LittleMonkey Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 Hey everyone, I could really use your help here.. The story: I've met this amazing girl on a rock concert a couple of weeks ago. I helped her get up. also she fainted and I got her water and stayed with her until she felt better, we hung around there, when she gave me her number, and later we talked alot and I walked her home. I found I had so much in common with her. at the end of the night she gave me a big kiss (I was pleasently overwhelemed) and said to text her when I get home. I was a glorious night. later on we texted (I tried caling and she'd been avoiding that, later explaining she gets embarrased from talking on the phone) and set out to meet a week later. we met on monday (came to her grandma's place where she's staying when in the city) for a brief while because she had a birthday party to go to, we talked and kissed non-stop. The day after that we said we'll meet, and although she had some matters to attend to and she came over to my place really late (with some misunderstandng as to where she was along the way) it was a great night, we kissed alot (some caressing etc) and talked all the time, without a moment of silence. at about 3am she told me I should go to sleep as I had to go to work the day after. she said she'll watch some tv and go to sleep too. at the morning I woke up and she was still watching tv. oh well. still it was a great time. all through she told me she feels it's like a dream, and wondering all the time what's the catch, that I'm amazing etc. I too told her how I felt and that she's so fantastic and beautiful and special to me. We also talked about me coming over to her parents' for the weekend, but you see, I've noticed a thing about her, besides not likeing talking on the phone, she has a habit of 'vanising' and not hearing from her for the entire day. she had a photoshoot on thursday and I triedto call with no reply, even though I saw her responding/liking stuff on facebook. at night she just texted me "I'm exhausted (with a nick she gave me)" I kinda hoped to see her after, but oh well. next day i waited for her to contact me, and went over to my parents as I didn't know whats up with her invitation to her place, as I arrivedshe texted me good morning, and I got she wanted me to come over. I went straight back and on the way texted her to make sure where she's at, and apparently she wasn't at all in the city, but went with the family to visit her brother, and didn't know when she's coming back. After waiting, a little furstrated, I wen back to my parents', when she told me in the evening she just came back (to her parents) I asked if I can come over, she said she'll ask but then she vanished again. She really liked my drawings when i showed her some and asked for one, so I used the time to make her. saturday she said she's going again to her brother for the day, and at the evening her mother made her clean her room and wouldn't allow her to meet me, even tough she told her entire family about me and how cool I am. I sent her the drawing and she was so thrilled and amazed... she put the drawing on facebook and tagged me and her. later we talked on the phone for about an hour (a rare case with her). we talked about meeting on sunday for a movie and the days after too. even though she's going to a 1 month trip to Australia next week. she told me she used to be very excited about it but now is bummed because I'll be away from her, and that we'll talk every day on skype. Now here's another bit, she reckognized me from some time ago, on my facebook she saw I used to be one of her girl-friend's boyfriend (my ex) but tole me she didn't mind, finder's keepers she said. on sunday I texted her about tickets for the movie and she told me "btw, I talked to (the ex)" she wrote she didn't know that the breakup was fresh, I got really nervous, called her and she answered, I asked her if she doesn't want us to be togather because of it, and she said no way, that it's ok (as far as I understood) and that she's busy preparing for the trip so talk later. nearing the evening I texted her asking when she's coming over so we'll go to the movie, and got a real late reply, "I want to cry, am I not gonna see you this week?!?!" trid to call, ignored, so I texted, and said what's up? she said she's in a lot of pressure from the trip and still at her parents', started packing and has a ton of things to take care of. I told her if she's not gonna make it to a date, she could at least tell me upfront. she said she doesn't know herself. at the end I told her its ok, and that i miss her. she said that she feels the same and it's furstrating she can't find the time to do what she wants the most (to see me) next day, monday, I waited, and tried to call her in the afternoon, again with no reply, and at the evening I asked her on text what's up, and how's the pressure levels, she said still hectic and that she has work the next day on top of that. I asked her if everytings alright and did my ex say something to upset her, she said hell no, that she has so many things to do before the trip. I asked about the weekend, she said she'll try to make time, and I asked if even through all the pressure aren't there a few minutes for me? she said on the weekend, and i said I meant to talk on the phone. no reply there. Bear in mind that I saw her writing/liking/commenting on facebook etc some times through the day, and online at the evening. I fear I've been too needy, and thinking I'll lay back now, I've bugged her enough.. sorry for the scroll, what do you think? have I messed it up? do I still have a chance? She's really amazing, I just don't know what's up with her... Thanks!
Eddie Edirol Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 I think your lady here got turned off possibly because your ex might have told her why she dumped you, some reason you didnt already know. So she isnt busy, she just got some inside information. So you cant re-attract her if you dont know what exchange happened between them. You will have to let this one go.
NYC-BigKat Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 I think your lady here got turned off possibly because your ex might have told her why she dumped you, some reason you didnt already know. So she isnt busy, she just got some inside information. So you cant re-attract her if you dont know what exchange happened between them. You will have to let this one go. Yup she isn't interested no more & wont say why. Who knows? Girls so so funny sometimes . 1
KathyM Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 I think two things are going against you in this: 1) Your ex probably said something negative about you, and although this girl may have tried to brush it off at first, it's starting to sink in; 2) you are coming on too strong and too needy and demanding, and it's starting to suffocate her. You need to back off. 1
AverageJoe80 Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 I'm in the same boat, my friend. I hit it off really fast with someone recently, but she wants to slow it down. I've been trying, it's tough when you're in love though. If you want to be with this person, you gotta slow it down some. That's what I'm doing and it's working . So far, so good. Just try to not get all worked up.
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