Author AlexanderJames Posted June 23, 2012 Author Posted June 23, 2012 Lowest of lows when that person comes across my mind with someone else. Or constantly wondering what she's doing, and if she is hooking up with another person. Any advice for coping with these nightmares? This is hard, I felt the same and I almost threw up when it came to mind. The only thing that helped me overcome these thoughts (this is going to sound shallow) was to think of myself with someone better looking than my ex. It helped for me. But I don't know if it would work for everyone. Another thing I kept in mind was even though I can't control who she will be with in the future I can make sure I'm better than he is. Whoever he may be. I can work on making myself a better person, and work on my physical appearance to ensure that not matter who she moves on to, he is going to be a downgrade. Kind of shallow I know but the thought got me passed the feelings you're feeling. Now I couldn't care less who she moves on to, because I'm pretty sure I'm more mature, loving and physically appealing than whoever he may be. Love yourself mate. Don't worry about her
Author AlexanderJames Posted August 6, 2012 Author Posted August 6, 2012 Just thought I'd revive this thread. It seemed to help a lot of people. To be honest I just came back and re read it myself to make me feel a bit better cause I'm in a rutt. Reading through what I posted here and then looking back at everything that has happened since is incredible. When I wrote this thread I was under the mindset that I was well on my way to be fully over my ex. How things change. Multiple instances of breaking No Contact, a second attempt at reconciliation and weeks of being emotionally toyed with later and here I am still fighting the good fight. I somewhat miss the strength and happy go lucky attitude I had when I was writing this thread but even though I'm hurting again I know I've come further forwards in the right direction.
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