONSHIPS.... Don't over think things. Just be yourself. Don't try to be someone else. If he/she doesn't like you for it...move on. It's that simple. 1
fishtaco Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 Problem is, if you and other posters are wrong about this, the OP could end up getting arrested and charged. Given the prevalence bogus sexual assault allegations (statistics show that 30-40% of all sexual assault allegations are false), being sexually aggressive with a woman you don't know very well is very risky. Not sure if that's a good use of that statistic. I bet the bulk of it come from the work place, and maybe mechanics, dentist's office, or whatnot. Basically, sexual harassment in a non-romantic setting.
SteveC80 Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 (edited) ............ Edited June 20, 2012 by SteveC80
Quiet Storm Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 Problem is, if you and other posters are wrong about this, the OP could end up getting arrested and charged. Given the prevalence bogus sexual assault allegations (statistics show that 30-40% of all sexual assault allegations are false), being sexually aggressive with a woman you don't know very well is very risky. I'm not advocating sexual assault or to ignore a woman when she says "No". However, if you are on a date, you don't have to wait for permission to kiss, to touch, to feel. You make a move, and if she doesn't want it, she'll move away or tell you to stop. 1
mortensorchid Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 Well, what that could mean is that you are being too flexible. Ever think of that? Is she making all the plans and you are just saying "ok whatever you want", going along with it, then complaining that you're not having a good time during or after? There is that saying "Nice guys finish last", and that is certainly true because women have not learned enough lessons from terrible men in their lives. By the way, how old are you two? THere is also another possiblity, do you consider yourself a weak person? Because I have encountered men who lack personality, have issues, feel insecure, etc. and they are intimidated by women who have a lot of personality and charisma. Are you one of those men?
Author SJC2008 Posted June 21, 2012 Author Posted June 21, 2012 Well, what that could mean is that you are being too flexible. Ever think of that? Is she making all the plans and you are just saying "ok whatever you want", going along with it, then complaining that you're not having a good time during or after? There is that saying "Nice guys finish last", and that is certainly true because women have not learned enough lessons from terrible men in their lives. By the way, how old are you two? THere is also another possiblity, do you consider yourself a weak person? Because I have encountered men who lack personality, have issues, feel insecure, etc. and they are intimidated by women who have a lot of personality and charisma. Are you one of those men? I think a lot of readers are missing the point. What I'm getting at is that I have done nothing IMO for her to say that. I planned both dates. I have never deferred to her, tried to seek validation from her, done anything to get a too nice coment. I joke, flirt, we laugh and for the most part have a good time. A nice guy wouldn't tell a woman thanks for grabbing my balls on a first date, which I did when she put the pool balls up. A nice guy won't say send me a bikini shot when she sends a pic of a beach she's at. A nice guy won't sit at a table that she walks up to but says let's go sit in a booth like I did and she followed suit. I made some physical contact with her during the date I mean what am I supposed to do slide my hand up her shorts?? I did kiss her before leaving the car, this was after the comment. She texted me later saying thankyou so I'm sure she wants me to ask her out again. I have a feeling she's bitter and can tell that I'm not and don't have baggage so mabye it's a defense mechanism or something who knows. When we first mssgd eachother she said most men say they want r's but don't. I texted the following day after our 1st date saying I had a good time, I'll be in touch and she responded that's what they all say. Then tried to play it off and texted lol after a sec. I also think it may have been a "slip in" to see if I'd react because mabye she's a "you're this" "You're that" person, which if she is I'll be gone in a sec.
Author SJC2008 Posted June 21, 2012 Author Posted June 21, 2012 She made one small comment and it bothered you enough to chew on it and post here. That's not very hard, it's more of a nice guy attitude. Even if we put up fronts women can often see past them. Where should I post it? In the ouboard repair forum that I'm on?? You are right it did bother me. But not in a sense that it offended me it botherd me in a "What the hell is this woman talking about". Because like I said, I have not placated to her or deferred to her. I'm honest on this board because I'm here for advice and if there was one thing I did to give her this vibe I'd tell yall in a heartbeat. By the way how do you multi quote???
ThingsAreComplicated Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 She made one small comment and it bothered you enough to chew on it and post here. That's not very hard, it's more of a nice guy attitude. Even if we put up fronts women can often see past them. lol...the adulation of women in general is almost unbearable. Learn to look past her fronts (there are PLENTY of them) and have success...
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