Quickfast Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 Although i'm not sure if you can ever be sure about anyone..I'd bet a majority of folks on here felt like they found that one to share a foxhole with. Up until when it got serious I'd led a life largely without many attachments. For whatever reason my sub-conscious let her in to a place I rarely want to think about. Contrary to any of my past experience, it felt easy after we ended our relationship. As time has wore on its starting to get difficult. The logical part of my brain knows and understands the concept of NC, and knows it works for the best. The other part misses every thing under the sun about her. Need some helpful tips on keeping NC!
Philosoraptor Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 I think the thing to remember is that if it was meant to be it wouldn't have ended. Understand that with patience you will again find someone you can open up to and it might just last forever. For right now though try to live in the moment rather than focusing on the past or the future. Experience exactly what is happening right now and embrace it. 1
iambookworm Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 Same here, I thought I'd found the person I could grow old with. My friends tell me that if he loved me, he would have fought for the relationship and would've made time in his life for me. I miss talking to him everyday, the small sweet messages he sends. His laughter. But...he has moved on. We need to move on
Author Quickfast Posted June 22, 2012 Author Posted June 22, 2012 The cold hard truth of it is we do need to move on. Its easy for me to think it or say it. Even easier for me to type it. I feel like I've learned what I need to learn from the experience, but just like everyone else that visits this forum theres a part of me that cant let it go yet. I agree with you I have to embrace it, but I cant let it run my life. It helps to remember that it was never perfect. Like any real relationship perfection existed in precious moments. Like snapshots or cut-scenes these moments exist in my mind, but I'm old enough now to know that this isn't life trying to torture me. Its my brain or "higher self" trying to remind me that at one point in my life I felt the real deal. I for one am grateful to be part of the population that can say they've allowed someone in and come out unscathed. I am resilient. I refuse to be ruined by the experience.
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