MsChic Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 At the beginning of May, I met this much older man (I’m 28 and he’s 47) on a dating site. We hit it off immediately, and we texted and chatted over the phone for about 3 weeks. Throughout the time we remained in contact, he kept planning meet ups, but never really set a time or place, and he’d wouldn’t reply until the next day or so (usually wouldn’t mention it). :-/ He was always busy with work or he had the kids because him and the ex had a joint custody arrangement (alternating weeks). He’d only invite me over when he was horny or at night, and it was always when he had the kids because when he didn’t he was working. Anyway, I’d always decline those invites out of respect for the kids-and I never really heard from him when he didn’t have the children because he was always working. When we chatted over the phone or texted, it’d be mainly him complaining about his ex-wife (who, according to him, has mental issues and is a narcissist) or about his past ‘wild’ sex adventures. This was a HUGE turn off for me-who the hell wants to hear about his swinging with his exes?! Furthermore, I am still unsure if he is divorced or separated. I found it strange that his Facebook marital status was separated and on the dating site it was divorced. When I did ask him, he never really gave me a clear answer and he was annoyed with me (hmmm….). I became suspicious of him (last thing I want is to become involved with a married man), so I decided to google him, I discovered that he was involved in illegal trading and distribution of securities. Anyway, I know that there are always two sides to the story, so I gave him the benefit of the doubt. At the end of May, he texted me out of the blue to tell me that he had too much on his plate, that his ex was driving him crazy,etc. He then told me that I should date someone my own age (um, hello? - HE contacted ME on the dating site), and that ‘us’ would never work because his life was too crazy at the moment. He then blocked me on Facebook and that was the last I heard from him. So, with that said, I’ve never dated a man that much older than me or a man with kids and 2 ex-wives, so I am not sure if it was something I did? For me it’s still a ‘WTF’ moment. I liked him a lot and when he texted me with that, I told him that I understood and I thought we could at least be friends (he was an interesting person!)-well, that was until I noticed that he blocked me on Facebook and completely ignored my texts! P.S. I apologize for the length and thanks in advance.
Ninjainpajamas Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 Because you were never very important to begin with
veggirl Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 Umm who cares why he stopped talking to you?! You should have stopped talking to HIM. He wanted you as a booty call, is likely still married, engages in illegal activities...I'm sorry but WHAT is the appeal?! :eek::eek: Why would you want to be friends with this loser?? Did you ever even meet him in person? EW I'm sorry but he sounds SO squicky and disgusting. No contact when he doesn't have his kids, but calls you for booty calls when they are asleep. Real freaking classy. It's cause he was with his actual girlfriend, or wife, during the other times. He was found guilty of illegal trading, has 2 ex wives, has never shown you ANY respect or shown ANY legit interest in you...yet you wanted to "give him the benefit of the doubt"??? Um. Speechless. 1
KathyM Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 Don't waste your time with losers. It's not worth it.
Art_Critic Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 He didn't really cut you off.. he prioritized you. It just happens that dating/having sex with you falls behind his wife (separated is married) and maybe other girls he is dating. You can bet that if his wife wasn't wanting him and his time or his work (ahahaha) that he would have been calling you.. Kick this guy fully to the curb and don't second guess your action.. it is warranted.
SmileFace Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 You should be thanking him. Why would you think that some one who only tried to schedule booty calls is interested? Lose his number and stop accepting this type of behavior from people.
Ruby Slippers Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 Is this post for real? If so, this guy is a dirtbag loser. Be glad to be rid of him.
Shaun-Dro Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 At the beginning of May, I met this much older man (I’m 28 and he’s 47) on a dating site. We hit it off immediately, and we texted and chatted over the phone for about 3 weeks. Throughout the time we remained in contact, he kept planning meet ups, but never really set a time or place, and he’d wouldn’t reply until the next day or so (usually wouldn’t mention it). :-/ He was always busy with work or he had the kids because him and the ex had a joint custody arrangement (alternating weeks). He’d only invite me over when he was horny or at night, and it was always when he had the kids because when he didn’t he was working. Anyway, I’d always decline those invites out of respect for the kids-and I never really heard from him when he didn’t have the children because he was always working. When we chatted over the phone or texted, it’d be mainly him complaining about his ex-wife (who, according to him, has mental issues and is a narcissist) or about his past ‘wild’ sex adventures. This was a HUGE turn off for me-who the hell wants to hear about his swinging with his exes?! Furthermore, I am still unsure if he is divorced or separated. I found it strange that his Facebook marital status was separated and on the dating site it was divorced. When I did ask him, he never really gave me a clear answer and he was annoyed with me (hmmm….). I became suspicious of him (last thing I want is to become involved with a married man), so I decided to google him, I discovered that he was involved in illegal trading and distribution of securities. Anyway, I know that there are always two sides to the story, so I gave him the benefit of the doubt. At the end of May, he texted me out of the blue to tell me that he had too much on his plate, that his ex was driving him crazy,etc. He then told me that I should date someone my own age (um, hello? - HE contacted ME on the dating site), and that ‘us’ would never work because his life was too crazy at the moment. He then blocked me on Facebook and that was the last I heard from him. So, with that said, I’ve never dated a man that much older than me or a man with kids and 2 ex-wives, so I am not sure if it was something I did? For me it’s still a ‘WTF’ moment. I liked him a lot and when he texted me with that, I told him that I understood and I thought we could at least be friends (he was an interesting person!)-well, that was until I noticed that he blocked me on Facebook and completely ignored my texts! P.S. I apologize for the length and thanks in advance. That guy's a loser. At 47 he should be honored to have a 28 year old into him! He should've moved heaven and earth to at least sleep with you. 1
lover4721 Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 Wow, I kind of had the same situation, but there was no age different. 19 years old, she was a month older. You can check out my thread if you want to!
mortensorchid Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 Man, what a loser. Hope you ditched him by now. If he keeps bothering you block him and don't look back. He's lying.
mesmerized Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 I'm often amazed at how low women are willing to go just to have someone in their lives. No wonder men are not respecting women. 1
veggirl Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 I'm often amazed at how low women are willing to go just to have someone in their lives. No wonder men are not respecting women. Sadly so true
Ruby Slippers Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 I'm often amazed at how low women are willing to go just to have someone in their lives. No wonder men are not respecting women. I read recently that loneliness is the main cause of depression in women. I must admit that it was always loneliness that drove me to my darkest times. And MsChic is 28 - probably still pretty naive. No offense. I certainly was, too, and still have lots to learn!
Sugarkane Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 He should've appreciated he had a 28 year old even remotely interested lol. What a jerk 1
Sugarkane Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 Id fond someone else especially with way less baggage! 1
xdxb Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 You should be thanking him. Why would you think that some one who only tried to schedule booty calls is interested? Lose his number and stop accepting this type of behavior from people. Couldn't agree more. He sounds like the shadiest-heaviest-baggaged-person you could possibly find! Please love yourself so someone else can. This topic grossed me out, no offense. But if he's a smooth talker I somewhat understand, just remember actions scream louder than any smooth talk. Barf. 1
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