Heatemyheart89 Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 I was with my ex for over a year on and off. Wasn't the best relationship but we did care for each other. Now he has a new girlfriend and is happy. I'm finding it hard to cope. He keeps saying how pretty she is etc and how lucky he is. He wants to stay friends to ' help me through bad times'( I've been really down lately) but it just feels like he pities me (which he has admitted). I just don't know what to do with myself. I feel so jealous he has moved on even though I shouldn't. Anyone got any tips on how to feel better. I've really been wallowing lately .
Philosoraptor Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 I'd say first to stop contacting the ex as that is surely bring you down. After that you pull that focus off of him and put it on yourself and figuring out what you want out of this world. That's a good starting point.
LovelyDaze Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 Cut. Him. Off. If you are already going through a bad time, you don't need the fuzziness of your ex's relationship to put a dagger in your heart any further. Find other friends and family to help you get through rough patches in your life. You must admit to yourself that you only want to keep ex as a "friend" in hopes he will see you as a great girl and go back to you. Don't do that to yourself. do you like how you are feeling right now? If you do, allow your ex to add further pain by eventually talking about their wonderful sex life, what they went to do on Saturday night, his plans for a life with her. Feels good? No? Let him go. Give some distance and go NC until you couldn't give one little damn who he is dating. That's when you can be friends. Until then, his presence is hurting you.
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