k100danny Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 So we broke up a week ago and she said she couldnt really face speaking to me. I had text her quite a bit and she had replied. I didnt call her one day then decided to ring her i was feeling a bit down and to my amazement she picked up the phone. I think she was expecting me to have a go at her or say something as for the first 30 seconds she seemed quite defensive but then we chatted for about 15 minutes not really mentioning the break up at all just asking how things were and laughing about things ect. she kept calling me darling andthanks me for the gifts i sent previous to us breaking up. When i said I will let you go and finish up what you are doing I'm going to et dinner she asked if i had anything i wanted to say to her or if i just called for a chat. I said i missed her and that was probably why i called but I didnt really have anything in mind to say just chat. She didnt seem to want me to get off the phone but eventually said ok it was really nice to hear your voice again. I said it was nice to chat. we followed up with a text each saying how nice it was to speak again and then i sent another one saying i thought it would be awkward but it was actually really nice and easy to talk and she didnt reply. I maybe looked into this a bit much and the next morning i sent her a text saying basically I know i shouldnt send this to you but I really wish I woke up with you in my bed this morning or something along those lines and no reply. I think well that must be it and i dont contact her for two days, as soon as she finished work today i get the text: how are you Danny? X is this just her putting her mind at ease or trying not to feel guilty? I tld her not to feel guilty about it as i don't have bad feelings towards her at all and everyone should go and do what makes them happy or you are cheating yourself. I don't know if to reply or not.
skyisfalling Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 i think its natural for an ex to miss the other person (regardless of who does the dumping). I know my douchebag ex thinks of me even though he went missing after our break up. But I think its important to realize that just because ur ex texted you that they miss you doesn't mean they want to get back with you. I think people want to see the answer they are looking for so bad that they make mountains out of mole hills.. Yes your ex will miss you, yes your ex may call you, or text you, or email you, yes your ex will be thinking of you and will be thinking of all the memories you shared, but the fact is, despite all that they still dont want to continue the relationship with you. Ive been reading your posts, and I know your stronger than this. Let's continue NC and move on with our lives. Lets support and help each other to stop feeling miserable.
Author k100danny Posted June 19, 2012 Author Posted June 19, 2012 Yeah I know i do over think things. I wasn't jumping to the conclusion she wanted to get back together just wondered what might be going through her head. I don't want her to be feeling guilty for moving away and doing what she loves and i do want her to be happy. I am dealing with this a lot better than i thought i would to be honest.
skyisfalling Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 lets take it a day at a time.. we're all here if you need us.
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