Sophia12345 Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 :(Just want someone to smack some sense into me, just give me some words of wisdom! Having a down day. Its my brothers birthday, my brother and my ex were so close! My ex helped my brother through SO MUCH and they became really close. It upsets me so much that my ex couldn't even say happy birthday, not a text NOTHING. I know I should expect anything but I just think that out of respect at least a simple 'Happy Birthday' should have come from him. It really god damn upsets me that this is what we've come to. *sigh* guess theres nothing that can be done.....
geegirl Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 :(Just want someone to smack some sense into me, just give me some words of wisdom! Having a down day. Its my brothers birthday, my brother and my ex were so close! My ex helped my brother through SO MUCH and they became really close. It upsets me so much that my ex couldn't even say happy birthday, not a text NOTHING. I know I should expect anything but I just think that out of respect at least a simple 'Happy Birthday' should have come from him. It really god damn upsets me that this is what we've come to. *sigh* guess theres nothing that can be done..... You can't control what he chooses to do, Sophia. Maybe he chose not to do it to respect the breakup or maybe he did it because he didn't want to open a door that could have possibly lead to things that he did not want to deal with. Consider yourself lucky that he didn't because if he did, that would have caused you more issues. The fact that he didn't has affected you, so imagine if he did. Overall, it's the best thing for the two of you. His reasons may not be out of malice or inconsideration but more so rational and logical.
Ruby65 Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 You can't control what he chooses to do, Sophia. Maybe he chose not to do it to respect the breakup or maybe he did it because he didn't want to open a door that could have possibly lead to things that he did not want to deal with. Consider yourself lucky that he didn't because if he did, that would have caused you more issues. The fact that he didn't has affected you, so imagine if he did. Overall, it's the best thing for the two of you. His reasons may not be out of malice or inconsideration but more so rational and logical. This is so true. I had an ex who never once contacted me after he broke up with me. I was devastated at the time and thought it was evidence that he didn't care and was completely over me right away. Years later, I look back on this and realize that of ALL my exes, he probably cared the most, because he allowed me to heal and never gave me false hopes or contacted me just to to alleviate his guilt or stroke his ego. I understand how painful this must be for you. I hope this helps a bit. Stay strong!
Jose11 Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 Id have to agree with Rudy65. As much as you would have liked for him to contact you, what good would it do outside of giving you false hope. It is best this way because at least you know where you stand. Best of luck to you.
LovelyDaze Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 Your ex may know that giving birthday wishes to your brother means giving you hope of reconciliation...especially if it means talking to you. You probably weren't going to anyway, but don't fish for him to send birthday wishes. Don't text or call for any reasons like that. The ex thinks( or even KNOWS) it is just a way of opening the line of communication to try to win them back.
Author Sophia12345 Posted June 20, 2012 Author Posted June 20, 2012 You are all right. I Shouldn't think of it as a bad thing but more of a blessing. I should be happy he didn't contact my family, and to some extent I am. In time I'll realise. Its been 3 months and just isnt getting any easier. I don't understand why we even broke up. Nothing makes any sense, but he has told me to let go. When the dumper actually straight out tells you that I guess its time to 'let go'. I havent begged or pleaded he has been the one to intiate contact and claims to want me in his life. Now telling me to let go and accusing me of doing things I wouldn't even dream of doing? I don't know where I stand with him. But from last Friday I decided to follow is his words and begin to let go. He isn't coming back, i know that now. Every word he said was crap. It just hurts so much to know that it has come to this. For a while I got caught up in the whole GIGS explaination but since I have become to realise a breakup is a breakup regardless of reasons. What hurts the most is getting on with life, going to new places; experiencing new things without being able to tell him. Doing it all alone:\
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